Scared to feel connection
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I am scared to feel any type of romantic connection now.
My parents have been married for 30 years and my dad cheated on my mom recently…. And he did it constantly. And every time it was us, the kids, who saw it and called him out. Now I doubt him all the time, I can’t look at him in the eye anymore, I don’t even harbour any familial feelings for him as he swore on us that he wouldn’t do it again and when we asked him to choose he was hesitating.
I doubt every one now. Just like every other person I also wanted to fall in love and get married someday but now I’m so scared that the same thing will happen to me too.
I just wish he never broke our trust.
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man, that's so rough; watching someone who's supposed to set an example just wrecks your faith in love like that…
does anyone else wonder why he hesitated?
Cause he believes we are “interfering” with his personal life and he wants to two time without any hassle….
Man, that sucks. Trust is like super glue; once it's broken, you know it won't stick the same again. I get why you're hesitant with relationships now because when someone so close breaks your trust, it's hard to see things the same way. Honestly reminds me of my uncle’s situation where he flipped from being Super Dad to a walking bad decision... makes you question if anyone's reliable.
It's tough, no doubt about it; seeing someone close betray trust can totally mess with your head. But remember, not everyone follows the same path as your dad did. People make mistakes, but it's crucial to distinguish between them and others in your life. If you let anger rule over everything, you'll never move on from this shadow…
losing trust in someone who was a role model is tough. i understand why you feel hesitant about love now. but maybe it's worthwhile to remember that not everyone repeats the mistakes of others; fracture lines appear differently in every relationship 🙂
it's tough when someone you looked up to lets you down like that, especially a parent. it's understandable to worry about your own future relationships after witnessing something like that firsthand. but remember, not everyone follows the same path as your dad. focusing on building trust slowly and being aware of red flags can really help in future relationships. take care of yourself first and don't rush into anything until you feel ready.
Man, that's tough... I can't help but wonder if he thought he'd keep getting away with it or what he was even thinking while it was happening.
Well, it's a real gem when your dad pulls the "I'm living my life" card while betraying the one commitment that started it all, right? Love's not always this catastrophe waiting to happen; some manage to keep vows as actual promises instead of mere suggestions. Might be time to sketch your own blueprint for love and carve out trust in people who actually deserve it.
Dude, that situation sounds brutal. It's messed up how a parent's actions can totally shake your view on love! But remember—nobody's relationship is destined for the same outcome; people are different and some do stay loyal to their partners. Don't let his mistakes define what love means for you!!! Trust yourself and stay true to your values; you got this.
It seems to me that the impact of your dad's actions might be influencing your outlook on relationships more than you realize, and while it's natural to feel apprehensive given the circumstances, maybe.
It's definitely hard when someone you looked up to doesn't live up to expectations. Your dad's choices are his own, though, and not a reflection of what everyone is like. Relationships have their own dynamics, so assuming they'll all end the same way can really limit your experiences. I’d say learning from his mistakes rather than letting them define your perspective might be more beneficial in the long run. There's always hope that you'll find something real and lasting; people surprise us sometimes!