Unrequited love, i think..?
The story
i have a best friend. She's been my best friend for the longest time after all my friends stopped being friends with me around some year in middle school, if i'm not wrong.
i've felt her love all this years—as a friend, of course. i felt so close to her, almost as if we were siblings. i always felt comfortable around her and just did whatever i want because i felt like she accepted me however i was.
Thing is, after all this long, long years, where things have changed drastically and we're definitely not as close as we used to be....................... i think i like her.
That shouldn't be a problem. Friends tend to fall in love with their friends and that's how they end up marrying and having a family and blah blah blah. It's normal and it should be.
*Should* be, because it's not normal.
We're both girls. And that...... kind of terrifies me.
i have nothing against homosexuals. i love y'all people, would never see a bit of hate from me towards you or anyone else. It's just—
Yeah, i have a faith. And *this*?
This kind of f*cks up everything.
i've dealt with this feeling for *a while* now. Tried to suppress them, tried to understand them, tried to forget about it.......
Nothing works.
It just feels so wrong however i look at it.
i don't like her in a way i can imagine or daydream about us being in a relationship and having a future together—no, i just-- i just want her to be by my side. To be together. As just friends, or a bit something else, in some sense(?). That she does love me back. That it would be mutual. That, even if she has lots more of friends aside from me, at the end of the day she still comes back to hug me and tell me she loves me.
i have never talked to her about this because— first of all, i'm shy, even with her. i've changed and i don't feel as close as we were back then. Just saying all of this here is embarrassing enough, because it feels like admitting something huge and making it *real*—it's scary. i'm doing this only because i'm desperate to let it out and it's anonymous. And, second— HOW THE HELL DO I GO AND TELL HER "hey, i think i like you. Not sure tho but what'd you think"?!! i wouldn't go and say it that way, but in ANY way i say it, i feel like i'm going to ruin a friendship i've taken years on to build, after being left by many and become isolated.
Look, maybe i'm just overly attached to her because she's literally my only friend left (and i feel like this is going to break any time) or idk i'm going through a phase or something. Or maybe i just admire her or something and i'm mistaking it for romantic love??
But every time i look at her—bathed in sunshine, beneath moonlight; under blue skies or a sunset of hues. Even sweating overwhelmed by summer heat or soaked in cold winter rain. She just shines. She's beautiful. She's so damn pretty it hurts. Her smile is something i want for only me. i'm guilty of feeling a little possessive in that way. But especially in the way she speaks—her voice, her words, her gestures. How she feels and how she shows it; in the way she does mundane chores or a complex project of any kind, of anything she's interested in.
i just......... Feel short of words.
i feel so in love that it truly hurts—because i like her, so much, and she seems unreachable... And even if she was at my very reach... It feels incredibly wrong.
i'm scared of ever saying something even slightly related to my feelings to her, because anything and everything feels exposing, from what i do and what i don't.
i just feel so stupid......
Being in love is difficult, i hadn't been in forever... i hate it... But i also lover her so much it kind of numbs the hate... But then i hate to admit it... Damn it...
Also, do i have to actually put that question it tells me to put at the end...?
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mate, sounds like you're in a tough spot but love ain't gonna play by your rules just cause it can't 🤷♂️ maybe slow down and figure out what you really want before diving deep into something that might mess with both your heads.
Not to say we're the same, but this is the exact story that I feel for my best friend. You basically are my doppelganger but I think older, maybe? I relate to this so much and I understand how hard it is, this is the same thing that I have for my friend. But coming from me, I just wish she could understand it from my side, so she could see it in my shoes. Its the exact same experience, well--almost. I have always had love for her either in a friendship way or in a romantic way. I think we can agree that we both don't know how to navigate any of this, so we think and think and THINK about it--and yet nothing ever happens. But to be honest, this kind of does sound like its coming from her side of the story, but In my mind I'm pretty sure she's not the one who wrote this. She has always cared for me and has always been there for me but I know that she probably doesn't feel the same way. You are right about all of this, because I have the exact same experience (apart from the fact I've always been lez), and I'm still in middle school trying to navigate all this without messing something up. If I knew who you are, we would probably be talking nonstop about how similar our experiences are. Thank you so much for sharing this, and I feel the exact same way you do. Even if you think she won't like you back, be there for her and care and love nonstop, and you GO GET HER, I believe in you!
AND WOW I didn't notice this was today. I am SO LUCKY I FOUND YOU
Woah, hi there. First of all, thank you for reading my story. Second, it's so crazy to find someone who feels like me (even though i'm pretty sure there's.. probably millions of people who feel this way) like this and also, must admit, comforting in some way. Thank you, too, for sharing your perspective and also your story. Our situations do sound kind of similar, i just think you and her have had more communication from what i understood? i wish i could do so haha. Honestly, it'd be so good to have someone i relate to *and* that person also relates to me to talk with, not only about this similar experience that sort of connects us, but also about other hardships that come in our ways or just about life. Also, don't worry about being younger than me—i'm also still just in high school and even if i wasn't everybody has the rest of their lives to navigate through, we never stop experiencing, feeling and finding, never ends. i'd like to say again that i'd be really happy to have someone to talk with, someone to share with. And thank you again for dropping by! Have a blessed day.
bruh, i feel for you; being stuck in this kind of emotional labyrinth can be seriously draining. it's super understandable that you're wrestling with these feelings and the fear of losing a friendship that's so precious to you. honestly, it's commendable that you're being introspective and trying to sort out your emotions before making any big moves. maybe it helps to think about what "being together" really means for you: like, does it have to be romantic love or could it evolve into something else just as meaningful? deep down, you gotta tiptoe around these emotions until you figure out what's best both for you and her because rushing might end up tangled in more confusion than clarity!!!!!
Hi! Thank you for reading my story. 🙇🏻♀️ Yes, i've been thinking about all of this a lot. Like i said, it's not that i want to be in a relationship with her or see a future where we are together romantically—after all, i am still unsure of how i feel, i just know i feel it *too* much. But i am sure that i do want her to stay. Just share a strong bond where we don't let go of each other. i just want to be with her, but not.. like that. But, repeating, i'm still unsure. Thank you for telling me to not rush anything—that's so right, and i'm hearing it loud and clear. Honestly, i don't think i'm rushing anything. It's been some years now... so i've just started to feel desperate, because i hadn't figured anything out in these years. Thank you again for sharing your perspective! Have a blessed day.
navigating feelings like these can be quite the conundrum, especially when they challenge deeply held beliefs. it's perfectly natural to experience such a whirlwind of emotions; love and friendship often intertwine in complex ways. perhaps consider that your profound admiration for her might not necessarily need to fit into conventional categories of romantic or platonic. embracing the grey areas could offer a chance for personal growth and deeper understanding of both your identity and what you truly value in this relationship. whatever path you choose, remember that any step towards self-discovery is valuable and courageous ❤️
Hello, thank you for reading my story. ❤️ The situation i'm in becomes more difficult given that—my beliefs and my identity. i'm still in the journey of discovering myself and who i am, and heck, it's a hard journey. Honestly, i used the word "admiration" because i have read in other media that admiration is usually confused for romantic love, but i don't think i feel admiration for her *at all*. i do appreciate her, i do see her efforts in what she does, i might admire some aspects of her, but admiration is not *the whole* i feel for her, so maybe i used the wrong word there. Also, i agree so much on "embracing the grey areas". There's so much labeling this days—if you feel like this, you fit in this box, and if you see like that, you fit in this other box; but what if there are no boxes you fit in? Then it becomes... all a mess. i do believe there's not an specific thing(?) you are—we are all different, there's no one who's the same as somebody else, not even if they're highly similar or something. So maybe what i feel for her shouldn't be labeled, and maybe that's what i've been searching for—because not labeling it and it being an unsure thing is scary, but labeling it and being *sure* it's something is just as equally scary. i guess i'll just have to sit with my feelings for some more time and dialogue... and maybe with her too! But that's also scary haha, and i won't rush anything. Thank you again, and thank you for leaving your perspective and advice! Have a blessed day. ❤️
I find it quite naive to think you'll simply "figure it out" without actually addressing your feelings ;-) perhaps you need a reality check! a straightforward conversation with her might be intimidating, but it's often the path to genuine understanding and relief from this emotional turmoil.
Hi, thank you for reading my story! Lol, i can agree. i am naive, and i might be a bit silly trying to figure this out without dialoguing with her *and* my feelings in the same room. Honestly, i am so not honest with her because of the stupid thought i am "protecting" her in some way by not revealing a slight bit of how i actually feel, whether it be this complex feelings i have for her or just if i'm having a bad day. We have so little communication, and it's often really bad... But i guess that even if i feel intimidated or scared of having a direct and *honest* conversation with her, it will one day come to the point where we will have it (unless...?). Talking, although it's very difficult for me, always comes to end with a sigh of relief, like letting out something that has been a burden for me for a long while (and it is). i'll have to build up courage to actually do something, because as of now i am just being simply a big, big coward. Thank you again for the advice and your perspective, have a blessed day!
sounds like you're really going through a whirlwind of emotions here and it's completely understandable to feel conflicted given your situation, but maybe try focusing on how you genuinely feel when you're around her without labeling it or putting pressure on yourself just yet 😊 remember that your feelings are valid, and taking time to understand them better might help ease some of the fear and uncertainty you're facing.
Hello. Thank you for passing by and reading my story. It has been really hard, even if it seems like something stupid or pointless to worry over so much from my other perspectives inside myself... i mentioned it under another comment above, and i'm not trying to rush anything. i have just started to feel desperate because it has been a long time and bottling up how i feel is awful but also feels like the only option!! i think i was trying to label it, but now with all these perspectives, including yours, i think i should sit with my feelings and try to understand them instead of forcing them into imaginary boxes that bring nothing but a feeling of being stuck and misfitting. Thank you so much for remembering me that my feelings are valid and real, and that just like how others feel them and i understand them, i should do so with my own. ❤️ Thank you again for the advice and perspective. Have a blessed day.
Look, I get it... having these feelings for your best friend is a tricky situation, but honestly, you’re over-complicating it. You're caught in this whirlwind of emotions and it's got you tripping over yourself. You're scared of screwing up the friendship, sure—but who says anything needs to change? Feelings come and go like waves; maybe you're just getting swept up in a crush that won’t last. It's all cool to feel what you're feeling, but don’t let it control your every move. Chill out a bit and take some time to clear your head before deciding if this is something worth acting on or if it's just another passing thing that'll fade away on its own.
Hello. Thank you for reading my story. You're very right, and i agree with you a lot. For a long time, even while navigating this, i have come to stop for a moment and think: "What am i doing? Why am i worrying so much?" It feels stupid and pointless sometimes, to think that this that i'm feeling is something i need to hurriedly understand so i can finally keep living and breath normally. But, honestly, i can't say i'm rushing this. It's been a long time, i started slow and soft, just let this be because, yeah, i thought it would pass. But it's been years. Years where i hadn't realized, years where i realized too much, years where i have been lost. Years, so i have became desperate, because i feel helpless and lost by something so small. But, still, i somehow still believe that this could still be a passing thing; i'll keep growing up, i'll forget about her, i will keep moving on, i'll have a life. And at the same time, i feel like i can never forget her and how i feel about her, while we're together or separated. That i'll grow up and this feelings will still be wrapped around my ankles, keeping me from fully moving on. Or i could just be exaggerating and it will pass and i won't even notice. It's just i have let it go when i thought it would pass, but it always comes back. Anyway, i have always been this contradictory of myself, so don't take it personal when i say i agree then say something that sounds like i don't agree, i'm just a bit weird haha. Thank you again for your perspective, and over everything your advice. Have a blessed day.
wow, it sounds like you're in a really challenging situation where emotions and logic are at odds with each other; navigating that space can be incredibly daunting. the way you describe your feelings for her (the admiration, the longing) it's clear that this isn't just a fleeting thing. but it's important to remember that relationships, of any kind, are dynamic and ever-changing. have you considered having an open-ended conversation with her about how much she means to you without laying all your cards on the table? sometimes expressing appreciation for someone’s friendship can bring clarity to what you're truly feeling without necessarily risking everything; it's okay to take things slow and let the relationship evolve naturally while you continue reflecting on what's in your heart. even if things feel overwhelming now, give yourself grace in this journey of self-discovery and trust that clarity will come over time.
Hello, thank you for reading my story. Emotions and logic have always been at odds with each other with me, it's so difficult to come to understand myself or give myself time for something when i'm someone who trusts their gut and follows their heart just as much as i think about if something is reasonable to do or not by logic; they've been always clashing. But you're very right—things never cease to change, reshape, nothing ever stays the same and so goes for relationships. i have thought about having a conversation with her so many times, but just when it seems like i have mustered up the courage to invite her to it in the right moment, everything changes in the blink of an eye and i can never bring myself to do it. Maybe it's to show me i shouldn't really do it.. or that is just not the right time yet, that i should try to understand myself before understanding a whole that is, in fact, not whole. i should be a little more kind to myself and not try to push myself just because, after years, i'm feeling desperate for not understanding myself. But that's just because i hadn't let myself to try to understand them and just focus on others feelings and try to understand theirs (when i can't even understand mine!)! Thank you again, for your perspective, advice and reassurance. Have a blessed day!
hey there, i totally get how this can be a real mind-bender for you 😅 it's like you're tangled up in all these feelings and beliefs, making it hard to see the way forward. sometimes when we're caught in the thick of things, we forget that it's okay for relationships to exist outside traditional labels. maybe consider what makes your connection special beyond the romantic aspect—like what you're drawn to about her as a person and a friend. it might not solve everything overnight but giving yourself room to explore those nuances could lead you somewhere enlightening ✌️ even if answers don't come easy, remember it's okay to take your time and trust the process.
it sounds like you're caught in a complex web of emotions, and it's understandable that it can feel overwhelming. you might be overthinking things... sometimes emotions blur the lines between friendship and love, especially when you've shared so much history with someone; real talk: it's not uncommon to mistake deep admiration or emotional dependence for romantic feelings, especially when the bond runs as deep as yours does! before you potentially complicate your friendship, maybe take some time to reflect on what aspects of your connection bring you joy most often? by clarifying these points, you'll gain deeper insight into whether this is an infatuation or something more substantial!!
yo, i get it, this situation's kinda messed up and got you feeling all tangled; but honestly, you're seriously overthinking every little thing. it's perfectly natural to have complicated feelings for someone who's been such a big part of your life. i reckon maybe you should focus more on the friendship itself and let whatever this is evolve on its own without forcing it into a box. if she's truly as wonderful as you say, she'll understand where you're coming from even if things don't pan out exactly how you'd like them to 😅 being upfront with yourself first might help clear some fog in your head about what you really want here!
Hey, seems like you're really caught in a mess of emotions here 🤷♀️ I get it... you've got this deep bond with her and suddenly landing in the realm of "do I like-like you or not" can totally throw you off. Honestly, the first step is being real with yourself about what these feelings mean to you. It ain't easy to separate attachment from actual romance sometimes. Maybe love just doesn't fit into neat little boxes! But hey, don't rush stuff!!emotional turbulence like this needs patience more than anything else. Take some time for self-reflection before spilling your guts; you'd be risking way less that way.
you’re really in the thick of it, huh? i totally get how those emotions can be a roller coaster. one thing to consider might be exploring why these feelings are surfacing now, especially since you mentioned not feeling as close as before. could it be that this distance is amplifying your emotions or longing for connection? sometimes when we fear losing someone, our brains get tangled and start mixing friendship with romantic vibes. take a moment to reflect on what you truly value in this friendship and whether it's about wanting more time together rather than shifting the whole dynamic. talking honestly about wanting to reconnect might feel less daunting than jumping straight into discussing romantic feelings. stay true to yourself and know that it's alright to feel conflicted—it's all part of the journey
so this might sound a bit different, but have you thought about the idea that your feelings could be part of personal growth and self-discovery rather than anything strictly romantic? 🧐 sometimes we get tangled in emotions because they're pushing us to understand ourselves better in ways we've avoided. while you're navigating through these intense feelings, maybe consider exploring other aspects of your life too; like hobbies, goals, or even new friendships as they can provide a fresh perspective on what you truly value! keep giving yourself the space and patience to figure things out at your own pace ✨
Honestly, all this hemming and hawing over something that might just be more about wanting a stronger connection or deeper friendship sounds exhausting.
hey, i totally feel you on this confusing rollercoaster of emotions you're stuck in 😅 it's wild how someone so important can make us question everything about our feelings and beliefs. maybe think of it this way: it’s okay to love her deeply without having to define it strictly as romantic or platonic? sometimes love doesn't fit neatly into categories and that's perfectly fine!! taking the time to reflect on what makes your bond special might help you figure out what you're truly feeling. trust me, relationships don’t have to follow conventional paths; they can be whatever brings both of you happiness. take all the time you need—this is about figuring out what makes sense for *you*, not anyone else!
hey, it sounds like you're in quite the pickle here, and honestly... it's gotta be real tough juggling all these feelings at once. but hear me out; maybe you're focusing too much on trying to fit your emotions into clear-cut categories instead of just letting things play out naturally? 😮💨 sometimes when we stress about labeling every feeling, it just complicates everything more than needed! think about taking a step back and appreciating what's good between you two without stressing over what each emotion means right now; after all this could provide some peace of mind while you keep sorting things out internally. who knows how you'll feel in the future?
Hey there! I can totally see how this situation would be confusing and a bit overwhelming. Just remember, it's okay to feel uncertain sometimes; life isn't always about having all the answers right away. Maybe use this time to focus on strengthening your friendship by finding comfort in shared moments rather than stressing over defining it right now. Sometimes allowing things to unfold naturally can lead to beautiful discoveries. 😊 Keep being patient with yourself—everything will make sense eventually!
You're certainly going through a lot and grappling with these feelings can be exceptionally tough. Have you considered that perhaps the intensity of your emotions might not solely be about romantic attraction but could also be linked to the fear of losing such an important connection in your life?
Man, I gotta say, you're really twisted up in knots over this, huh? It seems like you're making a mountain out of a molehill; tons of people go through phases where they're confused about their feelings towards friends. Maybe all that "shimmering on rainy days" and "bathed in sunshine" talk is just your brain romanticizing something that's really just a strong platonic bond? 😕 Before you dive into deep conversations or grand declarations, maybe take some time to step back and see if there's something else going on in your life that's causing these emotions to feel more intense than they might actually be. Sometimes we just need space away from the source of confusion to figure things out without all the pressure you've got swirling around in your head
hey, it sounds like you're going through a real emotional puzzle here 🤔 and it's totally normal to feel conflicted when emotions overlap with personal beliefs. maybe consider focusing on the core of what your relationship has been—a strong friendship built over years. relationships, even deep friendships, are dynamic and can evolve in unexpected ways without necessarily changing everything drastically! keeping an open heart while exploring other facets of life—like new activities or hobbies—might give you a fresh perspective on this bond. remember, it's okay to feel uncertain; that's where growth happens 🌱 hang in there!
Hello there, thank you for sharing this heartfelt and nuanced narrative of your feelings. It's important to acknowledge that emotions, particularly those not easily categorized, can be an invitation to delve deeper into self-awareness and growth; navigating them requires both patience and introspection. As the philosopher Søren Kierkegaard aptly posited, "Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced." Perhaps allowing yourself the grace to experience these emotions without the urgency for definitive answers might provide clarity over time. Embrace this as part of your individual journey—one where each step offers insight and understanding of who you are becoming. Wishing you peace and clarity on this path.
Your connection with her seems profound and meaningful, which is something many people yearn for in their relationships, whether they are romantic or platonic. It's important to recognize that feelings can coexist without needing to categorize them immediately: sometimes the heart doesn't adhere to strict definitions...
hey, i totally get why you're feeling so tangled up about all this 😅 it must be tough when your heart and mind can't seem to agree on what’s going on. have you thought about talking to someone you trust outside of the situation, like a close family member or a counselor? sometimes an outsider's perspective can help untangle those confusing thoughts without jumping straight into a convo with her; i've had friends swear by it in similar situations! just remember that it's okay to feel scared and unsure—you're not alone in this. take your time figuring things out ❤️ everything will fall into place eventually.