Lying to counsellor
The story
I’m 14 and my dad pays a lot of money for my counsellor after he realised I was cutting myself last year (I mostly let him know as I’d been doing it a while without him noticing). I feel really guilty because I’ve been seeing her for a while and I still feel the same, which is a constant sick, sad kind of feeing, and I plan to die as soon as I’ve moved away. I felt so guilty that I’ve been lying to her and my dad about feeling better, and now it’s gotten too a point where I’m too embarrassed and ashamed to confess that I’m still feeling this way. How do I tell my counsellor that I still feel bad? I don’t know if this website is appropriate for this but I don’t have any real people who I can ask right now and I feel the urge to cut.
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Hey, I just gotta say, I totally understand where you're coming from and it pisses me off how much pressure there is to "feel better" just because you're getting help. Like, this isn't a Hollywood movie where a few therapy sessions magically cure everything. I remember when I was in a similar spot, seeing a therapist and pretending I was on the mend just to make everyone else happy, like putting on some damn Oscar-worthy performance. But man, that only made things worse, piling on the guilt and shame - it’s a vicious cycle.
You gotta be real with your counselor, though, seriously. They can't help if they don't have the full picture. It's like trying to solve a puzzle without all the pieces. Yeah, it’ll probably feel awkward at first, but trust me, they've heard it all before and more. Just let them know straight-up how you're feeling. They'll likely appreciate your honesty, and it can lead to a way more productive therapy experience.
And for what it’s worth, I think reaching out here is a smart move. Maybe this place isn't your final destination for help, but it's a great start to being heard. Forget the embarrassment and shame—those emotions are just screwing with your head, keeping you from getting the support you really need. Stay strong.
Hey there, I hear you, but I gotta say, I think you might be being a bit too hard on yourself. Therapy isn’t some quick fix; it's like a journey, and it can take a while to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But why skip the vital part of being honest when that’s where the real help comes from? 🤔 You owe it to yourself to be upfront with your counselor; they can only help if they know what's really going on!
It might feel like you're stuck in a loop now, but recovery is rarely a straight line. Everyone's road to feeling better is a bit twisty-turny, and sometimes it feels like you’re running in place; I get that it’s frustrating. But lying to keep up appearances? Who does that benefit?? Being honest with your therapist might open up paths you hadn’t thought of before. Keep your head up and give it a shot!
ugh, totally get it 😩 therapy ain't magic, right? paying a crazy amount and still feeling like crap sucks... been there before with a shrink and felt like I was getting nowhere; just spinning my wheels. lying to make it look like things are getting better? yeah, been down that road too... and it's exhausting!! 🥴 if your head’s still a mess, gotta spill the beans to your counselor. being stuck in this loop of fake happiness helps no one and just keeps you drowning in guilt. give it a shot... what’s the worst that could happen???
completely understand where you're coming from. it seems like therapy isn't giving you the relief or answers you're looking for. "therapy can feel like it's going in circles," as many people have said, and I totally get why you're feeling guilty. it's essential to be honest with your counselor about how you're truly feeling; they need to know the full story to help you better. maybe it's daunting, but it'll be worth it. you deserve to feel better 😊