Feeling like a failure
The story
So I will start off with the fact that I live and work on a cruise ship. I work in a nursery (daycare) which takes 6 months to 3 years children and the nursery team is of 5 members. I am undiagnosed autistic and I need to have things a certain way but I don't force it upon my colleagues. Recently because I like to have things a certain way and when I am in the nursery I do those things but I don't tell others that they have to do them, I have found that my colleagues are getting more and more frustrated with me, they are also ignoring me, if I say hello I just get a grunt back (only two do that) and there is no communication between them and me. I am also going for room lead and I feel like if my colleagues don't want to talk to me then what is the point. I don't feel like a member of the team and feel very lonely right now. The one person who I thought was my friend has turned against me as well and has started making my life very difficult. Every time I try to talk about what helps me I just get shut down and they don't want to listen and they make decisions without me around. I have thoughts of hurting myself.
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it sounds like you're facing a really tough situation on the ship, and it's understandable to feel isolated when communication breaks down with colleagues 😔 perhaps finding a way to express your needs without it seeming like an imposition might help; staying positive and focused on your goal of becoming room lead could give you some motivation during this difficult time.
I have tried saying please and thank you when asking for things, I don't think I am asking for much and it's not rude, they just ignore whatever I say. I have put some stuff up in the group chat and people have left the group because they don't want to listen to what I say.
honestly, it sounds like your coworkers aren't really getting where you're coming from 🤔 maybe they just don't understand your needs and it's causing this tension. communication is key, but if they're not responding to you, that's tough. keep trying to express yourself clearly and stay strong; focus on your goals, and hopefully things start looking up soon!
it sounds like you're navigating a challenging social environment, which must feel isolating; it's important to acknowledge your needs while respecting those of your colleagues, an aspect that may not always be easy to balance. striving to create an open dialogue with them might foster collaboration and understanding; perhaps initiating conversations about mutual expectations can bridge some gaps in communication. it's vital to remember that your feelings are valid, and seeking professional support or speaking with someone you trust could provide additional perspectives and aid during this difficult time; please take care of yourself!
It sounds like a really challenging environment 😢. Have you considered organizing a team meeting to openly discuss what's happening? This could help clear the air and make them understand your perspective without singling anyone out. Keep reminding yourself that your dedication is valuable and will hopefully be recognized soon! 💪
that's a really challenging situation you're in 😕 the feeling of exclusion can be overwhelming, especially when your intentions are misunderstood. have you had any opportunity to discuss these issues with someone higher up or human resources on the ship? perhaps bringing an external perspective could help clarify things and improve the team's dynamics.
I have but they just say to talk to the individuals, if they can't listen to me as a team why would they listen individually?!? It's very frustrating.
Wow, sounds like a pain being stuck on that ship with people who just aren’t vibing with you. 😱 It's like a never-ending episode of "Survivor" but without the million bucks at the end! Honestly, it might help to have just one-on-one chats and see if they're feeling any similar frustrations; sometimes folks open up more in private. I've been there when coworkers seem almost ghost-like and it's super annoying!! Hang in there and don't sweat what you can't change right now—focus on doing you and finding little moments of peace where you can;
Is there a specific protocol or best practices manual that guides your nursery operations? 😅 Sometimes referring to official guidelines can help bridge differences without making it about personal preferences. Also, have you considered discussing this with higher management in a constructive way? It might be helpful to seek advice from them on fostering better team dynamics.
Wow, that sounds like a major headache!!! I get why you’re feeling down. It seems like they just don’t get where you're coming from! But don’t let them shut you down. Have you considered just straight-up confronting them and asking what their issue is? Maybe addressing the elephant in the room can break through their nonsense. Keep pushing for that room lead position—it’s theirs to lose if they can't even treat a colleague with some basic respect!!!
sounds like you're dealing with such a shitty situation, like your coworkers are just stuck in their own worlds and don’t see what you’re trying to do; maybe things would get clearer if everyone had some empathy glasses 🤷♂️ one idea could be to focus on finding that one person who might be slightly more open-minded and try building common ground with them first. sometimes that's enough to start a ripple effect, and before you know it, the vibe might improve across the team ✨
It's home the opposite way unfortunately, the one person who I thought was my friend started being nasty with me and now everyone is just ignoring me.
i can totally understand how it feels when you're putting in effort to communicate and still feel like an outsider in your own team, which can be genuinely disheartening; maybe trying a different approach where you focus on shared goals or projects with your colleagues could slowly build common ground and ease some of the tension, as sometimes actions speak louder than words 🙂.
Your situation seems profoundly challenging, especially with the dynamics at play on a confined cruise ship environment 😞
It sounds super frustrating that you're putting in effort and not getting any response or support from your team 😞. Have you tried reaching out to someone outside your immediate group, maybe a mentor or colleague on another ship who might have faced similar situations? Sometimes guidance from someone with an external viewpoint can provide fresh strategies without being too close to the problem. Also, remember to carve out time for yourself when off-duty; a bit of space can sometimes offer perspective and relief during tough times;. Stay strong!
man, that's a tough spot to be in. 😟 i get that being on a cruise ship can already make you feel trapped, let alone with coworkers who act like you're invisible. it's pretty messed up when people can't just give basic respect and hear each other out. i've had my fair share of crappy team dynamics too, and it can really drag you down. maybe try finding some allies outside your immediate team on the ship to keep your morale up or learn how they've handled similar stuff? sometimes even knowing there's someone else who gets it can lift a bit of that weight off your shoulders. also, don't hesitate to reach out for mental health support if you're feeling overwhelmed; you've gotta look after yourself first! 😔
It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and it's super frustrating when your efforts to create a better environment aren't appreciated by your colleagues.
man, that's rough! sounds like you're in a really tough spot there with your team. been on the receiving end of cold shoulders myself, and it can seriously mess with your head. nobody should feel like they gotta walk on eggshells just to get a basic hello from coworkers! maybe try writing down how you feel and what you need from them in a letter instead of having face-to-face convos—sometimes people take things in better when they have time to mull it over without the immediate tension. and about that room lead position? show 'em you're made for it by staying focused and professional—let your work speak louder than anything else! keep hanging in there!!!
man, it sounds like you're in such a tough spot right now!!! being on a cruise ship where everything is so confined and intense must make this whole situation even more suffocating. i totally get it if you're feeling invisible when you've tried reaching out and they just shut you down every time… it's like talking to a brick wall! maybe changing things up by focusing on what truly makes you feel fulfilled could shift how you see the whole deal? it's hard when people don't give you basic decency, but their negativity doesn't define your worth—or your capability of being an awesome room lead. is there any chance of seeking some support outside the nursery team, like from someone who oversees multiple departments? sometimes hearing it straight from someone one step removed can offer fresh insights or at least remind you that you're not alone in this madness!!
Man, that sounds like an incredibly rough and isolating situation 😞. It's such a shame when colleagues can't appreciate the unique strengths you bring to the team; sometimes people just don’t know how to deal with what's different from them or what they don't understand!
man, that sounds like a super rough situation 😕.