Have no friends

I understand your struggles in adjusting to a new environment but perhaps you're focusing too much on making friendships quickly rather than letting them develop organically over time. Often, it's those unexpected moments in daily routines where meaningful connections arise.

omg lol i know rite?! moved last year for ma job couldnt find anyone real everyone fake just smile and move on its so frustrating smh

It sounds like you're going through a tough time adjusting to this new city, and I totally get where you're coming from. It's frustrating when you've put in the effort to meet people and yet those connections seem so surface level. Sometimes, cities can feel like they have their own personality, you know? And some are notorious for that whole "hollow friendship" thing. Have you considered trying something different, maybe finding a hobby or activity where you can engage with people who share similar interests? That might help find deeper connections beyond the professional network. How do you usually approach these events in terms of conversation and expectations?

maybe you're putting too much pressure on these interactions to be meaningful right off the bat. friendships often develop slowly and require more time than a few mixers or meetups can provide. have you considered focusing more on activities you genuinely enjoy rather than social events specifically? sometimes when you're relaxed and engaged in something you love, connections form naturally without the stress of forced conversations.

i hear you! moving somewhere new can be tough but sometimes our own perspective makes it harder to connect too? maybe trying different activities might lead you down paths where genuine bonds naturally grow!

Man, I totally get where you're coming from. Moved to a city once thinking it was going to be this social nirvana but ended up feeling like just another invisible cog in the urban machine. Sometimes, I think cities have this weird energy that amplifies loneliness rather than fixing it. Maybe check out some niche clubs or interest groups off the beaten path? When I switched from big events to smaller, more focused gatherings, I met some of my best pals there! Keep being open to those unexpected connections... sometimes they happen when you least expect them.

just get out there more!!

Wow, I get where you're coming from!!! Big city life can feel like being surrounded by people but remaining unseen. When I moved to a similar situation, it seemed like every interaction was more about collecting LinkedIn connections than forming friendships. Have you considered exploring interest-based groups beyond professional circles? Sometimes it's the random hobbies or community service activities that really bring out shared values and lead to genuine friendships. Keep in mind everyone else is likely feeling just as isolated at first!! You got this!!!

Totally relate! when I moved cities for work I found volunteer work helped bridge that gap between professionalism and genuine connection: it gave me common ground with others outside the office labyrinth.

Yeah... You're not alone in the feeling that everyone seems preoccupied with maintaining a curated image rather than forming real bonds; staying busy or retreating online is often seen as easier. Personally, I've found unexpected camaraderie when least expecting it on mundane weekday evenings by simply frequenting a local cafe regularly. Routine interactions can develop into friendships without the pressure of "making new friends".

you're being dramatic.

I agree completely and faced something similar when starting out in my new role: those after-hours outings really highlighted who was genuinely interested versus just polite acquaintanceship.

aha, i totally see where you're coming from. cities can have this vibe of being vibrant yet distant, almost like they're buzzing with life but still leaving people feeling alone; it's crazy how common this is! you're definitely right about those superficial interactions at mixers and meetups, they often feel more like a performance than a genuine connection. maybe tackling this from a different angle could work? have you tried creating something yourself? hosting small gatherings around a specific activity that you love might attract the right people who share your interests instead of relying on broader events; sometimes taking initiative can help build deeper relationships over time. keep believing in the possibility of finding your people because that hope keeps us open to new experiences :)

Had a similar situation once!

you know, maybe it's not all about networking events? sometimes regular ol' hobbies bring people together better than fancy venues... just a thought though.

ever considered local clubs or sports?