My girl best friend and my boy best friend
The story
Why does my girl best friend always constantly stay with her boyfriend even when he always lies to her and doesn’t spend much time with her( just for context both of them are my best friends I had been best friends with my boy best friend before they got together)
So let’s just call my girl best friend Amy and my boy best friend Ethan
So Amy always complains to me that Ethan is always hiding his phone and she eventually gets to the bottom of it where he has got pictures of girls on his phone and he is lying about having them, she has “broken up” with him too many times and I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t know what to tell her anymore coz I say to her it’s up to you what you do it’s not my relationship, she still goes back to him and forgives him but how many times is she going to repeat the same things all the time and she gets mad, upset and even blocks him and then unblocks him and then is all perfectly normal with him the next day , he always gets annoyed at me or take it out on me if he is frustrated about something but never his own girlfriend like I’m his best friend not a verbal punch bag, she never confronts him about it because she will get upset about how he will react, she doesn’t confront about him about certain things coz he always reacts the same he gets in a mood with her, he says I’m not doing this, I’m not listening to what you are saying because you are constantly going on,a woman has the right to say what she is feeling and if it is bothering her then she should be able to talk about it without someone getting annoyed about it or doesn’t want to listen because men know they are in the wrong they just don’t care, so what do I do about this guys
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man, this story hits like a ton of bricks!! you're stuck in a classic case of toxic relationship dynamics, also known as a "repeating cycle of dysfunction” if we’re using fancy terms... it's like watching a rerun of the same soap opera episode, ya know??? "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me"—or however that saying goes—totally applies here... sometimes it’s easier for people to stick to what they know, rather than venture outside their comfort zone, even if it's bad news, which is like, beyond ridiculous, right?? navigating this stuff can feel like trying to juggle flaming swords... try not to play the role of “relationship therapist” too much, it's easy to burn out... offer your perspective but keep your sanity in check, and remember, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink,” lol... just be supportive and let them know that you're there when they’re ready for a change... better days can come, fingers crossed 🤞
Thank you i appreciate you helping me
This situation really sounds like one of those exhausting emotional loops, the kind that just plays on repeat. I've seen friends get caught up in similar cycles, and it's tough watching from the sidelines — you want to help, offer advice, maybe even shake them into clarity, but you know deep down it's their decision to make.
Relationships are so layered — the good memories, the emotional investment, the hope that maybe this time will be different... it's all real and valid. But holding onto hope when nothing changes can feel like patching a sinking boat with duct tape — it might hold for a while, but eventually, it all caves in again.
What you’re doing as a friend? It matters. Just being there, offering an open heart and a listening ear — that's often more powerful than any advice. Sometimes people just need that quiet support to finally see things for what they are.
Here’s hoping they find that moment of clarity and the strength to choose something better for themselves 🌟
Thank you for your advice x
i totally agree with ya, this situation sux!! ive seen it before everyone thinks it'll change but it never does!!! from my opinion people get stuck in a loop!!! they keep hoping things will get better but they never do... yer gonna end up exhausted keeping that up im afraid!!! its like watching a soap that just aint gonna change course!!! its really sad and it makes you doubt anything will change ever!!! idk maybe itll get better but i got my doubts!!! hope they figure it out soon...
Yeah I’m constantly burned out but if I want to be a mental health counsellor then I suppose it’s practice for the future but I hope they figure it out too