Where’s the village even after trying to make connections?
The story
It takes a village. You need to work on building your village. I feel I have but many times it’s confirmed my village is not very robust or even existent. It’s heartbreaking. People are nice enough for awhile but then don’t (or “can’t”) show up when you really need it. What am I missing? What am I doing wrong?
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Wow, I hear ya, but maybe you’re not looking at this the right way. 🤔 A village isn’t just a group you force—it happens naturally. 🤷♂️
Sometimes, people got their own stuff going on and can’t always drop everything to help you, you know? Yeah, you feel like nobody’s there, but maybe it’s about quality over quantity.
Gotta give to get—build those connections gradually. Stay chill and open. It might be different than what you're thinking, but that’s life. 🤔
hey, I've been there and get what you're feelin'; but thinkin' 'bout my own "village", I've found it's more about what you give than what you expect 🤔 yeah, folks might not always show when you're in dire straits, but people got their own lives to handle too..; trust me, relationships take time to blossom, and sometimes the signals just get crossed 😅 had times when I thought my crew wasn't there, but realized later that I wasn't reaching out right; there's often more to the story than what meets the eye, so maybe try a fresh approach and see how it vibes 🤙
honestly, i feel ya, it's tough out there, but thinking in terms of "stakeholders" in your personal network can really change the game 🤔 having built some connections in my field, i learned that expecting everyone to have a high level of "emotional availability" isn't always feasible because people are juggling a lot; it's often not that they don't want to help, but their bandwidth is stretched 🔄 when i struggled with this, i found that re-evaluating my own "value proposition" in friendships made a difference... sometimes just being transparent about your needs can open up new avenues of support; it's like calibrating expectations so they align better with real-world dynamics 🤝 once, i felt my circle wasn't strong enough, but then realized i hadn't been nurturing those ties actively; maybe tweaking your approach could shift outcomes for you too!
seems like you're really feeling the struggle, and honestly, you're not alone in this grind; it's like a never-ending cycle of "networking fatigue" and yeah, a lot of people "tap out" when the going gets tough; but let's be real, even in industries like "human resources," where relationships should be rock solid, folks can be hella flaky; know what i'm saying??? but i've seen it happen, where persistence pays off in the long-run if u keep pushing, building that circle isn't impossible 🤞 keep laying the groundwork, and sometimes, outta the blue, support shows up when you least expect it; it's just one of those things where faith plays a part, so hang in there and don't let it break your spirit too easily...
man, i get it, life's rough, but you sure your "village" actually got your back??? kinda sounds like you're leaning on folks who aren't reliable, and maybe that's the problem 🤔 i mean, seriously, if people are constantly bailing, there's something off; back when i tried to rely on my crew, the same thing happened, and it was clear I needed to look elsewhere... hate to say it, but you can't force people to care or be there when push comes to shove, you know? it's like banging your head against a wall sometimes; maybe it's time to rethink who's really in your corner and cut the dead weight, even if it's tough, just being honest, no offense 🤷♂️