I hate my friends so much
The story
I'm in my last year of middle school and since 5th grade I've been friends with these two girls which i love so so much and I'd do anything for (I'll call them girl 1 and girl 2 from here). Since this school year started we've been the perfect trio but for some reason they keep pushing me away. I did confront girl 1 (i feel like she would understand more because she went through this in the past) and she did say she's closer with the girl 2, but that she still likes me a lot, as her other friend (important is that at the time i also had a crush on her but i got over it). For a week it was great again but after that it happened again and i was pushed aside. I feel so awful when they talk with eachother and all i can do is stare because they are seatmates. Anyway, I've tried hangung out with other people as well, which i think makes it a bit better, i was a total outcast and now there are more people talking with me, but i still feel shitty and selfish because girl 1 is going through way more then i go through and i feel like i just look for attention. I try to leave them behind because all they do is hurt me and fortunately I'm leaving for high-school in less then half a year in another city, but i also feel like crying everytime i see them not talking to me even though i am right there as well. (Also i am doing much better for a couple of weeks now because my boyfriend is the sweetest guy ever and he helps me through this)
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omg i totally get where you're coming from!!! middle school friendships can be super rocky sometimes, especially when feeling like you're being pushed out; it's awesome you have a sweet boyfriend who's there for you tho. high school's gonna bring so many new people and chances to make amazing friends!! 😄
idk, i get that it's tough but maybe it's just part of growing up and making new friends; you'll have tons of opportunities to meet people who truly value you in high school.
it's tough being caught in between like that, but it's brilliant that you're exploring other friendships too; the fresh start in high school will likely give you a whole new set of friends and experiences to look forward to!
middle school dynamics can indeed be quite unpredictable and often detrimental to one's self-worth, even when you invest emotionally in friendships. your description of feeling like an "outcast" resonates with the concept of social exclusion often explored in developmental psychology; it's both relatable and distressing. i'm curious, though: have you considered discussing the situation with a counselor or therapist at school? they might provide insights into navigating these rocky relationships while maintaining your own emotional well-being.
Hey there, I get how tough it must be to feel like the third wheel in your own friend group. It really sucks when people you've been close with start acting distant. You're not being selfish for wanting friends who actually include you – it's just natural to want to be where you're appreciated. Having a supportive boyfriend is great, but don’t let that replace building other strong friendships where you feel valued. High school will definitely open up new doors and you might find your people who genuinely vibe with you 💪 Keep your chin up!
It sounds like you're caught in the classic case of middle school drama where friendships can be as fickle as a sandcastle at high tide; it might be worth seeing it more as a chance to build your resilience and independence rather than chasing connections that may not serve you well.
maybe it's time to focus on yourself and enjoy the company of people who actually make you feel wanted?