Am I the problem after all?...
The story
Am I the problem? I've been asking that question all day. Every time I feel like I'm helping/trying too or protecting/caring for my friends/people it seems to never work or I cause problems more, more stress and more drama. Sometimes I don't even mean to hurt I'm just trying to fix things
maybe it some weird thing I do but every time I do something I think/Be live is right or helping it doesn't seem to work out and in the end I lose people more or I end up making wounds bigger and deeper. I've lost friendships and relationships to my "mess ups" so I get hated or hurt myself because I don't mean harm, sometimes I can be a lot but really all I want to do is heal and care for people, maybe I'm to "helpful" maybe I "cause the drama" maybe I'm not supposed to help and maybe I'm meant to be something different. I want to be happy and help others find the joy I found but maybe I've got it all wrong maybe people don't need me or want help and maybe I'm trying to fill some void that's been empty for years.
in the posses of "helping" You end up losing more than you "gain" overall...
To anyone who knows me/finds this. I'm so flipping sorry for trying to be something you don't need. I'm sorry for making it worse. you can fight me, hate me, say whatever you want to because clearly I'm meant to have a different story then I thought.
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not being understood when you're just trying to help can be really frustrating. it's like the saying, "the road to hell is paved with good intentions." i've had my fair share of moments where my well-intended actions didn't pan out the way I hoped. sometimes it's all about reading the room and figuring out what people really need; instead of charging in with solutions, maybe try asking them first if they want help or just a listening ear.
in the world of interpersonal relations, communication is the key tool. it's 100% normal to feel like you're not getting it right every time. mistakes are just learning opportunities in disguise, aren't they? listen more, and observe the dynamics of your relationships closely. with time, you'll learn to gauge when to step in and when to hold back. you're on the right track by reflecting and re-evaluating your approach. keep going, and remember that your desire to help is fundamentally a positive thing! 👍 you're growing and hopefully finding better ways to connect with others.
oh wow, I feel you! 😅 it's hard when your help feels like it's backfiring. you know what they say, "no good deed goes unpunished." i mostly get that your intentions are good, but maybe you're missing the mark somewhere. think about it; maybe your approach is too intense for some people? sometimes stepping back rather than jumping in is what’s needed 🤷♂️
you gotta assess the situation before diving into 'fix-it' mode. relationships are complex, and not everyone needs or wants help all the time. also, gotta remember communication's key, man! ever tried just asking them? a simple "do you wanna talk, or do you want advice?" can go a long way. honestly, it's great you care enough to reflect; that says a lot about you. stay hopeful—you're learning, and that's what counts! 💪
man, I feel you. 😕 it's like you're trying to help but end up making things worse; reminds me of the saying, "no good deed goes unpunished." been there myself, trying to assist and just getting backlash instead. could be that not everyone wants or needs your help, you know? sometimes people just want to vent without having someone swoop in to "fix" things.
maybe it's time to reevaluate your approach? like, consider if people actually need your help or if you’re just filling your own void. just saying, sometimes less is more. being too helpful can come off as overbearing; maybe step back and listen more. you're not alone in this, but yeah, think about how you can change things up so it doesn't keep happening. 🤔
hey, I get that you're feeling like this, but I gotta disagree a little with your view. it sounds like you’re really trying to help folks, which is great, but are you maybe overthinking it?? sometimes we assume people want fixing when they just need a friend to hang with. i’ve made that mistake before, thinking I was saving the day, but really, I was just stressing myself out and them. 😅
you can't always blame yourself when things go sideways. everyone has their own stuff going on and sometimes it's not about your actions at all. ever thought about just chillin’ and seeing if they ask for help?? just be there for them, you know. it's cool you're reflecting on this; just don’t spiral into thinking you’re always the problem. balance it out, and you might see things a bit differently. keep doing you, but maybe mix it up so you don't feel like this all the time.