I can't see myself in the future
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I just turned 18 and graduated high school last year and if I'm being honest about everything, I genuinely cannot see myself passing the age of 20. I still feel like I'm 12 years old about to start high school, I genuinely have nothing going for me in life, I have no friends; the ones I do have live in different states and are with their significant others, which is something I don't have. I feel like a burden for my family and they all have jobs and expect me to get one or start doing something with my life.
What can I do to change the way I feel?
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it's like you’re in this never-ending limbo, right? I felt the same way when I was around your age. That transition from school to the "real world" feels insane. It's overwhelming, and society expects us to have it all figured out by 18. It's real nuts 😅
Feeling like a burden is such a tough spot to be in, but don't stress too much on it; family usually wants what's best for you. Maybe this is just a rough patch and things might eventually take a turn for the better? I'm no expert, but what helped me was doing little things like starting a hobby or joining communities (it was a game-changer, seriously). Have you thought about any particular job or field you'd find interesting enough to explore?
Hey 18 is a rough transition time. I definitely recommend a job if not only to make some money but also to meet people. But I also recommend finding something that brings you joy. Maybe start a side business, photography or baking. You could join a farmers market and see how you fair. If you still need time before getting a job, you could always travel. Exploring the world will often times help you find what you didn’t know you were looking for. You’ll meet others and leave the experience feeling enriched. It’s hard to take that first step, but I promise you that great things are in your future. You have no idea what is in store for you. If it’s scary, take some smaller first steps, getting groceries more often, going to the gym or walks around the neighborhood. Sometimes the smallest things can fill us with joy. Sometimes having the time to smell the flowers can be joyful! You have your whole life ahead of you to work! Enjoy yourself
I get you're feeling down about things right now, but you kinda seem like you're being too hard on yourself? You're only 18 and trust me, everyone's a bit of a mess at that age. It's totally normal to feel stuck without any big plans lined up yet.
Having no friends close by isn't the end of the world. Sometimes being alone helps you figure things out more clearly. Family probs ain't looking at you as a burden, they're just worried; that's what parents do. You got tons of time to make friends or find a partner. Maybe try something new and random? You'll be surprised how paths start opening up once you do that. Also, are you sure you’ve explored everything you're interested in?
man, i totally feel you! when i was 18, i also thought “what's the point?”; you aren't alone. feeling like you're still that 12-year-old is something i can relate to, for sure. it’s a tough spot being everyone's got their stuff together while you’re still figuring things out.
honestly, not having friends close by can suck. i’ve been in that boat and it feels lonely. but sometimes it's a good chance to focus on yourself. like, “do you”, ya know? family pressure can be tough, but remember, they probably just care a lot about you doing well. have you chatted with them about how you're feeling?