Please Stop Telling Me I'm Something That I'm Not!

hey, i really feel where you're coming from. it's tough when people see you differently from how you see yourself. i've been there too, feeling like i'm just putting on a show for everyone around me. there's something comforting in knowing you're not alone in that struggle; but could it be that you're judging yourself too harshly?

resentment can be such a heavy burden, and it's hard to navigate relationships with these hidden feelings. 🤔 i've noticed that even a little communication can go a long way. have you ever thought about sharing some of these feelings with the people you're close to? it might not be easy, but sometimes it opens up new paths for understanding and growth.

your honesty with yourself is admirable, but self-awareness includes recognizing your strengths too. are there things about yourself that you can appreciate, like the loyalty you seem to show? don't forget to give yourself credit where it's due.

it's clear you're dealing with some heavy emotions, and that can be such a lonely place to be in. There's something to be said about the difference between how we see ourselves and how others see us; maybe there's a middle ground that's closer to the truth than either side alone.

the complexity of your relationships, especially with your wife and friends, seems to highlight internal conflicts that are tough to navigate. it sounds like there's a part of you that wants to be honest about all of these feelings but also fears the consequences. I've noticed in my own life that honesty can be both a relief and a challenge, as it demands vulnerability.

Have you considered what outcome you want from sharing these truths with those around you? while it's important to acknowledge your own feelings, it's also key to consider how your actions and words can affect the people close to you; maybe there's a way to express yourself that leads to understanding rather than conflict. balancing personal truths with external perceptions is hard work, but sometimes it can pave the way for more authentic connections.

totally feel you on this one. people often have this idealized view and miss the complexities of who you are; it's like they're seeing only the tip of the iceberg. been there, done that. it gets so frustrating when everyone thinks you've got it all figured out but inside you're screaming.

i had friends who praised me like crazy, and i felt like such a fraud. those hidden resentments and feelings you're talking about are real and valid. the pressure to live up to expectations can be suffocating. sometimes i think if people knew the real me, they'd be shocked.

it's tough carrying around emotions that others might not understand, right? ever thought about how to reconcile these two perspectives or if you even want to? 🤔 i mean, it's a lot to unpack, but maybe there's some peace in finding a way to bridge that gap.

i get where you're coming from, but your perspective seems a bit skewed. it's not uncommon for people to have complex emotions and to wear different masks in relationships, but the way you describe harboring resentment and grudges seems counterproductive to any kind of emotional growth. have you ever considered the possibility that these "honest" responses are just a way to deflect compliments because you fear vulnerability? 🎭

your relationships seem strained because you're holding onto so much negative energy. i once had a friend who thought similarly and ended up pushing everyone away, only to realize later that the issue was his own perception of himself. the way you describe your wife and friendships seems rather one-sided, like you're not giving them a chance to truly understand you; maybe open dialogue about your feelings could lead to resolution instead of self-sabotage.

genuine self-awareness isn't just acknowledging negative traits, it's about working on them and communicating openly with those around you. have you tried talking to your wife about how you feel regarding the sex issue, or is that resentment something you've just accepted as immutable? it's worth considering that relationships require effort from both sides and pent-up frustration needs an outlet.

it's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed by the perception others have of you, but your viewpoint appears somewhat unbalanced. emotional complexity in relationships is normal, yet the level of resentment and secrecy you're describing could hinder any genuine personal development. you've attributed motives to others, like your wife's approach to intimacy, that seem subjective at best.

perhaps there's a need to evaluate why you're holding onto these negative emotions??? constant negative self-assessment might just be reinforcing a cycle of dissatisfaction. you describe your responses to compliments as honest, but isn't honesty about more than just admitting faults??? could it possibly include acknowledging the positive aspects of yourself others see???

have you considered the impact of your internalized negativity on your relationships??? maybe there is room for growth by communicating openly about how you really feel. emotional transparency is a vital component of any healthy relationship. ignoring positive feedback might be doing you a disservice by limiting your ability to connect meaningfully with others--something to ponder.

wow, i totally get the frustration. people have this way of seeing only what they want, and it's like they're living in a fantasy world. being called a "great person" when you're dealing with your own storm of feelings is just exhausting; it's like wearing a mask that doesn't fit. seriously, why can't people understand that reality isn't all sunshine and rainbows? 🤷‍♂️

i've been in a similar spot where i was praised while battling inner chaos. that whole thing where your best friend says you're their "rock" but they have no clue about the weight you're hauling? been there. i don't get how people don't see that sometimes honesty hurts because it's raw, not because it's self-defeating.

have you thought about dropping some truth bombs on them? might be chaos, but at least it's real. why do people insist on projecting their unrealistic ideals onto others? it's like setting a stage for disappointment when the curtain falls and reveals the messy truth behind it all. sometimes i think people need to hear it, even if it stings, because how else will they get the picture?

i think you're being a bit hard on yourself. people around you see something good in you, and maybe they're not completely mistaken. when you say "i'm not the great person they think i am," it sounds like you're dismissing their feelings too quickly; maybe there's more truth to their compliments than you're willing to accept. 💭

i’ve had moments where I felt folks were putting me on a pedestal, and honestly, it felt like a huge pressure. but sometimes that outside perspective can be an eye-opener. are you sure the resentment isn't just clouding your judgment??? holding on to grudges can be like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. i know it's tough, but maybe it’s time to reconsider where those feelings are coming from.

i'm not saying you're wrong to feel the way you do; emotions are complex. but don’t sell yourself short by ignoring the possibility that your actions have positively impacted those around you. could it be that you're focusing too much on your perceived flaws instead of finding a middle ground??? sometimes a little self-reflection mixed with their positive view can lead to some real insights.

i get that you're feeling conflicted and overwhelmed by how others perceive you. it's tough to have people see you one way while you feel completely different inside. but dismissing their compliments as entirely inaccurate might be too harsh. just because you don't see yourself as great doesn't mean you're not making a positive impact on others' lives. 🤔

i remember a time when i felt like I was just faking it, but eventually realized that people appreciated aspects of me that I had been overlooking. there's a fine line between self-awareness and self-deprecation. those who care about you likely see strengths you're ignoring or downplaying.

have you considered that their words reflect a part of you that you're not acknowledging? maybe you're focusing too much on the negative. it's okay to have flaws, but don't let them define your entire identity. finding a balance between their views and your own might give you a clearer perspective.

i totally get where you're coming from. it's like people build their own version of who you are and cling to it; it's frustrating when the person they're hyping up feels miles away from who you actually are. had a similar experience where everyone thought i was super confident, but inside, i was a mess. sometimes the expectations are just too much to handle.

the way you describe your feelings towards your friends and family feels so raw and real. i can understand that resentment, especially when it seems like people are just scratching the surface of what's really going on. what do you think stops you from sharing more of your true self with them? 🤔

finding a way to merge how people see you and who you really are isn't easy, but maybe it's worth trying. bottling it up can be so draining. ever thought about how opening up a little might change those relationships? these situations are tricky, but it sounds like you're navigating it as best as you can.

man, that's rough. it feels like you're carrying a heavy load of expectations and internal conflicts 🤯. life can be pretty messy when how you feel on the inside doesn't match what others see. sometimes people just can't grasp the complexity of what's going on inside your head.

sounds like you're stuck between being true to yourself and meeting other people's expectations. no wonder it's exhausting. it's wild how folks can think they know us when they're only seeing a small slice of who we are. finding some peace with that would really lighten the load. navigating these feelings can be tough, but you're not alone in that struggle.

i understand your frustration; feeling misunderstood by those around you can be incredibly isolating. people tend to create an image of you based on their perceptions, often missing the intricate layers beneath. it's a real challenge when you say, "i truly do because it's not true," and they don't understand the complexity of your emotions.

your reservations about being seen as "the best" resonate with many who struggle with similar feelings. their compliments might feel hollow, like echoes of expectations you can't internalize! how often do we let others' perceptions dictate our sense of self??? it's tough to navigate. perhaps there's room to consider whether these viewpoints hold any kernel of truth or positive insight you might have overlooked. recognizing this complexity is a meaningful step toward reconciling these internal conflicts.

i feel you so much!!! it's like everyone's got this wrong idea of who you are 😅 even when you're trying to be real. you're living with all these contradictions and it's like no one gets it; it's exhausting.

hard to believe people don't see past their own version of you?! you seem to be carrying a whole lot, and that's not easy. ever think about how sharing a bit more realness might shake things up a little? honesty's a tough road, but maybe it could help you find some balance in all this chaos. keep hanging in there!!!

man, i get you're feeling this way, but maybe you're being too hard on yourself. people see the good in you, and you dismissing it like it's nothing might not be fair; maybe there's something to learn from their perspective?

it's easy to get lost in the negatives, but don't be so quick to throw away those compliments!!! sometimes they can shine a light on things you can't see in yourself. i had a friend who always saw the worst in himself, but one day he realized everyone else might be seeing something real. so, have you thought that they might actually be right about some of it? maybe it's time to let yourself believe some of that positivity. 😊