Friend group problems
The story
I feel like I'm the floating friend yknow? Like in my friend everyone has their own best friend someone who just clicks with them but I feel like I don't have that someone that I confide in. I'm always the first person to chat in the group chat when I want to hang out, most of them only text me when they need help and I feel left out most of the time. I don't know if I'm being irrational or not. I don't think I can talk to them about it tho, I feel like it will cause conflict.
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Points of view
i get where you're coming from; it's tough feeling like a ghost in your own friend group. i've been there, like when i was the "planner" for my crew, always setting up events and then realizing they were just tagging along for convenience. one thing though, maybe take a step back and see how they actually respond when you don't initiate conversations? sometimes we're so wrapped up in our thoughts that we miss out on organic moments. have you tried branching out and finding new hobbies or groups? it could bring fresh connections your way, ones that might give you that 'click' you're looking for. addressing your concerns with them doesn't need to be confrontational either; perhaps simply mentioning how you'd love more shared activities might bridge the gap without causing drama. 🤔
Why not try weaving in subtle hints or suggestions when planning hangouts?
feeling like an auxiliary component in your own social circle can be disheartening, but let's analyze the scenario objectively. have you considered whether you're projecting unmet expectations onto them??? it's entirely plausible that you're placing more value on these friendships than they do... this isn’t necessarily negative, just a mismatch of investment. once i distanced myself from my assumptions about where i stood with others, it allowed me to seek out those who reciprocated my emotional input — a game-changer!!!! perhaps recalibrating your perspective could open doors to more authentic connections.