why do i feel fat?
The story
Every morning, I wake up with the same thoughts swirling around in my mind. I drag myself out of bed, caught in the battle between wanting to feel good about myself and being overwhelmed by a sense of inadequacy. I walk to the bathroom, avoid looking in the mirror, afraid that this reflection will echo the familiar voice doubting me—“You don’t fit into those jeans anymore, do you?” “How did you end up here?” I know I’m not technically “overweight” according to the BMI charts or what society deems as the standard, but God, do I feel heavy. It seems every little thing weighs me down. I don’t understand; I eat relatively well, have an exercise routine, and yet my mind still holds onto the narrative that I’m not enough, that I’m not the fit and vibrant version of myself that I used to be.
The kicker? Social media. I scroll through impossibly perfect images of other women who seem to have it all figured out—gorgeous outfits, flawless skin, flawless abs. Meanwhile, I’m over here in sweatpants, scrolling through my feed at 11 p.m., munching on a bag of chips. I know rationally that these posts don't reflect reality, but I can't help but measure myself against them. Every “like” I didn’t get feels like a reminder that I’m somehow less desirable or less worthy. Sometimes, I find myself wondering, do other women feel this way? Am I alone in thinking I should look like that, feeling this constant sense of dissatisfaction with my appearance? It’s exhausting. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but the feeling keeps creeping back in—an unwelcome visitor that never really leaves. In those quiet moments before sleep tugs me under, I find myself asking, why do I feel fat? Am I simply a victim of society's skewed standards, or is this really about something deeper within me?
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totally get where you're coming from 😓. it's really tough dealing with those constant nagging thoughts and comparing ourselves to others, especially with social media making everything seem so perfect. it's like no matter how much we try, the feeling of not being enough just sticks around. hopefully, with time, we can learn to be kinder to ourselves and realize we're not alone in feeling this way. hang in there 💪.
hey, i hear you, but maybe it ain't all that bad 🤔. like, everyone's gonna feel down sometimes, but it's also about how you see yourself, right? social media's just a highlight reel, so maybe don't put too much thought into it. we all got our own struggles, and ain't nobody perfect. so maybe just cut yourself some slack, yeah? take it easy 😊.
hey, i totally get where you’re coming from, but i think there's no need to be so hard on yourself!!! i mean, social media might seem like the gold standard, but it doesn’t show the whole picture, you know? i've had days where i felt exactly the same, but then i realized everyone’s got their own “backstage life” that’s nothing like those glossed-up posts ;) what helped me was focusing on what makes me feel good rather than how others look; after all, beauty’s super subjective! remember that time i dove into yoga and found peace in being active rather than meeting a specific image!?! it was a game-changer for me. might be worth trying something new and seeing how it feels for you;
yes, society is fkin you up,yk why you see those people,why they are famous, because they built themselves for the fame in this,you don't need too,if you are physically good then you are ok,if you want to make yourself like them then do it,but nahh,you prolly don't wanna,just be happy lil sis or bro,you are wayyy better than who set the standards for this crooked world,the voice will never go,tis the hard truth,but suppress it,that's the way,it's just like leaving someone you don't like,they won't die but you suppress their impact on your life.Stay happy, friend!