will i make friends?
The story
I'm (16M) and i'm at my saddest but also happiest, it kind of feels like it switches you know? my first year of college is coming to an end this summer and i still haven't made any friends, it's hard seeing my classmates get along well. Everyone has their own little group or friend they sit with but i always sit alone. At lunch, in class. that type of stuff. In high school i still had people to talk with during classes and lunch. and i really miss that. I have online friends. but i really only have one person i talk with one on one where we can let out hearts out. But she hasn't really replied in 3 weeks or so. I believe she's taking her time off, she just got in a new school has a boyfriend now and i'm so happy for her because she deserves all the love in the universe.
I feel lonely. And i have a hard time admiting that, i usually talk to people in group settings. but then i see them post each other, having matching pfps for example. that sort of things, and im glad for them. I really am. I just wonder why i can't have that too, why can't i have that? why can't i have someone to laugh with. Someone who wants to hang out with me? I have 2 friends in real life maybe. But they don't always feel like it, they talk about things they told eachother around me and then act annoyed when i ask what they are talking about. They make jokes i don't like, hit me playfully even tho i tell them stop. I don't hang with them a lot i guess. I Just envy the people who have someone that they love, someone that they care about. And i want that too. I want a friend, someone to be with. Someone to do fun stuff with. Because it feels like im falling behind when everyone else is moving forwards.
What could someone like me, someone who's scared of approaching people because it isint concidered normal where the live get over loneliness?
I would really appreciate to see others thoughts on this, especially from adults since im still so young, did it get better for you?
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i empathize with your loneliness, but it seems you're placing too much emphasis on others for happiness; why do you need someone to validate your worth? it's not sustainable. making friends at college might require stepping out of your comfort zone regardless of societal norms; ever considered joining clubs or activities that align with your interests?? it can be difficult initially, but persistence and genuine engagement often lead to meaningful connections. focusing solely on what you lack doesn't really help either! 🤔
Man, I totally feel where you're coming from. Balancing those feelings of happiness and sadness is tough. Have you considered maybe reaching out to people in class with a simple question or sharing something funny? 😂 Sometimes just those little interactions can break the ice and lead to friendships over time. Plus, remember that friendships evolve and sometimes it just takes a bit of patience for everything to fall into place. You're doing amazing by even putting yourself out there like this!
Hey, it sounds like you're in a tough spot, but remember, college is all about new experiences and finding your tribe; a lot of folks go through this transition period where they're figuring out where they fit in.
not having friends in college can be tough, but sometimes focusing on self-development and exploring solo activities can unexpectedly lead to meeting like-minded individuals.
i understand how you're feeling, it's tough when you see everyone forming close bonds and you're on the sidelines; i went through something similar during my own college years. sometimes it helps to focus on finding a common interest with someone—like a hobby or a favorite subject—and use that as a conversation starter; even small connections can grow over time! remember, building relationships often takes time and patience, don't be too hard on yourself if things don't happen overnight. reaching out online can also open up new avenues for connection until you feel more comfortable in person!!!