Hey autistic people, can you answer my question?
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Sorry if I sounded too blunt or rude. Anyways, this is a bit of an extension, but I have some questions. Do you guys hate neurotypicals? Do you guys hate all weird sounds or touch or smells? If I say something rude to you on accident in the moment will you leave me and be forever angry? Do you take everything very personally? Is it okay for me to focus on your needs more than mine and always be what you want? Does your mental disability excuse what wrong things you do, because I feel that as a NT, I should tolerate such behaviors I find annoying or uncomfortable because in the end, I'm a dumb neurotypical next to a person who is from a group who's been heavily stigmatized and abused for years, so maybe me getting hurt is alright. Do you guys always hate NT people's interests? Should I mask myself for you because if autistic people mask it's not good but if neurotypicals mask it's okay because they're not mentally ill? Should I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and inflating myself from anxiety I may hurt you in horrible ways? Should I change myself so you can feel comfortable, because if you change it's bad because autistic folks masking is bad, but if I do it it's good? Do you guys hate physical touch? When you have a meltdown, do you guys want everyone out of the room, and during meltdowns do you have every right to say mean things to me? Trust me, at 13, sometimes I feel like a rude jerk, and maybe that's why I don't have friends. During meltdowns, can you guys hit or yell at me? During meltdowns can you throw objects around? During meltdowns, should I stay quiet and leave the room? And when we're together, should I always choose to stay quiet? Because I heard that selective mutism can help in these cases? I feel if an NT person gets hurt or bruised, it doesn't count as bad because we're not disabled, we're very much okay and healthy and maybe just stronger, but if it's you maybe it hurts a lot. Maybe this full question is dumb, like me.
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same autistic guy here, no we do not hate neurotypicals, no we do not hate all weird senses, we usually wont leave and hold grudges, though it depends on the person. no we do not take things extremely personally all the time. it is okay, but please take care of yourself. autism does not excuse wrongdoings. no we do not hate nt peoples interests. don't mask yourself for the comfort of others. you shouldn't feel like you're walking on eggshells. don't change yourself. some of us hate physical touch, but not all of us. meltdowns are different for everyone. getting hurt is getting hurt, neurodivergent or not. you aren't dumb for asking this, though it was a bit off-putting to read.
also your post and questions felt kind of attacking and angry, please watch your tone
sorry I meant to post than under my own comment lol I'm sobbing
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hello there um please do not call autism a mental illness thanks. we do not hate all weird sensations, for example i love the feel of velcro or sandpaper and cannot function if my socks are wet. if you upset us, and this really depends on the person, we will forgive you if you give us time. we don't hate neurotypicals, we just dont understand you the same way you dont understand us lol. i have some really good nt friends (even though most of my friends arent, i actually dont know why that is lol). ive never had a meltdown so i can't say, but honestly autism is never an excuse for bad behaviour. sure, maybe it's the reason or part of the reason but it isnt the excuse. while some autistic people do hate physical touch, i personally love it, but only from a few people im really comfortable with, like my friends and family. we don't take things personally all the time, we're just overly literal lol.
Oh hey you may not be here, I saw your message but I didn't mean it in a negative way. I meant in because I see so many videos from an autistic person's POV (it's @kaelynnism and @candycourn), that I kinda feel bad once they show their struggles. I actually feel that way about any vent video, like I did something wrong, by existing or feeling happy. I've been stressed by some stuff for a while, so I am very sorry I ruined your day with this.
oh lol you didn't ruin my day 😊 and being happy isn't ever wrong, you can feel happy! its ok if you don't always at all times feel the same way everyone else does
Thanks, man. Gee, I guess this is what they meant when they said folks like you can be blunt. Oh well, sometimes I can also be that way. Still, you corrected me and that's good.
It seems like you're grappling with a lot of questions about navigating relationships between neurodiverse and neurotypical people, which can be complex for sure, but it's important to remember that everyone is different and communication goes a long way in understanding each other better 😉
Honestly, it sounds like you're overthinking a lot of this. Sure, everybody's got quirks, but it's not always about tiptoeing around each other—you gotta be real too. Focus on being understanding without losing yourself in the process. At the end of the day, friendship should be a two-way street, no one's needs are more important than others'. And dude, don't label yourself as dumb; asking questions is how you learn! 🤷♂️
bro, it sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself to get everything perfect when dealing with autistic folks. first off, nobody's expecting you to be a mind-reader here. you gotta realize that everyone's different and generalizing those questions won't really help you out much. just communicate openly and ask the person how they feel about these specific things—easy peasy 😏. also, seems like you're overthinking the whole "walking on eggshells" thing; it's not all black and white, and mutual understanding is way more valuable than tiptoeing around each other. chill out a bit, just focus on respecting each other's differences without losing yourself in the process.
navigating relationships with neurodiverse individuals can indeed be a complex matter, especially at your age when you're still figuring things out; it's commendable that you're asking questions and seeking clarity. it’s important to remember that while some behaviors might stem from neurological differences, they don't exempt people entirely from accountability; mutual respect should always be the foundation. instead of feeling you must change who you are or walk on eggshells, focus on open communication and setting healthy boundaries for everyone involved.
Hey there, I think it's really interesting that you're asking these questions, but it seems like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself to act a certain way around neurodivergent people; Remember, relationships are about mutual understanding and compromise. I believe the key is communication—getting to know each person's preferences can be more helpful than making assumptions based on broad categories. Personally, I've found that patience and openness go a long way in connecting with others, regardless of whether they're NT or neurodiverse 🙂 You aren't dumb for asking questions; curiosity is how we build bridges between different experiences!
your concerns seem to stem from misconceptions about autism; it's crucial to approach each person as an individual, and not assume one-size-fits-all answers.