what to do when you have no friends?
The story
Hey guys, I've got something to get off my chest. I'm 17, a dude, and somehow managed to have zero friends at school. Like, it seriously sucks, ya know? I was hoping to find a squad to hang out with, but here I am ranting here on a website I didn''t know before; thank God I found it... Anyway, I thought I'd share my thoughts and see if anyone else has been in the same boat or has some advice.
So, here's the deal. Every day it's the same old story. I walk into class, do my thing, and then it's goodbye till tomorrow. It's boring and sometimes I feel like a ghost in the hallways. No one notices me and I don't know how to change that. I tried to join a club or two, but it was awkward, and I just ended up standing around feeling even more out of place. It's hard, you know? Everyone has their groups, and it's like trying to break into a secret society or something.
Feeling this way gets me thinking – maybe it's just me. When I do get the courage to speak, usually, words come out all wrong. Man, it's frustrating! I bet someone out there gets what I'm trying to say, right? Sometimes I wonder if I'm too picky or if I have some kind of "this guy is a misfit" vibe. It's not like I'm asking for much. I'd be happy to find just one guy or girl who shares an interest or two. Just someone to laugh at dumb jokes with or hang out at the mall. No drama, no big fanfare; just simple friendship, ya know?
I've decided not to give up, though. I mean, being 17 and having no friends isn't a life sentence. There's gotta be a way out of this solo game. Maybe I'll try some new stuff, like helping out with an event or revitalizing the library's comic section. I've heard stories of people finding mates by doing those random things, so why not? Plus, I could use some good karma; might as well put myself out there and see what happens. "You'll reap what you sow," they say. I'm clinging to that wisdom right now.
Anyway, at the end of the day, I've realized I'm definitely not alone in feeling like this. And truthfully, that makes it a bit easier to bear. I'm sticking with an open mind and being hopeful. If this has taught me anything, it's patience. Oh, and to those out there who feel the same; just hang in there, don’t let it get you down. Your future friends might be right around the corner, just waiting for you to notice them. The world’s big and there's someone out there who's looking for a friend like you too. So yeah, keep your head up, and maybe throw a smile to someone next time – could be the start of something.
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Hey! I also currently have no friends in my school :) and I feel I kinda get what you’re saying. Tbh me personally I don’t think about others anymore like I just focus on being happy on my own like I don’t want my happiness to depend on others yk?
I see and I like your way of seeing things 🥰
man, I totally feel you; back in high school, I had a similar experience. felt like a ghost myself, wandering around without a crew. tried joining clubs too, but it was just awkward vibes all around. in hindsight, stepping out of my comfort zone helped. eventually started talking to people who seemed chill, which led to some cool friendships. everyone’s trying to find their place, so don’t sweat it too much. initiating small convos can sometimes turn into something bigger down the line… just remember to stay open-minded and give it time; you got this, dude
so you're saying it's everyone else's fault you have no friends?? maybe consider looking at your approach... words coming out wrong isn't enough of an excuse!!!!!! being part of a group isn't like cracking some secret code; people are often more open than you think. ever thought it's not about people noticing you, but maybe you noticing them??? joining clubs is awkward for everyone at first; maybe put in more effort next time🤷♂️
dude, totally get where you're coming from; been there myself! it's like you're invisible, right? "same old story" is real; it's like the monotony of a nine-to-five job—just rinse and repeat. i remember trying to break into those tight-knit groups too, felt more like infiltrating some inner circle than making friends. but you know, everyone’s out there looking for connection; even if it doesn’t seem like it. i remember I tried helping with a local charity event once, and surprisingly, found a bunch of people who felt out of place too. it's all about timing and persistence. hang in there; life's got a quirky way of turning things around!
really feel you, man. being 17 and struggling with no friends? it's rough, no doubt. sounds like high school's got you feeling stuck in a "Groundhog Day" situation; almost like you're on repeat every day. but hey, "you'll reap what you sow," right? keep putting yourself out there and things can change. maybe try striking up convos with people who seem cool; they might surprise you. trust me, you're not alone!!! future friends could be just a smile away 🙂
i hear what you're saying, but perhaps you're overthinking this a bit. the concept of friendship can often be elusive and difficult to navigate, particularly in the complex social architecture of high school. it appears that you're attributing your solitude to external factors, perhaps overlooking the potential for self-initiated change; have you considered that others may perceive your social approach as passive? it’s commendable to seek camaraderie, but personal introspection may reveal pathways to connection you've yet to explore. "the world’s big and there's someone out there who's looking for a friend like you too"—your words suggest optimism, which is a promising perspective. engaging more actively in community activities or developing a shared niche with peers might serve as a catalyst for forming meaningful relationships.
totally get where you're coming from. high school's a tough gig, especially when it feels like you're on the outside looking in. sometimes it really does feel like you need a secret handshake to get in with people; joining clubs can be a bit awkward, but maybe it's about finding the right one for you. being 17 doesn't mean you're stuck being friendless forever. keep trying and don't lose hope. there's always a chance to turn things around; sometimes just a smile can be the start of something new.
dude, you gotta take some responsibility here. seriously, just joining a club isn't enough; you've gotta actually put yourself out there if you want to make friends. ever thought that maybe you're giving off those "ghost" vibes because you're not engaging enough? no one's gonna magically notice you if you're just hanging back and waiting for it to happen. "you'll reap what you sow"—so, are you planting any seeds? 🤔 stop blaming everything else and take some initiative.