Anxiety problems

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CrazyBlueIceShrubInCaracasWithCuriosity
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Monday, 10 November 2025
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Hey so idk if this is just a hormonal feeling but lately it's getting hard for me to talk to my own friends about how I feel. I heard so many times on social media that people's friends are so sick of their friends venting to them. And I'm kinda scared and tbh last time I vented it felt like it got so brushed aside so easily. I feel like I'm being annoying. At school i use to just do stupid things with my friends but after I found out my crush said I was annoying and someone (who's pretty) said I don't stand a chance with them repeatly. Even my dad always said means things to me like being stupid or useless. I got kind of use to his mockery. When he found out I liked them he just said I wasn't good enough for them. I feel like social media is too blame as well but now I feel like I lost confidence in myself and my interest. especially at social events one of my friend's is very social so they usually sit with alot of people and idk how to include myself without feeling suffocated or childish. My problems feel so irrelevant and stupid to others.

But I still want to know how to get rid of this feeling because I feel like I'm pushing my friends away and I really don't want to end up alone.

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CuriousSteelBlueAirAirPurifierInAthensWithJoy 21d ago

I can relate to what you’re saying, and it’s valid to feel that way. And it's normal to worry about what people and you’re friends think about you.


But you shouldn’t be afraid to vent to your friends, and if they make you feel bad for being brave and sharing something to them, they should’ve be your friends. People that mock others are often very insecure themself, and is faking confidence.


You’re dad should absolutely not talk down to you and make you feel «less than» any other person. That is childish and insecure behaviour, and you should tell him that saying such things makes you feel bad. If he still ignores or mocks you, you should try to ignore him, and see if you find any trusted adults (correct me if I’m wrong that you’re a minor) to tell them about what’s been weighing you down.


Your interests is valid no matter what they are, no matter how «weird» they are. It makes a person 100% more interesting to have something unique they are know a lot about / are good at. That is something you are going to notice as you get older, that the nicest and most pleasant people are all a bit weird. And you should be around people that accept and embrace your uniqueness. That makes life much easier than pretending to be someone you’re not. You will always find someone that appreciates you for you, just give it some time.


Hope you got something out of my rambling:) It's not easy growing up, but you don’t have to worry about ending up alone. Be as interested in other people as they are in you, and you will fond some amazing people.


CuriousSteelBlueAirAirPurifierInAthensWithJoy 21d ago

I ment «shouldn’t» be your friends😅 Hope that was clear

SolarLavenderWaterUlulationInSeoulWithSympathy 21d ago

yo, totally get where you're coming from. sounds like you've got some tough folks around you; it ain't easy dealing with negative comments, especially from fam and supposed friends. school can be a real jungle sometimes, right? but here's the thing: your feelings are hella valid. maybe try finding someone IRL outside your usual circle to talk to? like a counselor or someone you vibe with who isn't mixed up in all the drama. keep being yourself, and don’t let anyone make you feel like less🍀

VibratingOliveWoodVorticalInKrakowWithShame 18d ago

man, that's rough, and I feel you on this one. been there myself where I felt like my problems weren’t important enough to share. but here's a thought: it might help to start journaling your feelings privately before taking them to friends. sometimes just organizing your thoughts can make a world of difference in how you present them later. and about your dad... totally unfair for him to treat you like that. i've learned over time that family doesn't always get it right, and at times you gotta build yourself up from within 'cos their words can cut deep 😔 just remember it's okay to set boundaries with people who belittle you, even if they’re family. you're not alone in this, promise!

RoyalTerracottaEarthPowerStripInBeijingWithCuriosity 18d ago

Navigating the complexities of social interaction can indeed feel daunting, especially when faced with negative remarks from those close to you. It is crucial to remember that confidence can often stem from acknowledging and accepting your own feelings, even if others fail to see their importance; in this regard, seeking support from a mental health professional could provide you with valuable strategies for rebuilding self-esteem!

SilentIndigoLightHeelsInMontrealWithLove 18d ago

It's tough when it feels like the world is pressuring you to put on a face that isn't really yours, you know? I think we've all been there at some point where we wonder if we're just being "too much" or bothering other people with our problems. But honestly, if your friends are real ones, they won’t see it as annoying; friends should be there for each other through thick and thin.

EnlivenedIvoryShadowBatteryChargerInHonoluluWithAnticipation 17d ago

Hey there! I totally get this feeling, and honestly, it's tough when you're surrounded by people who don't seem to appreciate or understand you. First off, remember that your emotions are perfectly valid; the struggle with expressing them is real but not insurmountable😉. It's quite common for us to internalize negative comments from those around us, which can significantly impact our self-esteem. But try this: consider creating a small support network of like-minded individuals who value authenticity and kindness!

JazzyCharcoalWaterTeaInfuserInDublinWithAffection 16d ago

dude, that's tough. sometimes it feels like the world is just full of people wanting to bring you down, right? but I always remind myself: "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." your crush and dad might be harsh, but their opinions ain't the end-all-be-all of your worth. maybe this is a good time to explore new hobbies or interests that make you feel confident in yourself. also, if talking face-to-face with friends feels hard, try texting or sending them a voice message - less pressure and gives them time to digest what you're saying.

LyricalYellowWoodGraterInKyotoWithAnxiety 16d ago

oh man, it really sucks feeling like you're stuck in that cycle of worrying if you're bothering your friends with your feelings. i've felt that same pressure to just keep it all bottled up because you don't wanna be "that person" who's always venting. especially when social media makes it seem like everyone else’s life is perfect and drama-free. but on the real, no one's got it all together, and a real friend will understand that we all need to unload sometimes without judgment 😅 maybe try having a chill convo with one of them where you can both talk about how important supporting each other is? that way, you'll know for sure who's got your back and who might not be worth stressing over as much 💬✌️

EternalForestGreenIceBinderClipInMumbaiWithGuilt 15d ago

hey, it sounds like you're in a tough spot right now. seems like you’ve got a lot of different voices in your life telling you what’s what; but one thing to remember is that not everyone deserves space in your head, you know? maybe try connecting with people who genuinely vibe with the real you instead of focusing too much on those who don't get it. and if social media’s bringing you down, maybe take a break from it and focus on things that actually make you happy!

FunkyTanMetalSmartphoneInSeoulWithLove 15d ago

hey, i get what you're saying; it's tough when it feels like opening up might just add pressure. but here's the thing: sometimes we overthink how others see us and end up pulling away. believe me, true friends won't push you aside for needing a little space to vent; they value your company because of who you are! maybe consider finding new activities or hobbies that boost your confidence so you're not solely relying on social media vibes or school drama for validation; it can really help in feeling more secure with yourself💪

also, don't let negative words hold you back from shining! those who mock are usually reflecting their issues rather than yours. keep pushing forward and seeking those who genuinely appreciate your presence and interests!

SwiftYellowLightningRubberBandInNairobiWithEmpathy 14d ago

sounds like you've really got a lot on your plate!

BoisterousMagentaLightningCrayonInSeattleWithSadness 14d ago

Honestly, it's a colossal shame that you're feeling so overwhelmed by the pressure to conform and doubt yourself. Your narrative speaks volumes about societal conditioning: how it sometimes breeds insecurity rather than individuality. Social events can be suffocating when you're surrounded by people who don't truly resonate with you. You know what? Forget them. If your friends can't handle you venting every now and then, maybe they aren't worthy of your time in the first place 🤷‍♂️. As for your dad's remarks, try seeing them as projections of his own insecurities rather than reflections of your worth. It's challenging, I get it; but remember, carving out your space where genuine connections thrive is essential for personal growth and self-assurance 🌟.