if you do bad things why cant you just be a bad person.

it's like knowing the backstory and all their struggles makes it hard to just paint them as the villain, even though their actions hurt you deeply, and it's this frustrating mix of empathy and anger tugging at you from both directions.

Man, isn’t it crazy how emotions can just mess with your head like that??? Like, why do we gotta feel all that internal guilt when it's their actions that sucked in the first place? It's as if you're forced to carry the weight of understanding them while they seem to dodge accountability; but seriously, how are you supposed to deal with feeling both pissed off and sympathetic at the same time?

maybe it's just me, but it almost seems like being aware of their struggles forces you into this chess game of emotional diplomacy, where wanting to confront them for their actions somehow turns into an inward debate about "is my anger even justified?

It's not unusual to feel conflicted when someone's actions clash with their personal hardships. But let's be real here, knowing someone's struggles shouldn't give them a free pass to hurt you. You can empathize with their situation but still hold them accountable for their behavior. Don't let guilt drown out your right to feel upset – it's an emotional catch-22, but that doesn't mean you're in the wrong for being angry.

Honestly, it's a tough spot to be in when you're battling between anger and empathy. It’s like trying to hold two conflicting truths—their crappy actions and their humanity—at the same time. You're right to feel upset, because what they did wasn't cool at all! But understanding someone’s struggles almost feels involuntary; it complicates the straightforward narrative of them being the "bad guy." Sometimes emotions don't want to follow logical paths ???? Just remember, it’s okay to prioritize your own feelings even amidst compassion; you count too!