Should I leave my current therapist?
The story
Hello, thank you so much for reading this, I would really love to hear your opinion on this matter.
I have ocd, and I have been going to this therapist for almost 3 years now and I didn't really see an issue with them, they are very understanding and helpful. My parents when they first met the therapist, there was a little language barrier with my mother and the therapist, but they tried really hard to make this work. My father is the one who usually speaks to my therapist and till now there was no issue, well particularly from me, because it was going smoothly; my parents had this issue: That my therapist and I would have conversations and would not tell them anything what we discussed about, my therapist told me and them that the discussion(?)(I am sorry I am not sure what appropriate word I must use here) is confidential, my therapist explained my parents about my problems, my father understood the issues but I think he didn't like the fact that the improvement would take alot of time, but he did he his very best to support me and so did my mother and my elder sibling.....but they didn't really understand the severity of my ocd which really annoyed them and despite my therapist explaining it to them, they(my parents) would ask why? This was difficult for me because I was and still am having a hard time with my ocd. I failed 11th grade and did 12th grade in open schooling ( my parents didn't like it, but were very supportive, which was good for me). I passed 12th grade and somehow managed to get into an engineering college. My therapist advised us not to choose a difficult subject for my mental wellbeing. But no. I was doing fine in the first semester of college but by the end of it my mental health worsened and I lost all the mental strength I had to continue studying. I made it clear that this was difficult and I needed a year long break from college but my parents didn't want that. I told my concerns to my therapist who sort of agreed that I needed a semester's break, and explained this to my parents. They obviously didn't like the idea and assumed that my therapist put this 'break' mindset into my head and they weren't happy about it. I forced myself to continue college in 2nd semester but I really dreadful in the classes. So before my Lab exam I explained my mental health and difficulty in understanding and keeping up with college and I was mentally exhausted from my ocd. They didn't like it, things became chaotic to kinda to the point of physical and a lot of verbal abuse...I am not looking for empathy because I believe that I have my faults in here. In the heat of the moment my family said really heartbreaking things obviously but then started blaming my therapist for all of this situation, they said that my therapist brainwashed me into thinking certain things and how much I behave like an addict. A lot of bad things were said to and obviously I got affected by it. After a few days my family and my college teacher convinced me to finish the exams and now here I am suffering to even think something and at this point I am pretty sure my therapist was done with my parents shit and wouldn't really text me back when I needed their support... at one point I sent a long message telling my therapist how I didn't want to continue college being in this terrible state and I am not quitting on education! I saw a text from my dad's phone on a whim and turns out my therapist sent a whole screenshot of our conversation. I don't know what to do here everything is so unclear, I for some stupid reason checked my therapists reviews online didn't really find any negative reviews about them. I am confused here, my family dislikes my therapist and I don't know what to think of and am I wrong to assume that my therapist is not that great at all? Despite all the good things people said about her? What do I do????!!!!
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It sounds like you're in a really tough spot where your mental health, family dynamics, and education are all overlapping in complicated ways; it's crucial to prioritize your well-being above everything else, so seeking a second opinion from another mental health professional might help you navigate this situation better.
man, that's a lot to deal with. it's frustrating when people can't see the struggle you're going through and just blame-shift everything. sometimes family doesn't get it and that's okay but sucks when they're not listening. maybe find some space to have an honest talk with them without the therapist present? 🤷♂️ they need to understand this is your journey, therapy’s about helping you, not pleasing everyone else. trust your gut on what feels right for you.
It's heartbreaking to hear that you're going through such a whirlwind of emotions and conflict with both your mental health and family dynamics. It's clear you've been trying to balance respecting your family's opinions while also advocating for your own needs, which is not easy by any means. One thing to consider is the concept of establishing healthy boundaries with those close to you; sometimes it’s beneficial to clarify that certain aspects of therapy are just between you and your therapist, as confidentiality can be critical in feeling safe enough to share openly.
When I was dealing with a similar situation during my college years, I found it helpful to write down my thoughts and feelings before discussing them with my family: it made the conversation more focused and less emotional. Also, remember that therapy is a deeply personal journey—m (what works for one person might not work for another) and that's okay! Maybe take some time to reflect on what you've valued from therapy so far and how you can ensure those parts remain intact moving forward. Whatever decision you make about continuing with this therapist or seeking someone new, trust yourself to know what's best for your mental health journey. 🌟
man, that's a tough spot to be in 😟. it sounds like you're feeling caught between your family and your therapist, which is so relatable. you've been trying to balance what you need with everyone's expectations... a lot of pressure, right? i'm curious about what kind of steps you feel comfortable taking next. do you think talking to another mental health professional for a second opinion could help clear up some of this confusion? sometimes a fresh perspective can make all the difference. 🤔
gotta say, it's a tough situation you're in! I don't know what to say...
Mate, this sounds like a circus of confusion; you got your therapist spilling beans to your folks?! Not cool at all. I mean, for real?? Confidentiality should be top priority in therapy! Sounds like you're dealing with a boatload of stress from every angle—college, family drama, and OCD. Maybe it's time to find someone who respects confidentiality and gets you better...everyone needs breaks sometimes, even if your fam doesn’t get it!!! Hang in there but definitely rethink who you trust with your personal stuff.
hey, it sounds like you're caught between a rock and a hard place. i can imagine how tough it must be to balance everyone's expectations while dealing with ocd. maybe consider journaling your thoughts or reaching out to support groups for people with ocd? they might offer some fresh insights or strategies you haven't tried yet. sometimes hearing from others with similar experiences can make things clearer and help build confidence in your decisions. hang in there!
Therapy, much like engineering, is a complex process with intricate components to align!!!! It's tough when those closest to you don't fully grasp its nuances or respect the confidentiality aspect that's so vital. Your therapist seemed supportive initially, but that breach of trust with sharing texts? That's a big deal!! It might be worthwhile to have an open conversation with your therapist about how it impacted your trust in them and see if they can regain that ground. In my experience, looping another professional for a fresh perspective can sometimes shed new light on stubborn issues, much like a second set of eyes in troubleshooting a code bug!!! Whatever path you choose, remember that being proactive in finding solutions reflects immense strength and growth!!!
it's really complex when you're stuck between your own needs and the expectations of others; have you considered discussing this dynamic directly with a mental health professional outside of your current therapist?
navigating these complexities with family and mental health can be incredibly tough, especially when everyone seems to have different viewpoints :(
It is indeed a challenging situation, and these familial tensions can often exacerbate the stress associated with managing OCD; navigating both your parents' expectations and your own mental health needs requires careful deliberation. It might be worthwhile to consider engaging in open discussions with your family about the importance of privacy in therapy sessions while simultaneously exploring alternative therapeutic options that align more closely with your personal values. Prioritizing self-care and mental wellness as you evaluate current support systems could provide clarity on what steps to take moving forward.
your story highlights the stark disconnect between seeking therapy for meaningful support and navigating complex family dynamics; it's a tightrope walk. 😬