Self loathing.

Hey there, I get that you're feeling really down about yourself right now, but I gotta say, I don’t think you’re giving yourself enough credit here. 🤔 I mean, we all have things we don't like about ourselves, and that's just part of being human. I, for one, have never been satisfied with my own appearance, but I'm slowly learning to just go with the flow.

Honestly, all that stuff about being "unattractive in every aspect" sounds pretty intense and over the top. Like, you’ve probably got more going for you than you realize. Self-criticism is a weird thing—it can feel all-consuming, but sometimes taking a step back shows you it's not as big as you think. I remember hearing that quote, "Comparison is the thief of joy," and it’s stuck with me because it’s true. Always comparing ourselves to unrealistic standards just makes us miserable.

As for not dating for a while, I bet you're just going through a rough patch, and let's face it, dating's rough these days anyhow. The world’s your oyster, as they say, and you never know when things are going to turn around. Give yourself a break from feeling like you have to meet these sky-high criteria to be worth someone’s time. Real connections are based on more than just looks, right? 🤷‍♂️

Eating and drinking too much is relatable for a lot of us; been there, done that, thanks to stress and whatever else. 🤦‍♀️ It’s a vicious cycle, but taking small steps to change could make a big difference. Can't lie, it's definitely hard, but maybe start by focusing on one thing at a time. Anyways, hang in there, "this too shall pass," as the saying goes. You deserve some peace, and with time, hopefully, you start seeing the good things about yourself. 😊

You're being way too harsh on yourself. The way you talk about being "unattractive in every aspect" is exaggerated and untrue. Self-loathing clouds judgment, making us see flaws where they don't even exist.

I've been in a similar place, tearing myself down over the smallest imperfections. Trust me, it's a waste of energy. Focusing on those flaws won't fix a thing. You're not as "hideous" as you claim. Nobody's perfect, and expecting that is unrealistic.

Seven years without dating isn't some monumental failure. It happens. For various reasons, sometimes you're just not in the right place or meeting the right people. Stop acting like there's a timer ticking down on your life. You're at a stage in your life where you can redefine your paths, not give up on them.

Thinking you'll end up with someone "below your league" is honestly nonsense. Connections go way deeper than looks or some self-imposed league standings. It sounds like you're looking for excuses, not solutions.

Sort out your habits. Drinking and eating too much is a choice, and it's a habit you can change. Take charge instead of spiraling in your own critique. If I've managed to steer my habits around, so can you. Change starts when you quit the pity party and face things head-on.

i totally get where you're coming from and I agree with how you're feeling about all this. it might seem like everything is just weighing you down right now, but it's a brave move to open up about it. feeling unattractive and lost in life? that's something a lot of folks go through, even if they don't always talk about it. you're not alone, not by a long shot.

the bit where you said, "what I’m not changing I’m choosing," really hits home; it's tough but kind of true. this is where the opportunity for change kicks in, though. yeah, you're dealing with rejection and haven't dated in a while, and that really sucks. I've been there, and it feels like no one gets you or cares, but don’t write off finding someone who appreciates you for who you really are.

eating and drinking too much can definitely turn into a nasty cycle, but the fact that you're aware of it is awesome. you're on the right path just by recognizing it, and from here, you can start taking small steps to tweak things in a healthier direction, bit by bit. who knows? tackling one thing at a time can snowball into something positive.

keep in mind, the feelings you're swamped with now don't have to stick around forever. things have a funny way of working out, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. there's a lot of hope in realizing things can change for the better!

i totally feel you and mostly agree with how brutal life can seem sometimes. it's like you're caught in this endless loop of feeling bad about yourself, and yeah, that sucks. when you say, "what I'm not changing I'm choosing," that hits hard; it's so easy to get stuck in that mindset. but who's telling you that you have to stay in that same rut forever?

i've been in that spot where you just see flaws in the mirror every day. i used to think my crooked nose was a deal-breaker. it felt like a big flashing sign announcing my imperfections to the world. turns out, nobody else really noticed or cared, so maybe your chipped tooth isn't the huge deal it feels like. do you think that's part of why dating's been tough, or is it more about not meeting the right people?

as for feeling lost near your 30s, you're definitely not alone on that one. 🤔 it feels like the world expects us to have our lives together by then, but that's totally unrealistic. most people are winging it more than they'd care to admit. dealing with the "drag" of daily life is exhausting, and I get why everything feels like a chore right now.

have you considered taking a break from the usual routine? might help clear your head a bit. when I felt stuck, I tried changing up small habits—like taking a walk instead of reaching for a snack or drink—and gradually I started feeling a tad better. it's not magic, but it's something. what do you think could help snap you out of this funk? maybe just saying screw it to something that's holding you back and trying something new could break the cycle. 🤷‍♀️

i hear what you're saying, but I kind of have to disagree with how you're viewing things. you're really coming down hard on yourself, and it's clear you're feeling stuck, but let me tell you something: this isn't all there is. there's more to you than what you're giving yourself credit for.

take that chipped tooth, for instance. you see it as a flaw, but it might just be something that makes you uniquely you. i remember when i had braces, and all i saw were metal tracks; eventually, i realized they were just steps toward something better. it's all about your perspective and how you frame these things in your mind.

saying you're unattractive "in every aspect possible" seems a bit too harsh. from my experience, it's usually all in our heads. there's more to attractiveness than meets the eye; charisma and personality carry a lot of weight too. how about focusing on what you do like about yourself and building from there?

as for being single for seven years, it might feel like forever, but it's also possible that it's given you time to really get to know yourself. life isn't a race, and everyone's timetable is different, which is something I remind myself regularly. "this too shall pass," as they say.

i understand you're dragging through each day, but don't lose hope. minor changes can lead to major breakthroughs, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. moving at your own pace and not comparing yourself to others can make a world of difference. 🌟 maybe consider what small steps you can take in order to shift things just a tiny bit? the key is to take it step-by-step.