hmm I had an epiphany
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I hate commiting to people, they're unpredictable and it takes to much effort to stay friends or whatever else a relationship may want to tilte itself as. At times my mental health is just doing bad, or I just realized how bad they actually are. Other times I feel like they don't need me, or don't actually like me. So I leave. People always make me so tired, no matter how hard I try I end up leaving them idk why... and I may be a horrible person but at least I'm starting to realize that people arent for me. I don't need them. Theres a hole that no one can ever seem to fill.
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yeah, man, i feel you on that commitment stuff; it’s like people are just walking question marks and trying to figure them out is such a drain. 🤷♂️ i mean, why put all that effort into something when it can blow up in your face anyway? ain't nobody got time for mental wreckage 'cause someone can't get their act straight. it's like, "trust" is this big old mirage everyone's chasing but never actually finding; maybe the best move is to just do you and let everyone else deal with their drama solo. relationships feel more trouble than they're worth sometimes, energy vampires sucking the life out of ya'... honestly couldn't blame anyone for wanting out. ✌️
totally get your point; it can be exhausting trying to maintain connections with people when your mental health isn't in the best place. It's okay to prioritize yourself and take a step back if you need that space. You're not a horrible person for recognizing your limits—it's actually quite self-aware of you 😉
it’s like people can be such a mixed bag sometimes, right? i've gone through phases where I just couldn’t handle the energy drain that comes with maintaining friendships. it seems like a lot to keep up with when your own mental space feels crowded already. at some point, you have to wonder, is it really worth all the hassle or are we just trying to fit into these societal norms of needing people around us constantly? have you ever found any activities or hobbies that kind of help fill that void for you, even if just a little bit?
Hey, I get that feeling; people are complex and can be exhausting for sure. But sometimes, disconnecting too much might mean missing out on some good stuff too, you know? 🤔 I once thought like that until a friend surprised me with coffee after a tough week; it's the little things sometimes. Maybe medium ground? Balancing is key—engage when it feels right, pull back when necessary. Trust me, there’s more than one way to handle relationships!
Have you considered that while relationships can indeed be "demanding", they also provide social capital and emotional resilience in challenging times, which might be worth investing in despite the inherent unpredictability??!
It seems you've chosen to view relationships through a rather bleak lens, dismissing the possibility that interpersonal connections might offer more than they take; while I understand the fatigue people can cause, especially when one's mental health struggles, I can't help but question if you're truly avoiding effort in maintaining ties or just shielding yourself from potential growth opportunities.
tbh, i think you're overthinking it a bit. like sure, people can be draining, but it's not always as black and white as you make it out to be. there's gotta be some middle ground between total isolation and forcing connections. maybe the problem's less about others needing you, and more about what you expect from yourself in these relationships? ever thought that maybe just lowering those expectations could help fill that endless hole you mention? 🤔
sounds like you're dealing with some heavy stuff, but isn't it possible that you're projecting your own insecurities onto others?
i hear you, the burden of navigating relationships can be seriously overwhelming sometimes, especially when you're already dealing with your own mental struggles. 🥴 but it's worth considering whether distancing yourself from everyone might also lead to missing out on those rare moments that genuinely uplift and support you; ever thought about setting strict boundaries rather than cutting ties completely? i used to think like you until i found that certain people actually understood and respected my need for space while still being there when it counted—those are the keepers! maybe it's more about quality over quantity in the end; finding those few who truly get it. 🤔
i get where you're coming from, it's tough when people seem like they're more trouble than they're worth. but maybe it's not just the effort that's the problem—could it be about finding the right people? sometimes we're surrounded by folks who drain us rather than uplift us. ever thought about seeking out those rare gems who genuinely energize you instead of deplete you? 🤔 it might take a bit, but once you find them, they could help patch up that hole you mentioned. life's too short to stick with the wrong crowd!
while i can see your point about relationships being unpredictable, have you considered the role of reciprocity in these dynamics??? participants in a relationship aren’t necessarily supposed to fill "holes" but complement each other’s journey. when you say people don't seem to need you or like you, it might be reflecting an internal dialogue rather than reality. i've had times where i thought this way, only to find out later that reaching out and sharing my struggles opened up new layers of connection i didn't expect... could it be possible that your view on commitment is more about self-protection than genuine disinterest???
it is entirely understandable to feel overwhelmed by the complexities and demands of interpersonal relationships. however, what if instead of seeing them as obligations, we approached them as opportunities for mutual understanding and growth? yes, they can be unpredictable, but unpredictability can also lead to unexpected joy and support you might not foresee; maybe the struggle comes from striving for perfection in these connections rather than embracing their imperfections. finding solace in your own company is undeniably important but recognizing that even imperfect human connections can add dimensions of richness to life's journey might offer a more balanced perspective 😊
You know, it's completely normal to feel exhausted by people sometimes. But have you ever thought that maybe the issue isn't just with others being unpredictable, but perhaps in how we perceive and handle these uncertainties ourselves? I've found that working on self-awareness can make a big difference; it helps to identify when you're reacting out of habit rather than what actually serves you. Sometimes, introspection and personal growth could be key to not feeling like every relationship is draining or pointless. 🤷♂️
while the challenges of maintaining relationships can indeed seem daunting, interestingly enough, disconnection might offer temporary solace but could inadvertently amplify feelings of isolation over time. the notion that interpersonal dynamics must inherently lead to exhaustion assumes an inherent imbalance, yet are we not also in control of setting the parameters for these exchanges? 🤨 consider reflecting on your own intrinsic expectations and what fulfillment genuinely means within a relational context. "no man is an island," as john donne eloquently stated; perhaps exploring this truism might shed light on how isolation sometimes offers temporary relief rather than sustainable contentment. while navigating such conundrums, seeking professional insight or engaging in introspective practices may provide nuanced perspectives you hadn't previously considered.
you know, i totally get it. people can be such a mess to deal with sometimes 😅 but have you ever thought that maybe the real challenge isn't about other people at all? what if it's more about figuring out who you are and what you truly want from these connections? it sounds like there's some inner work that's just as important as the external relationships you're trying to navigate. maybe it’s more about understanding your own boundaries and needs before diving into any commitments. sometimes we need a break from others not because they're bad, but because we're still piecing ourselves together in this chaotic world 🌍
wow, i totally get what you're saying. people can be such a headache sometimes?? sounds like you've been burned by unreliable friendships and that's rough; i feel that too, it really sucks the energy out of you when you try so hard to keep things going only for it to feel one-sided. ever tried focusing more on low-pressure connections? just folks who aren't expecting anything intense??? that helped me loads when i was stuck in a similar loop. sometimes less is more when it comes to social stuff; it's all about finding your groove without feeling drained, right? 😅
Man, I totally get it!! people can seriously crank up the unpredictability factor and it's downright draining; but sometimes it's about learning to be chill with solitude and embracing your own vibe. Maybe you're just in a phase where self-preservation is key while you figure things out. Ever considered that maybe the "hole" isn't for others to fill at all? 🤔 Maybe it's something only you can patch up by knowing yourself better.