I don't know who I am anymore

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JollyPeachMetalZymurgyInReykjavikWithJoy
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Friday, 23 January 2026
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I don't have a personality, its like my whole self is built up on my friends and they hate me for it and tbh I hate myself for it more

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MesmerizingSapphireWoodBookcaseInZurichWithDisgust 1h ago

I used to feel like this alot. Like I had no personality. I did some searching and realized that personality comes from interacting with others. In order to build your personality, you need to express it and that takes time. It feels awkward at first but eventually you'll get it.


I understand feeling like our personalities were taken from somewhere else, that is pretty true. When we hang around a certain group of people alot,we start mirroring the joels they make, even sound the same, and we do it subconsciously. It happens alot with families. It's important to distance yourself sometimes so you are your own person. Your personality can come down so many different things and it makes you unique. You may not feel it is but it truly is unique, your one thoughts, feelings, perception, behaviors, the way you see things. Your personality can be affect by depression and make you seem things in a negative light, the movie "inside out 2" low-key shows this.


I don't see why your friends hate you for it. I feel flattered seeing someone make a joke I made or a phrase I used to repeat all the time. It's very normal for humans to copy each other.


I hope all do this helps 🖤🩷