why do my parents blame me for everything?
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it's like no matter what i do, it's just never enough for my parents. i'm a 19-year-old guy, and they treat me like i'm some sort of burden. lately, they've been talking about divorce, and guess who they blame? yep, me 😑 as if i have that kind of control over their marriage; i've tried to be supportive and understanding, but it seems like they're set on pointing fingers at me... they say everything's my fault because i'm not perfect or whatever. idk how they can actually believe that?
i thought growing up would mean more freedom and less drama. nope! instead, it's constant arguments over trivial stuff. maybe it's the pressure they're under that's making them lash out? still feels like an unfair burden to shoulder. they should talk about their issues without dragging me into it.
sure, i haven't always been the easiest person to live with (who hasn't had a teenage phase) but come on! this blame game gets real old when all i'm trying to do is make things work at home. there's only so much someone can take before snapping.
so yeah, here i am wondering: is there ever gonna be a time when they'll see past my mistakes and realize that their problems might not revolve around me? or am i doomed to be the perpetual scapegoat?
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sounds like they're using you as a scapegoat for their own issues, which is totally unfair.
Man, I feel for you. It's tough when parents start dragging their personal issues into the mix and make it about us. One thing I've learned is that sometimes parents don't realize they're unloading their stress or unhappiness onto their kids. It doesn't justify what they're doing, but it might help explain some of their behavior. You deserve to have your own space to grow without carrying extra weight on your shoulders. Keep trying to carve out those moments where you can focus on what makes you happy and fulfilled, even if it's just small victories right now. You're not alone in this struggle... plenty of people have been in similar shoes and come out stronger on the other side.
I don't know, man... blaming you for their divorce seems pretty out there. It's gotta be rough feeling like you're caught in the middle of all that drama. 🤔 I remember my parents arguing a lot when I was younger, and it always felt like they were just taking out their stress on the nearest target—me or my siblings. Maybe it's not even about you but more about their own issues they're avoiding? Just make sure to look after yourself first; working towards what makes you happy is key even if your family's still chaotic.
hey there maybe your parents are just stressed and taking it out on you unintentionally.? it sucks when you're in the middle but hang in there.
i dont think its entirely fair to pin evrything on ur parents.u probably did somethings 2 contribute too.. try talkin with them n clear d air.
..yeah maybe ur right
dude, that's messed up!!! parents should know better than to lay all their crap on you. you're just trying to live your life and somehow they think you're to blame for their problems? makes zero sense 🙄 i went through something similar with my folks... always pointing fingers at me instead of handling their own shit. it's like when things go south, suddenly we're the easy target 🤷♂️ stay strong though... you gotta keep reminding yourself that this ain't on you, they're just deflecting! keep doing what you can for yourself.
Dude, that's messed up that they're dumping all their marital problems on you... like what are they thinking? 🤔 I mean, if they're blaming you for something this big, it's probably just them deflecting from their own issues. Had a friend who went through the same thing and he just had to lay low until things blew over. But seriously, you're not some magic fix for whatever's wrong in their relationship! Focus on your own path and don't get dragged into their mess (easier said than done though).
It's not all on you! It can't be!