My university became a pandemonium
The story
I feel like everything's strange since she's been in my life—well, them. Everything's strange. I feel like I can't write calmly. I'm afraid of straying from the norm they want. When I post things on my social media where they're not present, I feel like they're watching me. Also, when I write, I feel like they're pressuring me to keep me insistent when I write, and so they can accuse me of being pushy, obsessive, or something like that.
I don't feel good around her. Her boyfriend is an arrogant person who likes to make others feel bad, and he's also extremely violent, and about things that connect with his past and aren't really a topic of conversation. With her, I feel like every time she has the chance to criticize me for something, once I'm comfortable, she just does it; first she gives in, and then she leaves, pretending to act in ways that keep me quiet or keep me unaware of the issue.
I don't know why these people wanted to associate with me. I feel the hugs from her boyfriend are absolutely fake. Once, I felt like she pulled me in for a hug, and I felt like she was going to accuse me of being a stalker, a pervert. These people really don't give me a good feeling.
I was with her once and said goodbye, thinking she was going to come with me, but no, it turned out she left with her work group. However, when I said goodbye to them, they displayed a strange, absorbing silence. They gave me the impression they were upset with me because of a possessive spirit. Frankly, I acted like nothing was happening, but it really seemed strange to me. Added to this is the fact that several of them, the women in that work group, seem extremely expressive and confident, leaving it up to you to decide whether they're looking for something or not. More than once, I half-assedly tried to get closer to see what the outcome would be, only to be met with rejection, which I dodged. Of course, this group likes to provoke when something gets out of order, invading the normalcy with which they treat you. That order consisted of everything regarding its members being consensual. For God's sake, it's a work group! How can they pretend to be like that?! They seem like those typical dysfunctional families, who are meddlesome in everything related to their members, and like things the way they like them, so as not to lose profits.
The disorder was palpable. Furthermore, that girl liked to encourage her boyfriend to get into situations that always bordered on the limits, provoking others, while being complacent when it came to coworkers. It seemed that her bosses, somehow, maintained the situation or had gotten used to it.
I also didn't like that girl was insinuating things about her relationship, saying that things were going badly, and at the same time treating her as if he were her husband or something. On top of that, she expressed that her environment put too much pressure on her; I saw her numerous times.
What I found in those people was a complete disaster. A total disaster. I don't want them in my life. They are invasive, they provoke others, they push boundaries, and no one does anything to prevent these situations. What this seems to me is a group of victims, who also like to have order in everything around them, with everything they interact with, typical of victims. Furthermore, this is at a prestigious university. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. The overload, due to the excesses, is becoming degrading to me. I have to get away from all these people immediately.
I will definitely leave some things behind, however, I will not be in a place where this behavior is encouraged. Besides, it was the university where I studied. I wondered, how could they have ruined it like this? For me, it was practically a luxury, even though I am Catholic. And it is also one of the best in the country. This had to be a nightmare. I wondered, "Where were the priests?" Besides, if the place where I worked, and where I observed the scenes with her boyfriend, was the library, what were they like in other places that are less important to students? I feel like there's no room for peace there, no way. I wanted to have a good time, to be comfortable, but under these relationships, under these people, it's impossible because I have to move as they please. I understand why they chose to associate with me, with extreme kindness. For me, my beloved university, being that library where I liked to study and it was the best place for that, was completely lost.
I felt each of those employees using their positions purely to socialize, instead of using them to work. She sometimes neglected her responsibilities; I had to remind her of her duties. The most horrible thing is that her boyfriend was a sexist... I honestly wanted to die. I can't believe what I witnessed.
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Whoa, seems like you've been through quite a whirlwind at that uni; but don't let it get to you too much. People can be all over the place, right? I get that those experiences can feel heavy. Maybe steering clear of them and focusing on what you love about the place could help. There's always a silver lining; hang in there! 🙂
your account of these events is quite distressing, and I must say, i completely empathize with your perspective!!! it reminds me of a situation I experienced where the atmosphere was similarly fraught with tension and volatility. "a total disaster" indeed captures the chaotic essence of the environment you describe. it is unfortunate that such dynamics persist, especially within such a prestigious institution. maintaining one's composure in the midst of such disorder appears to be a Herculean task. it is disappointing when an academic setting becomes overshadowed by interpersonal dysfunction. confrontation might not be the solution here; leaving might be the most prudent course of action 😟
your narrative paints quite an unsettling picture, but forgive me if i'm skeptical about its accuracy. 🤔 i've been in similar environments, and sometimes our emotions amplify perceived negativity. terms like "extremely violent" and "total disaster" suggest hyperbole more than reality. interpersonal relations are complex, and it's possible you're projecting your uncertainties onto others. a "possessive spirit" and "fake hugs" are subjective interpretations rather than absolute truths. perhaps reassessing the situation with a more objective lens might provide clarity. emojis?!! – they might not convey the seriousness you intend. maybe consider the broader context before making drastic decisions!
sounds like you're dealing with some major drama. but honestly, are things as bad as they seem? maybe your perspective is a bit skewed; "extremely violent" and "total disaster" might be exaggerations. people can be hard to read, but not everyone is out to get you. could it be that you're misinterpreting some of these interactions? it's tough, but keeping your cool might help you see things more clearly. good luck navigating this situation!
seems like you're overreacting??? your narrative definitely evalute like things are out of hand, but are they really as calamitous as you perceive??? interpersonal dynamics can often be complex, and i perceive some ambiguity in your interpretation. maybe some of the situations are fueled by misunderstanding or assumptions; is there a possibility you have misjudged the intensity of these interactions?!!! might there be another way to perceive this environment or is departure the only solution? 🤔
sounds like you're blowing things out of proportion. not entirely convinced by your portrayal of events 🤨 have you considered that the "strange" vibes could be more about your perspective than reality? the allegations of being "invasive" and "provocative" seem quite subjective. without concrete evidence, it's hard to justify such harsh judgments. maybe re-evaluate the situation before jumping to conclusions 🙄
your experience sounds intense, but maybe there is a bit of an overreaction here. in my own work life, i've learned that interpreting social cues can be tricky. "everything's strange" might just be a reflection of the pressure you're under, rather than the people themselves. behaviors you describe, like being "invasive" or "provocative," can sometimes be misunderstandings rather than deliberate actions. maybe a direct and open dialogue could shed light on the situation; communication often unravels such complexities. 🤔