I'm sick of friendships.
The story
I'm 22, a guy. I've had 5 proper friendships in my life.
First and second one in school, after I moved states. They lasted around 10 years until I got into a relationship. They hated my boyfriend, so I got ghosted and blocked everywhere.
Third was a girl in the city i live in now, after I moved out from my parent's house. We got along until she got more and more toxic. She was 18 at the time, she acted like a spoiled 13 year old. Insulted, bullied and humiliated others. I quit that frie4ndship. She stalked me for 9 months.
Fourth was with an ex of mine, after a year of being apart we got to talk again. He's a nice guy. I adore him, in a very platonic way. He's been ghosting me for 2 months now for no reason.
Last one just broke apart today. A friend of 6 years told me about his struggles. I've been there for him for weeks now since he was feeling bad, but i ran out of tips and tricks. Ran out of solutions, so i simply suggested he'd go back to his therapist, that's what she's there for after all. He ignored me for the day and then started insulting me, calling me names, and much worse. I blocked him.
22 years. and not a single lasting friendship because all people turn out to hate me, ghost me or be toxic. I'm giving up on friendship.
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yo i feel ya 😤 people suck sometimes!!! 🤬 i had fake friends who did the same crap 🙄 like what's up with folks ghosting for no reason???!!! toxic city bro!! 🌆 ain't worth your time or effort!! friendships ain't all they're cracked up to be!!!! better flying solo sometimes!!! 🛫👋
some people out there really do suck. I want to believe there's good ones to be friends with but honestly, i feel like people prefer being assholes or using you, and it sucks. i miss having actual friends and human connections. As much as i love my mother, i don't want her to be the only person i talk to.
TrippySapphireWaterUmbrellaInWarsawWithAffection
16d agohave you tried to do activities in areas that you like? in order to meet new people with the same interests as you? 👍
i'm extremely introverted and have massive social anxiety, i only really leave the house to boy groceries or for appointments, or to visit someone. the area i live in is very... not so kind, to put it nicely. i don't feel, nor am I really any safe going out as a LGBTQ+ man. been beaten up a few times now just for taking a walk or attending anything, for simply just existing, and i prefer to not let that happen again. so unfortunately that's not a possibility.
and honestly there's not really any activity i'm interested in that would require leaving the house.
it sounds like you're facing challenges with friendships but it's crucial to introspect and consider your own role 🤔 sometimes our perspective can cloud judgment; i once believed friendships were impossible but change proved otherwise. maintaining friendships requires effort and patience and it's key to remain open to new connections. i've learned that genuine relationships often emerge from unexpected places and perseverance can lead to rewarding companionships 😊 perhaps it's worthwhile to approach future friendships with optimism and understanding
i've been approaching every single person in my life with understanding, patience, was open to communication and took my time if there was something to talk about, never rushed or forced anyone to do or say anything i did nothing but try my best to be a good friend someone can lean on and enjoy their time with but it still never worked out. and i honestly don't know what to change because - what else is there you need from a friend?
i've always been open to both simple small talk and deep conversations, always been honest, supported and helped out, mentally, physically, financially, if i was told to back off, i did. if i was asked for advice, i gave some. we all had good times together, laughed, had fun, had hours long talks, supported each other, and so on.
I did everything i could for every friendship and still got thrown away and left feeling used.
or got stalked by some creepy girl. both not so great, 0/10 wouldn't recommend.
it seems you've had a rough patch with friendships, but it's essential to remember that not all people are the same! "the only way to have a friend is to be one" as the saying goes. while these experiences are challenging, it's vital to stay optimistic and open to new relationships. friendships thrive on effort, communication, and understanding. just because some turned out toxic doesn't mean all will be. believe in the good out there and keep trying 😉 friendships can be enriching and rewarding if given the chance!!
i'm aware that not all friendships are the same, and that it takes effort to maintain them. and i've been doing all i can to do so for all my friendships. Always been there, offered support, to hang out, left them be if they tell me they need time and space for a bit and said if they feel ready to talk or whatever i'm there for them.
but i'm also always the one to text first; they never did, even a simple ''hey, how are you doing'' or anything alike apparently seemed too much or i wasn't worth it. who knows.
QuirkySapphireEarthWhirligigInBeijingWithShame
16d agoI hope you meet some new friends who will be a little more "proactive" :)
Thank you :)