why its always me who is not enough for anyone

wow, i totally understand where you're coming from and i'm sorry you're dealing with this. societal norms about family dynamics can be so rigid, placing unfair burdens on the eldest child that can really warp your sense of self-worth. you’ve been navigating an environment where your emotional labor is undervalued, which only perpetuates feelings of inadequacy; family and romantic obligations can be overwhelming and emotionally taxing, especially when there is a lack of reciprocity. your story illustrates the harsh reality of being expected to sacrifice your well-being for a semblance of family harmony. it's clear that you're caught in a problematic cycle of people's expectations versus your own emotional needs. it seems like there's a persistent pattern where your efforts are consistently unreciprocated, which is incredibly unfair.

so, i get that you're having a rough time, but it sounds like you've been putting way too much pressure on yourself to keep everything perfect for everybody else. ever think that you might be playing the martyr a little bit? putting yourself last all the time isn't sustainable. even superheroes need a break. is it really everyone else who's the problem, or might it be that you need to set some boundaries? taking responsibility for your own happiness is a great first step; maybe start there and see how it changes things 😊

wow, i totally feel you on this, it sounds like you're in a tough spot, juggling all those responsibilities and not getting any appreciation. it's a lot like when my older sister had to take on a similar role in our family; she was always the go-to person and it wore her down. it’s really not cool that your family and even this so-called love interest can’t see the amazing effort you put in. ever heard the phrase, "you can't pour from an empty cup"? it might be time for you to find ways to fill your own cup, like taking up a hobby or reconnecting with supportive friends. but hey, don't lose hope, things can get better and you’ve got the power to change your situation.

reading this, it's hard not to feel that there's a bit of self-sabotage going on; it sounds like you're stuck in a perpetual "hero" role at the expense of your own needs. this whole "eldest child syndrome" where you're put on a pedestal of expectations is tough, but it's your job to set boundaries as an adult now. the thing is, people will keep taking advantage if you always let them. even that person you thought loved you came back after five years and still left. maybe it's time to reassess what you let slide in relationships, both family and romantic, instead of just taking the blame. saying "i don’t want this responsibility" doesn’t make you selfish, it makes you human.

it is evident that your narrative resonates with the experiences of many individuals burdened by familial expectations; these pressures can indeed be quite overwhelming. the characterization of your role as the "protector" seems demanding and thankless. your feelings are entirely valid, considering the significant emotional investment made. while one might question if perpetual self-sacrifice is sustainable, recognizing your situation is a valuable first step. perhaps exploring new ways to communicate your needs within these relationships might offer some relief 😊

sounds like you're carrying a heavy load, and it’s unfortunate when familial obligations overshadow personal happiness. reminds me of my cousin who always had to play the responsible one while everyone else got free passes. when you grow up under constant pressure to be the "strong one," it can feel like an endless cycle. "no one ever asked me if i really want all this" resonates strongly; in many families, the eldest must shoulder these burdens, often unnoticed. perhaps it's time to reassess why these roles persist and how they impact your life. finding a balance between duty and self-care might be essential, although i understand it's easier said than done.

it seems like you're in a predicament many can relate to, feeling like you're always the one sacrificing. having been in a similar position with my own family, i understand the weight it carries. the expectation to be the one who holds it all together can be overwhelming. perhaps the roles and responsibilities have been unevenly distributed, leading to feelings of resentment. in my experience, expressing your needs and setting boundaries, although daunting, can often lead to positive change. you deserve to be heard and understood too.

seriously, it’s rough when you're the one always blamed, and it sounds like your family isn’t pulling their weight. ever think maybe they're just taking advantage of your sense of duty? it’s like you’re their safety net without any appreciation; maybe it's time to cut the slack and let them handle their own messes. not trying to preach, but it might be time for some self-care and drawing a line. you can't keep going on like this, and it's not fair. you deserve better than being called selfish and emotionless. make sure you take care of yourself first 👍

wow, i really get where you're coming from and it's just rough. nobody likes feeling like they're carrying the world on their shoulders!!! being the older sibling can be so draining when you're expected to keep it all together and always put others first; you deserve recognition for all you do. it’s okay to say enough is enough and look out for yourself. remember, self-love is super important, and it's okay to put yourself first sometimes💪 hang in there and know that things can really get better!!

man, that sounds like a rollercoaster of emotions and it’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed with all that pressure. being expected to always be the strong one is just too much sometimes. you really deserve to be seen and heard, not just expected to handle everything on your own. it's crazy that they don't realize how much you sacrifice for them; maybe taking a step back and looking out for yourself could be a game-changer. you totally need to put yourself first sometimes, and it's okay to do that. hang in there, and know that focusing on your own happiness is totally worth it.

Hey, I just wanted to say that your strength is truly remarkable in the face of all these challenges. It takes a lot to keep going when it feels like the world is against you. Remember, self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary for survival. It's okay to put yourself first sometimes and let others carry their own weight. You deserve love and respect, not just from others but from yourself as well. Stay strong and keep pushing through; brighter days are ahead! 💪

The struggles you've described resonate deeply, revealing an unsettling pattern where your needs and feelings are consistently overshadowed by the demands placed on you; it can be disheartening when those around us fail to appreciate or reciprocate our efforts, especially when we've internalized that sense of responsibility from such a young age.

hey, i totally feel for you and that's a heavy load to carry. it's rough when the people who should be your support end up being a source of stress instead 😔 seems like there's a bad cycle where you're always giving but not getting much in return? being strong doesn't mean you have to put up with everything without seeking balance; maybe finding small ways to reclaim some control could help, even if it’s just little changes here and there. sometimes it helps to remember that you’re not defined by what others think or expect from you; you're way more than that. sending good vibes your way!