Anxiety problems
The story
Hey so idk if this is just a hormonal feeling but lately it's getting hard for me to talk to my own friends about how I feel. I heard so many times on social media that people's friends are so sick of their friends venting to them. And I'm kinda scared and tbh last time I vented it felt like it got so brushed aside so easily. I feel like I'm being annoying. At school i use to just do stupid things with my friends but after I found out my crush said I was annoying and someone (who's pretty) said I don't stand a chance with them repeatly. Even my dad always said means things to me like being stupid or useless. I got kind of use to his mockery. When he found out I liked them he just said I wasn't good enough for them. I feel like social media is too blame as well but now I feel like I lost confidence in myself and my interest. especially at social events one of my friend's is very social so they usually sit with alot of people and idk how to include myself without feeling suffocated or childish. My problems feel so irrelevant and stupid to others.
But I still want to know how to get rid of this feeling because I feel like I'm pushing my friends away and I really don't want to end up alone.
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I can relate to what you’re saying, and it’s valid to feel that way. And it's normal to worry about what people and you’re friends think about you.
But you shouldn’t be afraid to vent to your friends, and if they make you feel bad for being brave and sharing something to them, they should’ve be your friends. People that mock others are often very insecure themself, and is faking confidence.
You’re dad should absolutely not talk down to you and make you feel «less than» any other person. That is childish and insecure behaviour, and you should tell him that saying such things makes you feel bad. If he still ignores or mocks you, you should try to ignore him, and see if you find any trusted adults (correct me if I’m wrong that you’re a minor) to tell them about what’s been weighing you down.
Your interests is valid no matter what they are, no matter how «weird» they are. It makes a person 100% more interesting to have something unique they are know a lot about / are good at. That is something you are going to notice as you get older, that the nicest and most pleasant people are all a bit weird. And you should be around people that accept and embrace your uniqueness. That makes life much easier than pretending to be someone you’re not. You will always find someone that appreciates you for you, just give it some time.
Hope you got something out of my rambling:) It's not easy growing up, but you don’t have to worry about ending up alone. Be as interested in other people as they are in you, and you will fond some amazing people.
I ment «shouldn’t» be your friends😅 Hope that was clear
yo, totally get where you're coming from. sounds like you've got some tough folks around you; it ain't easy dealing with negative comments, especially from fam and supposed friends. school can be a real jungle sometimes, right? but here's the thing: your feelings are hella valid. maybe try finding someone IRL outside your usual circle to talk to? like a counselor or someone you vibe with who isn't mixed up in all the drama. keep being yourself, and don’t let anyone make you feel like less🍀