is my friend being a pos or am i overreacting??
The story
for context i’m a teenager and was trying to make plans with my best friend yesterday, but she didn’t respond for the entire day (very unlike her) so i was confused and texted her again to just come over the next day if she wanted since i had nothing to do and would probably be at home all day. she dropped by and told me after a few minutes of talking that she hadn’t replied to me last night since she was going to our mutual friends decent sized house party and “didn’t want me to feel jealous.” i was honestly a little hurt and shocked that she would say that, but she said it so casually so i laughed it off. she proceeded to tell me all these crazy details about how fun this party that i wasn’t invited to was. i’ve never rlly been to a real party before (only small get-togethers in basements and that type of thing) and after she left i was just so hurt that she or our other friend wouldn’t invite me, or at the very least just not describe it to me in detail when she knows i have never been to something like that. she’s not a huge party person either though (doesn’t wanna drink) so i’ve been wondering if i’m just overreacting and being a baby or if she was being a jerk. any opinions appreciated
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that sucks, man 😕 i totally get why you'd feel hurt. kinda uncool of her to leave you out and then give a play-by-play of all the fun you missed. sounds like she's not being very considerate. maybe she just assumed you wouldn't wanna go, but still... she could've asked! i’d feel the same way in your shoes. like, some folks just don’t realize how their words and actions affect others. you should talk to her about how it made you feel tho. gotta keep it real with your friends, you know? maybe she'll understand and be more thoughtful next time.
honestly, it sounds like you're making a mountain out of a molehill 😅. your friend probably just wanted to protect your feelings, not exclude you; maybe she thought you weren't into big parties since you mentioned only doing small get-togethers. "communication is key"—ever heard that one? instead of dwelling on it, why not talk about how you feel? it might just be a misunderstanding. don't let this bring you down—friendships have their ups and downs, and this seems like a minor hiccup. stay positive! 🌟