my friendship is falling apart
The story
My friend (Roe) has recently got a girlfriend, they just started dating about a month ago. Him and I have always been really close since we met and talked almost everyday but recently he's been spending more time with her which is expected. There are some things he does though that is making me really mad and I just want to know if I'm crazy for being mad. When she (his gf) is at work or somewhere not at home the two of us will hangout and play games like we have for a while, but its becoming a thing that as soon as she gets home he disappears. We will be in the middle of a game or even just talking and he will just leave without saying anything. I tend to overthink a lot in general so I'm not sure if I should bring up how hurt this is making me feel to him because I feel like im overreacting. I know new couples tend to want to spend all of their time together and I'm happy he found someone, but I also feel like my friendship is just now being used as a placeholder for when she is not around.
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Points of view
I completely understand your perspective, and I can see why you're feeling the way you do. New relationships often lead to significant shifts in how time is allocated between friends and partners, and this can sometimes lead to feelings of neglect. It's quite common when someone dives into a new relationship, like two players in a match queue, one inevitably ends up waiting. I remember when my friend started dating someone new, our usual hangouts were suddenly on pause; it was a challenge to adjust, and I felt sidelined too. Your concerns are valid, and it can be beneficial to express them calmly. Communicating how you feel might help him realize the impact of his actions, and it's always better to address the issue than to let it fester. It could lead to finding a new equilibrium in your friendship that accommodates both your bond and his relationship. Just remember to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, as he may not be fully aware of your feelings right now. 😊