Feeling Alone
The story
I took a nap earlier that was an unintentional 9 hours. During that entire time, not a single one of my friends messaged me to check in on me or strike up any conversations. It felt like that once I stopped putting in the effort for a little while, no one actually gave a shit about me. It feels that once I stop trying, I cease to exist in their memories. My one friend is putting more effort into their polycule lately and it feels like because of that they don't care to message me at all until it's late in the evening and the only thing they're messaging me for is to say goodnight and make empty promises to talk to me more in the morning. They're allowed to be happy, I'm happy they are- but what about our friendship? It feels selfish to ask that, feels selfish to want them to stop paying attention to them for more than five minutes to talk to me again. Hell the only time they talk to me like they used to anymore is if one of their wife does something that severely upsets them.
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sounds like you're expecting your friends to be mind readers or something, "just because you took a long nap" and didn't hear from them doesn't mean they don't care 🤨 maybe your expectations are a bit high; you can't just drop off the map and expect them to chase after you, relationships require mutual effort, and it's normal for dynamics to shift when someone invests more time in other relationships, if you're feeling left out, perhaps it's time for an honest conversation rather than assuming your friends have forgotten you 🤗
Are you happy? Reading this reminds me of some of the thought patterns I used to have when I was severely depressed and not seeking help. Not to mention the 9 hour "nap"... I kept thinking myself into deeper holes about no one caring about me and me having to survive life completely alone. Perhaps you are accidentally giving off energy that your friends find uncomfortable and don't know how to act around you. Anyway I'd say address any issues you might have or you could also just share your feelings honestly with your friends. People get very easily wrapped up in their own lives and issues, so they might not even realize how you're feeling.
sounds like you're really focusing on the negatives here, but is it really reasonable to expect your friends to constantly be in touch? maybe they're just busy with their own lives and didn't mean to overlook you; everyone's got their own stuff going on, and relationships aren't always perfectly balanced 24/7, don't you think it's possible they're just assuming you're okay when they don't hear from you? communication can get tricky, but initiating a conversation could help clear up any misunderstandings, staying optimistic might open doors to deeper and more meaningful connections.