I am the life coach and coach is about to give up
The story
I'm just at the absolute end of myself. Now I believe and follow God, but "giving it to God" feels a lot like sitting here doing nothing. I'm a single mother (1 kid) in my late 20's, working a burned out 9-5, desperate for supporting my roles as a mother, friend, and individual. My job is a blessing in the sense that I can bring my kid to work, attend field trips, all the sorts, but it's always at the expense of my paycheck. And that paycheck is very important because even though I only make ~$20,000/year, I've accomplished homeownership (first generation homeowner), a Christian school for my kid, a paid off hunk of junk car, and only about $3,000 worth of debt (not including the mortgage obviously). Of course I'm on subsidy, but we don't abuse the system nor do we live luxuriously. I made a $175/month grocery allowance work but it's now been cut back to $23/month. I feel successful despite my circumstances, but man.. I'm tired of just "beating the odds", "overcoming the statistics". I want not more, but better. I want to start cleaning houses, but start up for materials is out of reach and I've had 6 surgeries since 2019, my body is wrecked. I'd push through it though if it meant I could afford my bills and still meet friends at the park at 2pm on a Tuesday. I'm very handy, but I'm more Jack of all trades, master of none. I built my own shoe racks and fix my own car, but I can't diagnose or blueprint. I don't have my own tools. I'm washing my hair with dish soap to make sure my kid has their ends met. I have no family where I live, and while I do have friends, why should I expect them to hear the burden of my predicament? For me, venting=asking them to fix the problem. And the problem feels unfixable. And that leaves me clinging to the fact that God is bigger than these problems. He's bigger, but I still feel like I'm being suffocated. I don't want a bigger house or a newer car. I buy almost everything from second hand stores. I just want to be a mother and a friend, and have a job that will leave me confident in my ability to pay bills.
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Hey, I totally hear you and it sounds like you've got a lot on your plate. It's really tough to stretch every dollar and just try to keep everything together; raising a kid, holding down a job, and trying to be there for your friends. It's so inspiring how you've accomplished so much, like owning your home and managing your debts. As someone who grew up watching my mom juggle everything too, I can relate to the feeling of just wanting a break more than anything. You've been through a lot with the surgeries and all, yet you're still pushing through💪 Just remember, you’ve got an incredible resilience going, and that is no small feat! I believe things can get better, and maybe you'll find new solutions just like you've been doing. Keep your head up!
I understand your situation is difficult, but it seems like you could be focusing more on proactive measures here. It might benefit you to reassess your financial strategy. Relying too heavily on subsidies isn't a long-term solution, is it?!!! I've been in tough spots before, and what helped was to streamline expenses and explore new income avenues. Have you considered online courses or workshops to refine your skills? It's imperative to explore every avenue available. Remember, it's not about just holding on, but advancing forward; you have the tenacity, now it's time to strategize more efficiently.
I totally feel you on this; you’re managing an overwhelming load and still making things work, which shows incredible strength and determination. Your story clearly highlights the challenges faced by many people who are working hard to provide a better life for their kids while balancing personal health and financial issues. Kudos for maintaining such resilience and positivity in the face of adversity!!! Your ability to accomplish so much with limited resources speaks volumes about your resourcefulness and grit. But have you considered looking into community support systems or local opportunities that could offer a bit more breathing room for you? Just curious, what inspired you to become a homeowner under such challenging circumstances?
Your situation sounds incredibly tough, and it's clear you're working hard to make things happen. You've made some impressive accomplishments on a limited income, like owning a home and managing your debts, which is no small feat! 👍 But honestly, balancing it all sounds near impossible, and I totally get why you're exhausted. I once thought I could balance everything by myself, only to realize asking for help was necessary to make real progress. Maybe it's worth considering some changes or even seeking guidance to ease the burden a bit. You shouldn't have to struggle so much just to meet basic needs. It's not fair on you or your child.
i totally see where you're coming from, and it's clear you're doing your best under tough circumstances!!! managing to achieve homeownership and provide for your kid on a tight budget is impressive! 😊 you've got resilience, no doubt about that. but isn't it exhausting feeling like you're always beating the odds? finding that balance between financial stability and personal fulfillment sounds really challenging. have you thought about exploring any local community resources that might offer some relief or new opportunities? it might help lighten the load a little bit!!!