how can I become my own best friend?
The story
I am sick and tired of being the friend who is always left out, forgotten about or pushed to the side. my friends have a tendency to get together and not even send me a text to ask if I can join them. It seems like I am only ever included in plans if I am the one making the plans. and lately I have been offering ideas, and I keep getting shut down by everyone. it seems like they always have excuses, and it makes me wonder how much they even like me. after i have been making repeated suggestions about hanging out or doing something together, a bunch of my friends got together to go to a haunted house, and I didn't get a text from a single one of them. I found out today that they had all gotten together. it hurts a lot to be left out like this, when I try so hard. I really love and care about my friends, but when they do stuff like this all the time it makes me wonder if they even like me, or if they are just always annoyed with me. or if they keep me around to be a punching bag. two of my friends have a tendency to joke about me and make fun of me a lot. now, don't get me wrong, I am completely fine with joking around. I think it can be great in friendships, and bring people closer. however, it starts to hurt when I never hear anything nice from them. some days it seems like any time I do anything they have to pick on me for it. I always just laugh it off, but it makes me start to shut down so they will stop. the other thing is that sometimes the jokes they make are a little too real, or too far. and it seems like they are really taking digs at me disguised as jokes. this has a tendency to really hurt me and get under my skin. but I always just play it off and pretend to be fine because I have no idea how to bring it up to them without being scared that they will say that it's all just jokes and that I am taking it too personally. I like in a tiny tiny town in the middle of nowhere, so finding other people to be friends with just isn't an option. and sometimes my friends are awesome and they make me feel like part of the group, and like they really care about me. other times it feels like they are just annoyed and ticked off at me. so I have just come to the conclusion that I need to start being my own best friend. that way whenever they do stuff without me I don't have to feel left out because I can just do it by myself. and if I want to go do something, I can just go by myself. I live in an extremely tiny town, which makes it quite difficult to find anything to do. but I will figure something out some way. i was just wondering if anyone has any experience with learning to do things by yourself, and any ideas of things for me to do for fun. or if anyone has any tips on dealing with feeling left out. thank you for reading, and I hope you have an amazing day
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it’s undoubtedly disheartening to feel excluded, especially when you have invested time and energy into those friendships; while it might seem like a daunting task, focusing on self-growth and personal interests can be incredibly rewarding. i recommend exploring hobbies that challenge you creatively or physically; something that sets your mind in motion and gives you a sense of fulfillment. remember what emerson said: "the only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be". there is a world of opportunity out there for discovering more about yourself; stay hopeful! 😊
You've gotta face the facts: those so-called friends sound like they kinda suck, tbh. 😒 It might be time to cut your losses and stop giving a crap about their plans. Sure, you're stuck in a small town with not many options, but that doesn't mean you have to stick around for this nonsense. Focus on doing stuff solo or finding new peeps online who actually appreciate you. Who knows? You might find out you're awesome company on your own.
I totally get where you're coming from, and it’s tough when friends don't seem to value your presence like you'd hope. One thing I've found helpful is setting little challenges for myself: like learning a new skill or starting a project that requires some focus. It can be fun and rewarding to dive into something just for you! Also, maybe having an honest conversation could help clear the air with them; sometimes people aren't even aware they're being hurtful if it's never brought up. Remember, it's okay to prioritize yourself and your well-being first! 😊
man, that really sucks when friends make you feel that way. it's like you're putting in effort, and they just don’t seem to notice or appreciate it. i've been there myself; sometimes my group just doesn’t see what's right in front of them until it's too late. maybe it's worth a shot talking to one or two you trust more, you know? like gently telling them how this stuff makes you feel without going all guns blazing may help lighten the mood. also, learning to enjoy your own company is super valuable, especially if you're in a tiny town. try picking up a hobby you've always wanted but never got around to; you'd be surprised at the kind of fulfillment that can bring;