Friendgroup Drama I accidentally caused
The story
so i'm kind of not talking to my friends right now. I posted a vent on kandipad.com and one of my IRL friends saw it. we got into this huge argument. I don't really want to go into detail. But I haven't talked to anyone since the argument.
The vent was about how I feel like I'm a burden to everyone around me. Also how I feel like a horrible person, because I say things that I don't mean or that are insensitive but then I can't apologize bc I don't remember what I said. And how I accidentally took over a story me and two of my friends were supposed to be writing together.
One of my friends commented saying that I'm not a burden. I didn't (and still don't) believe him. So we got into this huge argument about like idek anymore. He said at some point that I was mischaracterising him or something, and how I needed to stop with the self-pity, and I told him to leave me alone. Then he said I was treating him like crap. And I just kept asking him to leave me alone until he did.
Which begs the question:
Am I the problem?
Am I the problem?
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Points of view
Hi basically maybe it would have been better if you came out and spoke to your friend about it instead of rant online but i get it, sometimes its nice to rant anonymously. But it doesn’t mean your friend can go on and say that you’re pitying yourself and acting like he hasn’t dont anything wring. You’re not gonna feel like a burden for no reason, try talking it out with him again maybe he’ll be more understanding. It fully up to you though!
You could start off by apologising that you didn’t go to them instead of going online but mention the stuff that they did and you didnt like or the stuff that made you uncomfortable.
You cant resolve issues if you dont talk it out!
it's not that he wished I'd talked to him rather than going online, we both vent on kandipad and it's never bothered either of us that the other vents online rather than in person.
I tried to talk to him (over online chat) but he was just like "we DO care" and I don't think he sees that it's hard for me to believe that right now. Everytime someone says that they care about me my stupid mind comes up with 10 reasons why they shouldn't. He just doesn't see that. idk if he's ignorant or blind or deliberately ignoring my cries for help.
MysticalSapphireWoodToothbrushInMumbaiWithSurprise
3d agoHonestly i dont think any of you are in the wrong, maybe your friend needs to learn how to comfort people properly instead of pointing fingers and start actually understanding where you’re coming from.
Try and talk to someone else from the friend group or just a different friend in general. Ask for their view on the situation and they’ll help you more!!
thank you :D
MysticalSapphireWoodToothbrushInMumbaiWithSurprise
3d agoOf course <3!!