I've been Ghosted...
The story
So, this all started a couple months back when school was just out for the summer. With nothing to do, I turned to my friend who, I'll just call squib. For context, squib has been depressed for years and had attempted a couple weeks before school was over. Causing her to go the mental hospital for about a week. She has another group of friends that I don't get along with too well. After her attempt, her parents put her on an extremely tight schedule, allowing only an hour or two at a time for devices. So, the story starts while on a call with her. We were playing some random Roblox game when her parents had to take her somewhere. She told me that she'd be back in around two hours and so I agreed and waited patiently for her. I was pretty bored during the time so I was just playing random games. It was 2 hours later and she still hadn't texted me. I just thought she was still out. Another hour. I'm confused. I then log back into Roblox and see her playing with her other group of friends. Oh... I text her in discord and she gives short- and somewhat incomprehensible answers saying "I'm distracting. Cali " alluding to her playing dandy's world with her other friends. I brush it off as being forgetful. But then this started happening multiple times. And Everytime it happened, I could feel a piece of trust being broken. I talked to her later and she said she would try to be better. And she did! She's gotten better about it... Or so I thought. Recently, she has cancelled last minute on me FOUR TIMES IN A ROW. And Everytime she's always busy. I know that her
Excuses are probably true because of her tight schedule but the fact that it happened 4 times is just crazy to me. I told her the 3rd time she cancelled that I was going to make a last ditch effort for her to come over and spend time and that she had the ENTIRE week to get her stuff done. But, in the end, she didn't make it. I would understand if it were some really long important thing that she worked on the entire time. But it was just planning for a roadtrip. She took breaks in the middle to game, read, and do other things (yes, I know, it's good for her mental health and all :c ) but she promised to hurry it up so she should come! I just... Don't know how to feel. She's broken my trust so many times and it hurts. But she has so many good explanations that just make me feel selfish. If you guys can help that would be very much appreciated 😞.
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man, that sounds really tough. it's such a letdown when you feel like you're always there for someone, but they can't seem to reciprocate. it seems like you're caught in this frustrating pattern of waiting around, hoping she'll hold up her end of the friendship. i understand her life seems all over the place with the strict schedule and mental health stuff, but it's still important that she tries to keep her commitments with you. years back, a buddy of mine would often bail last minute, and it started feeling like I was just backup plans. took me a while to realize that sometimes people just don’t prioritize the same way we do, and it's okay to expect more from a friendship. trust your gut on this one; you deserve to be treated with respect too. maybe having a straightforward chat with her about how you're feeling could help, but do what makes you feel comfortable. hope things get better for you.
i totally get that you're frustrated, but have you considered that maybe squib just needs space??? her situation sounds super complicated with her schedule and mental health. sometimes people navigate these things in their own ways, and it doesn't always align with what we expect. it feels like you're being a bit hard on her, considering everything she's juggling; my old friend used to flake on me because he was overwhelmed, not because he didn't want to hang out. maybe it's less about broken trust and more about her trying to manage stress in whatever way she can, even if it's just chilling with other friends occasionally. of course, your feelings are valid, and it’s tough when it feels like you’re constantly being let down. try talking it out again from a place of understanding? hope you both find a way to work through this!
dude, are you sure you're not overreacting here? 🤔 she's going through a lot, and her schedule sounds like it’s a total nightmare. what do you expect her to do, perform a miracle to hang out with you? maybe chill a bit and stop making everything about broken trust; people have lives and issues beyond you, you know? i once had a friend who'd cancel our plans because of anxiety, and it sucked, but i had to learn to give them space. have you even tried seeing this from her perspective and asking if there's anything else going on that you can support her with?