[So for context I live in Italy, and here we rent home for university student, and I live with three other girls ( for extra privacy we'll call them A, B and C)

The problem is that since we met, A has had some attitudes that I would say are not good. For context, if she is sad or angry it is noticeable, she makes it evident, and she often has main character syndrome behaviors, A is usually a very lively and clingy person so when she is sad or angry you notice it because she is silent and snorts frequently. Over time, I've started to have a different attitude in situations where she acts like this (before, she was often asked what was wrong, if everything was okay), that is, I stay silent, ignoring her obvious sadness; the problem with the whole situation is that neither B nor C can tolerate her when she acts like this anymore, but B continues to ask her why she's sad knowing that she'll give her unwanted vents, which often turn out to be quite heavy to hear, talking to B about the situation I found myself in a moment of discussion about it, because she "complains" that A is always like this but at the same time she continues to ask A why she is sad, It seems so stupid to me, and at the end of the discussion I got "angry" saying that it was wrong to keep asking her what went wrong, because that way A would never learn to regulate her emotions (for context: A has a background in which she had angry issues even for the smallest things, and furthermore, being an only child, no one ever said no to her, so let's say that her emotions don't know how to regulate them very well) (other context: these situations happen like 2/3 times a week and before you can think of anything you need to know that she regularly feels "bad" about situations where normal people would continue their day as if nothing had happened)

B she agreed with me, even if it seemed forced, at this point my guilt almost ate me up, and I started to think that maybe I could actually be the bad guy in the whole situation

Am I the bad one for acting and thinking this way?

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