Vent sesh

It's truly disheartening to hear what you're going through and I can only imagine how mentally exhausting this must be 😞.

it's heartbreaking to see someone you trust do something like this, especially when you've been together for so long and built a life with them; i think it's important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings so maybe you can both figure out the reasons behind his actions and decide if moving forward is possible.

ugh, i'm really sorry you're going through this 😔 but honestly, checking his messages might not have been the best move; it seems to have spiraled things even more. don't get me wrong, trust is crucial in any relationship: the lack of it can be so damaging. but i feel like addressing things calmly could’ve helped (though i totally understand how emotions get the better of us sometimes!). plus, it's ironic that when confronted, some people deflect blame or go on the defensive…what's up with that?!

you know, i've seen something similar happen to a friend of mine. they went through a rough patch but eventually managed to sit down and talk things out without pointing fingers. maybe getting professional help (like couple's therapy) could shed light on why he’s seeking attention elsewhere? remember, it’s not just about you being good enough (cuz you definitely are!), but also about him being honest and figuring out if he's ready for what you both committed to.

also, kids pick up on tension super fast 😢 i'd suggest trying to keep them out of grown-up issues as much as possible... though easier said than done! anyway, hope you're looking after yourself 'cause dealing with all this stress is no joke 🙏

seriously, it's mind-blowing how some people claim love but act the complete opposite 😤 - showing zero respect for the commitment or your feelings and adding insult to injury by shifting blame is beyond twisted.

Wow, that's such a tough situation to be in; can't help but feel for you. It's wild how someone can just throw away years of trust and commitment for fleeting moments of whatever that is… they don't even realize what they're jeopardizing. 🥺 Dealing with someone who's constantly giving excuses and putting the blame on you isn’t fair or respectful at all. I've known people who've been in similar boats, and it's like they start questioning everything, from self-worth to the future; it totally messes with your head. Stay strong for your kids though... they need you more than ever now. Hope things get better!

man, that's rough, i feel for you. sometimes people just don't appreciate what they have until it's gone and it sounds like you're dealing with a boatload of hurt right now; it's tough having your trust broken like that especially after 13 years. guess the only silver lining is you found out and can start figuring out what's next: whether that's working things out or moving on for the sake of your sanity and those kiddos who need happy parents. whatever you decide to do, make sure you're looking after yourself too, yeah? hang in there!

Honestly, it sounds like a pretty messed up situation you're in. Trust issues can really pull the rug from under you and with all those years invested, it's understandable why this would sting so much. But here's the kicker: do you think that maybe addressing these issues head-on with a mediator or counselor might help? Sometimes having an unbiased third party can bring clarity to what seems like an endless loop of pain and blame. Just a thought! 🤷‍♂️

Damn, that's rough. I don't get how some people can just throw everything away like that for a bit of excitement or whatever 🙄. It’s good you stood up for yourself, though! Have you thought about what the next step is gonna be? Like, are you planning to give him another chance, or is it game over for you two?

ugh, that's such a tough spot to be in 😞. trust is such a cornerstone of any relationship, especially after 13 years and with kids involved, it must feel like a huge betrayal!! communication could help you both figure out what he wants and if there's any way forward... but it's so important to take care of yourself too!!! sometimes people act without considering the full impact on their loved ones: maybe time apart to think things through might bring some clarity? you've got a lot on your plate right now, but stay strong 💪... you're clearly being the best parent you can be amid all this. sending virtual hugs your way ❤️.

considering the circumstances, it seems like reacting in such an intense manner might not have been the most effective approach...you could perhaps benefit from addressing this situation in a calm and collected way to truly understand his motivations and decide on your next steps with a clear head! ;-)

Have you considered diving into some self-reflection to figure out why you're still holding onto this relationship despite repeatedly facing betrayal?

man, that sounds like a crazy rollercoaster you're on right now. it's rough when someone you trust just throws away all those years for what seems like nothing more than a thrill or some temporary excitement; honestly, you got every right to feel mad and confused. one thing that popped into my head is maybe sitting down and telling him exactly how his actions have been weighing on your self-esteem and confidence could be worth doing; sometimes people don’t realize the full impact of their choices until it’s put in front of them plain as day. whether y’all try to work through it or decide to go separate ways, your feelings are valid and deserve to be heard. keep doing what’s best for you, especially with kids involved–that's gotta be hard trying to juggle everything!

man, that's a tough spot to be in, and it sucks when someone you care about messes with your head like that. it's wild how folks can risk everything for a cheap thrill or temporary high.... like, what's even the point if it's gonna hurt their family? maybe it'll help if you take some time for yourself to process things away from the chaos. sometimes stepping back gives you clarity on what you truly want, whether that's working through this or moving on solo. anyways, keep doing what's best for you and those little ones; they deserve happiness too! 💪

yo this is a crapstorm, no doubt. maybe he's caught in some midlife crisis nonsense where he thinks texting other women is his ticket to adventure or validation..... whatever it is, it's sketchy as hell and he's playing with fire while your patience just went up in smoke; truth is, real fulfillment doesn't come from shady texts. honestly though, the whole "just jokes" excuse? sounds like a lame cover-up that nobody's buying. if you ask me, dude needs to get his priorities straight before he pisses away something solid; like why waste years on someone who clearly doesn't respect boundaries? maybe it's time for him to face reality: you're right there trying to make things work and ensure stability for your family while juggling emotional chaos!! and it's gonna take more than weak explanations to patch things up. think about what you want for yourself 'cause putting all this behind might be better for everyone involved including those lil' ones stuck in the middle of adult drama. 🤨

yo, that's a seriously raw deal you're facing. gotta say, it sounds like he's just not respecting everything you two have built together... 13 years isn't something to brush off lightly! maybe it's time to focus on yourself and the kids for a while...give your heart some space to breathe? sometimes stepping back can show you what really matters and whether this relationship is worth another shot or if it's time to cut your losses and find happiness elsewhere. don't let his actions define your self-worth, okay? at the end of the day, you're doing an amazing job keeping things real for those kiddos!! they're lucky to have you holding down the fort amidst all this chaos!!!

dang, that's a tough ride. it sounds like you've been dealing with some heavy stuff for quite a while now, especially with the kids and everything else going on; it's hard to comprehend how someone would risk a long-term relationship for just some momentary thrill 🤔. maybe he doesn't realize the gravity of his actions, or maybe he's taking things for granted? but either way, it's not fair to you or the kids; you've got every right to feel hurt and question his commitment. it might be worth thinking about what truly matters most to you at this point... whether that's setting clear boundaries or finding ways to rebuild trust if that's something you're willing to consider. whatever you choose, make sure it aligns with your values and brings peace in your life ❤️

it's honestly baffling how someone can risk a long-lasting relationship for some meaningless texts, especially knowing the pain it causes; but do you think it's possible that he doesn't fully grasp how severely this is affecting your self-esteem and trust?

man, your situation sounds like it's straight out of a soap opera, and that level of betrayal is just unreal; i mean, how do ppl even justify throwing away all those years with someone they've built so much with.. especially when there are kids in the picture? seems like trust has been shaken hard here – could diving into some self-care or therapy help you navigate through this emotional mess? sometimes professional guidance can offer a new perspective and help rebuild what's been broken, if that's what you want. looking at it from another angle: have you ever asked him why he thinks these "jokes" are worth risking everything for? 🤔 maybe getting to the root cause could shed light on things and guide whatever decision you make next.

I've got to say, this scenario definitely sounds intense. It seems like your partner may not understand the repercussions of his actions; maybe he considers it harmless fun, but it's clear from your story how deeply it's affecting you and the trust in your relationship. Now, I don't want to jump to conclusions, but have you considered seeking a third-party mediator or counselor? Sometimes having that neutral ground can facilitate an open dialogue without either party getting too defensive or dismissive; I'm reminded of when my friend went through something similar, and counseling helped them understand each other better. While it might not be a magical fix-all solution, it could pave the way for genuine communication—after all, clarity is crucial before deciding whether to mend bridges or move forward solo.