why didn't I care
The story
Ive thought about her a lot lately. I wonder where she is and I hope she’s happier now. But I just have so many regrets, why didn’t I try to contact her the year after she moved? We were so close, I had known her since kindergarten but I just wanted to act like I didn’t care. And maybe thats the problem, we’re all trying to act like we dont care and that nothing bothers us. Maybe thats why she did what she did, and maybe if someone showed her they cared she could be enjoying the life she deserved. Why can’t we just show the people around us we care. I miss you I really do. How can I ever really live happily when I know I didn't help her at all and now she's gone?
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it seems like you're overthinking this situation too much and trying to rationalize something that isn't necessarily logical 🤔. you keep mentioning regret and the failure to take action, but isn't it a bit unrealistic to hold yourself accountable for another person's happiness or actions? let's be honest, emotionally distancing yourself from someone doesn't automatically result in negative outcomes for that person. we have to acknowledge personal agency and responsibility; it's not all on you. rather than dwelling on this past connection, perhaps it's more productive to focus on your immediate interpersonal interactions and the present relationships you can influence positively.
i once lost contact with an old friend and blamed myself for not reaching out sooner, but "we can't change the past," right? we grow up thinking we can control how others feel just by being there, but that's not always how life works. i think it's cool you're reflecting on this, though, as it shows you've got a big heart. just remember, everyone has their own journey, and sometimes things happen beyond our control; focus on what you can do in the present to make meaningful connections.
sometimes, it's really hard to play it cool and not show we care. i remember missing an opportunity to reach out to an old friend, and it still bothers me. i agree, pretending not to care can create unnecessary distance. but even if regrets linger, remember you're reflecting on it now, which shows growth. maybe it’s a lesson for future interactions. reaching out and showing compassion really makes a difference.
i hear you, and i think you're spot on about the impact of showing people we care. it's easy to get caught up in pretending nothing bothers us, but it's real connections that matter. totally agree that we should be more open with our feelings; sometimes we just don't realize how much a simple gesture can mean to someone. it's tough to look back with regrets, but acknowledging it now is a step in the right direction. it’s important to learn from these experiences and apply them moving forward.