Disagreement Over Holiday Use for House Renovation Project
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My Partner and I Disagreed About Our House Renovation Project
So my partner and I disagreed about me asking him to take time off for our house renovation project. I suggested he use some of his holiday for a garden project so we could get a big proportion of it done in one go. He said no, his holiday was his time to do what he wanted and it wasn't fair for me to ask him to use it for the house renovations as he has less holidays than me. I said maybe he could just use 1 or 2 days and he said he would not compromise on this and wanted to do the project over several weekends instead.
As I have school holidays off, I said I would not be comprising either and would be getting the work done in my holidays and not just on the weekends as I wanted it to be done sooner.
He said that was not fair as he wanted to be just as involved in the project as me and accused me of threatening to do the work without him and not respecting his choice to save his holidays for things he likes doing more. He also said I could do other projects to which I replied that I just end up doing the rubbish jobs that he doesn't want to do because I have more holidays than him.
If we were in a reality show, I wonder how people would react to this situation. Would they side with me, or would they think I'm being unreasonable? It's so easy for others to judge when they're not in the same position.
Am I wrong for wanting my partner to use his holiday for our house renovation?
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honestly, i think both of you have valid points. relationships are all about compromise, tho.
It's not fair to expect him to give up his limited holidays. Maybe hire some help?
wow, if this was on TV, ppl would be split 50/50 on who's right 😂
you're not the wro,g! He should totally help out more. 🏠
I agree, teamwork makes the dream work!
But holidays are for relaxing too. Maybe a balance?
Maybe do the big stuff together on weekends and you do the small stuff during your holidays?
he should at least consider using a day or two. it's a shared home, after all.
LOL, this sounds like an episode of a home renovation reality show. So much drama! 🛠️
Totally, can picture the dramatic music already!
Would love to see the final reveal!
...teamwork is key. Find a compromise that works for both.
don't think you're completly wrong, but communication is key. Have a proper chat with him.
Oh yes, I agree... renovations are stressful. Maybe plan it out better so neither of you feel overwhelmed.
Oh, for fuck's sake...
This whole situation seems kinda wild 🤔. Honestly, expecting your partner to use up their hard-earned holiday time for a renovation project is a bit much. It's like asking someone to share their ice cream cone but only giving them the cone, y'know? Everyone needs their chill time, especially if they got less vacation days than you. Trying to push them into DIY when they're not feeling it ain't cool. Maybe give them a break and tackle this reno project together on weekends like a dream team? Just sayin', compromising ain't a one-way street 🚧✨.
The situation you're describing seems to be quite challenging. Wanting to get your house renovation project completed efficiently and within a specific timeframe is totally understandable. However, expecting your partner to sacrifice their holiday time for it might not be the most practical approach. It's crucial to find a balance that works for both of you. Tackling the project together on weekends could be a great compromise. Remember, team effort is key to success in any home improvement project! 🏡
Whoa, seems like you and your partner are in a real pickle with this house renovation dilemma! 🏡💥 It's totally valid that you want to get things done quickly, especially when you've got the time during your school holidays. Finding a compromise that works for both of you is key. Maybe consider brainstorming new ways to tackle the project that align with both your schedules. Teamwork makes the dream work, right? 👷♂️👷♀️ Hopefully, you two can come to a solution that satisfies both parties and gets that renovation rocking!
sounds like a tough sitch 😟 asking someone to use their vacay for house work seems kinda unfair if you ask me he has a right to chill and use his days off his way 🏖️ seems like doing the reno over weekends is a fair plan honestly everyone needs to relax too it's not all work no play maybe you guys can find a middle ground maybe leave big stuff for weekends and do the small things yourself when you have time your partner needs some downtime too 🛋️
wow, I totally get where you're coming from!!! 🏡✨ it's tough when you're super excited to get things done quickly and efficiently... wanting to use your time off to knock out the reno makes total sense!!! compromising can be hard but finding a plan that lets both of you have a say will be worth it in the end!!! maybe combining efforts on weekends and doing some prep during your holidays could work out?? hang in there, you guys got this!!! 💪😊
bro, I get that you want to fast-track the house reno, but asking your partner to use his precious holiday time on it is kinda harsh 😬 think about it, vacation days are meant for unwinding and recharging, not laying bricks or painting walls!!! if he ain’t got many days off, it’s pretty unfair to expect him to give them up; why not tackle this project bit by bit on weekends like he suggested, it’s way more chill, and everyone keeps their sanity. I remember when I tried pushing my partner to do something similar, and it just led to arguments and stress. keep it cool, and maybe balance your approach a bit so you both stay happy during this whole reno madness!!!
dude, i get you're eager to get the house reno done, but expecting your partner to use his limited holiday time is a tall order 😅 vacation days are really important for personal stuff and recharging; maybe working out a plan where you both tackle the project on weekends makes more sense. doing it all during your time off might be productive, but it’s much more fulfilling when both of you are involved and happy with the timing. once tried pushing my partner to give up their break for a project, and it backfired with stress and resentment. just keep the communication open and try to find a middle ground that works for both of you’s schedules!!!
honestly, making your partner use their precious vacation days for a reno project sounds pretty selfish, don't you think??? it's kind of a common sense thing that people need their downtime to chill and recharge; expecting him to give up his own time for your timetable isn't cool. "all work and no play makes jack a dull boy," right? maybe you've got all this time on your hands, but it doesn't mean he has to jump on board with your schedule. compromise is key, but it sounds like you're bulldozing ahead without considering his needs. respect goes both ways, remember???