Why do we do and say dumb things in an emotional breakdown?

Addition: And I'm turning 17. 17 and I'm the eldest sibling!!! I should me mature and composed and yet I'm still acting like a child.

man, that sounds like a tough night 😞 sometimes parents just don’t get how serious things are and react in ways that make it worse. you're young and dealing with a lot, it's normal to feel overwhelmed. remember, everyone makes mistakes, and it's never too late to try to have a calm conversation with your family about how you’re feeling. maybe try writing them a letter if talking is too hard right now? hope your birthday brings something good your way!

I'm truly sorry to hear about the distressing situation you experienced. It's understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially when emotions are running high and communication breaks down; these moments can be incredibly challenging. It's important to remember that everyone handles stress differently and sometimes parents might not know the best way to support us. Consider this a learning opportunity for both you and your family. Perhaps with time, you can all find a way to openly discuss emotions and seek a supportive understanding. Remember, you are not alone in feeling this way, and there is always hope for resolving conflicts through patience and understanding.

yo, that sounds really rough;;; it sucks how sometimes when you just need a moment alone, everything feels like it's crashing down harder; i’ve been in spots where i felt like my emotions were like a storm and any attempt to explain them made it worse. sounds like your dad was coming from a place of not understanding rather than being supportive;; have you tried talking to him when things are more chilled out? sometimes parents don't get it right away but they can come around. hope things mellow out so you can enjoy your birthday in some way!!!

hey, that really sucks 😔 it's rough when family doesn't understand how you feel. i’ve been through my fair share of ups and downs with my parents too, and sometimes they just don't know how to handle it. birthdays can feel extra heavy when things are tense, but remember, you're doing your best in a tough situation. maybe try giving yourself some space to breathe and figure out what you need right now. wishing you find some peace on your birthday! 🎂

It's really tough when emotions and misunderstandings collide, especially with family, but growth comes from these painful moments; hoping your birthday gives you a fresh start to communicate and heal together.

Wow, that really sucks 😞 It's like you're caught in a storm of emotions with no umbrella. Your dad's approach just doesn't seem helpful at all - it's tough when those who should support us don't seem to get it; crying isn't a weakness and bottling things up just makes it worse. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, especially on the brink of your birthday when everything’s supposed to be about celebration and joy. Don't beat yourself up too much; you’re navigating some pretty choppy waters, and nobody gets everything right immediately. Maybe down the line, things will ease up and you can talk this through with your family more calmly 🤞

I understand you a lot I went through similar things, but it was with my mother. now I'm also 17 and I don't talk to her anymore it's kinda difficult. (we live apart) .

you seem like you're not looking forward to life, and I understand it a lot, I also still struggle with my s*icidal throughs, trough it's far more lesser then it used to be, it didn't go away just from being apart from my family.

I also regret saying horrible things out of emotional instability, but i think my mother felt the same way, so I'm sure your father also regrets yelling at you judging from his reaction afterwards, but you'll be a better judge of that.The old generation is hard to talk to but I hope it'll work out with your father.

trust your heart don't be scared or ashamed to talk about your feelings, maturity is not what we should be searching for right now in my opinion, it should come naturally over the years so don't beat yourself over it and trust me the future is more lovely then you might think, maybe we wouldn't archive much but I hope we'll enjoy our life as it's, so don't trow it away like that, even trough it's sure is tempting.

I heard somewhere that s*icide is permanent solution to temporary problems which I thought was BS, but things do change, for better, at some point.

it's tough when we expect ourselves to be the perfect older sibling and end up feeling more like a burden, but remember everyone has their breaking points; in my experience, birthdays can magnify these emotions because of all the expectations.

Man, I can totally see how rough that must've been for you; feeling like everything's piling up right when you just need some space is beyond frustrating. It's tough when parents respond in ways that feel more hurtful than helpful, especially during a moment when you're already vulnerable. When I had a similar situation with my family, it took time, but talking in small doses really helped me create some understanding; maybe after a bit of cooling off, you could find a moment to share how you've been feeling with them without all the high emotions. Remember, we all have our breaking points and that's not something to be ashamed of. You're doing your best in a tough situation and as you turn 17, give yourself credit for managing all this; hoping your birthday gives you at least one good reason to smile!

i'm really sorry you went through such a challenging ordeal. it's tough when parental guidance doesn't align with what you need emotionally, especially during depressive episodes. some might argue that your father's reaction stems from a generational misunderstanding of mental health, where stoicism is mistakenly seen as strength. yet, vulnerability often requires more courage than hiding emotions. considering opening up a dialogue with them about expressing feelings constructively; focusing on education around emotional intelligence could be beneficial for all of you. in the interim, perhaps seeking external support like counselling can provide you clarity and strategies to navigate these family dynamics more effectively.

Dealing with family misunderstandings can be really draining, especially when emotions run high. It's clear you're dealing with complex feelings right now and that's perfectly okay. Once things calm down, maybe writing a letter to your dad could help express your thoughts without the pressure of an immediate response. It helped me once during a tense situation; gave me room to organize my feelings and also allowed them time to process before talking again. I hope you find some peace on your birthday.

it's disheartening how your personal crisis coincided with a fundamental lack of empathy from your family. when family dynamics fail to foster open communication, the situation compounds the distress you're already experiencing. the mental health stigma, particularly around expressing vulnerability as weakness, is pervasive and deeply ingrained in older generations, creating a substantial barrier to effective dialogue. remember, your feelings are valid even if they're difficult for others to comprehend; you owe no apology for experiencing them. consider seeking a neutral third-party like a therapist to help mediate and guide these conversations, ultimately facilitating an environment where understanding and acceptance can begin to flourish.

Seems like your old man just can't handle emotions and expects everyone else to do the same, but it's pretty messed up for him to think smashing things and yelling is gonna solve anything.

you know, it sucks that you went through such a rough patch and your family didn't handle it well. still, it's worth remembering that people don't always react the way we need them to because they're dealing with their own stuff, too. maybe your dad doesn't get how hard this is for you right now, but hopefully, with time and calm conversations, things can start improving bit by bit. hang in there; those rough days are only temporary blips on the radar!!

Seeking professional guidance may pave the way towards open discourse and mutual acceptance ❤️