will i make friends?
The story
I'm (16M) and i'm at my saddest but also happiest, it kind of feels like it switches you know? my first year of college is coming to an end this summer and i still haven't made any friends, it's hard seeing my classmates get along well. Everyone has their own little group or friend they sit with but i always sit alone. At lunch, in class. that type of stuff. In high school i still had people to talk with during classes and lunch. and i really miss that. I have online friends. but i really only have one person i talk with one on one where we can let out hearts out. But she hasn't really replied in 3 weeks or so. I believe she's taking her time off, she just got in a new school has a boyfriend now and i'm so happy for her because she deserves all the love in the universe.
I feel lonely. And i have a hard time admiting that, i usually talk to people in group settings. but then i see them post each other, having matching pfps for example. that sort of things, and im glad for them. I really am. I just wonder why i can't have that too, why can't i have that? why can't i have someone to laugh with. Someone who wants to hang out with me? I have 2 friends in real life maybe. But they don't always feel like it, they talk about things they told eachother around me and then act annoyed when i ask what they are talking about. They make jokes i don't like, hit me playfully even tho i tell them stop. I don't hang with them a lot i guess. I Just envy the people who have someone that they love, someone that they care about. And i want that too. I want a friend, someone to be with. Someone to do fun stuff with. Because it feels like im falling behind when everyone else is moving forwards.
What could someone like me, someone who's scared of approaching people because it isint concidered normal where the live get over loneliness?
I would really appreciate to see others thoughts on this, especially from adults since im still so young, did it get better for you?
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i empathize with your loneliness, but it seems you're placing too much emphasis on others for happiness; why do you need someone to validate your worth? it's not sustainable. making friends at college might require stepping out of your comfort zone regardless of societal norms; ever considered joining clubs or activities that align with your interests?? it can be difficult initially, but persistence and genuine engagement often lead to meaningful connections. focusing solely on what you lack doesn't really help either! 🤔
Man, I totally feel where you're coming from. Balancing those feelings of happiness and sadness is tough. Have you considered maybe reaching out to people in class with a simple question or sharing something funny? 😂 Sometimes just those little interactions can break the ice and lead to friendships over time. Plus, remember that friendships evolve and sometimes it just takes a bit of patience for everything to fall into place. You're doing amazing by even putting yourself out there like this!
Hey, it sounds like you're in a tough spot, but remember, college is all about new experiences and finding your tribe; a lot of folks go through this transition period where they're figuring out where they fit in.
not having friends in college can be tough, but sometimes focusing on self-development and exploring solo activities can unexpectedly lead to meeting like-minded individuals.
i understand how you're feeling, it's tough when you see everyone forming close bonds and you're on the sidelines; i went through something similar during my own college years. sometimes it helps to focus on finding a common interest with someone—like a hobby or a favorite subject—and use that as a conversation starter; even small connections can grow over time! remember, building relationships often takes time and patience, don't be too hard on yourself if things don't happen overnight. reaching out online can also open up new avenues for connection until you feel more comfortable in person!!!
Yo, I get it, but man, you gotta stop romanticizing this whole "being part of a group" deal like it's some magic fix for everything; odds are half these people don't even have their lives figured out either! You're sitting there thinking everybody's having a blast when in reality they're just as confused and trying to fit in too. Friendships aren't built overnight—sometimes you gotta wade through the nonsense before finding your crew. Plus, real friends won’t ignore or dismiss your feelings like those so-called friends do. Dive into something you're passionate about and let connections form naturally. Trust me, once you focus on what makes *you* happy instead of what everyone else is doing, things tend to fall into place!!!
It's understandable to feel lonely, but why not view this as an opportunity to develop self-reliance and explore activities that you genuinely enjoy doing alone?
man, it's tough navigating those feelings of being both happy and sad at the same time, right?? it's like you're thrilled for others doing well but then feel this nagging emptiness. do you think it’s the shift from high school familiarity to college that kinda amplifies these feelings? i was in a similar boat—always felt left out while everyone seemed to have it figured out. maybe starting small by just joining random conversations or study groups could help you find your people. you'd be surprised how many are actually in the same shoes as you! keep your chin up ☺️
yo, it's gotta be frustrating sitting on the outside looking in, but have you thought about switching up your routine? like attending new events or trying different spots to hang out at! sometimes a change of scenery sparks new interactions. it seems you're pretty observant and self-aware, so use that to your advantage!! maybe test out small talk when there's a natural pause... who knows what could happen??