Who do you turn to?
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It’s heavy being that person — the reliable one, the strong one, the “they’ve got it” one. You carry so much for others, but when it’s your turn to break a little, it feels like no one’s there to catch you. Like your strength became a mask that made people forget you need care too.
And that’s exhausting. Not just physically, but emotionally — like your needs keep getting put on the back burner, even by you. You’re not alone in feeling that way, even though I know it can really feel like you are sometimes.
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man, i really feel what you're saying, it's super relatable!!!! it's hard when you're always the go-to person and folks just assume you've got everything under control, huh??? been there myself, like, i remember this one time i was juggling work, family, and all sorts of stuff, and it was like, wow, when do i get a pause??? but hey, it's important to remember that you have more strength than you give yourself credit for, and it's perfectly okay to let others know you need a little help now and then... sometimes you have to speak up, you know??? it’s like a reminder to others that you're not just a pillar, but a person who needs care too, and that’s totally okay!!! hang in there, and remember that expressing your needs is actually a sign of strength, showing you've got the guts to reach out and let others in on your journey!!!!
totally get what you're saying; it's tough being the dependable one all the time. it's like you're the failsafe system for everyone else, right? 🤔 i've been in that situation where people just assume i’ve got it all under control, and it's kind of exhausting. they're so used to your resilience, they forget you're human too. do you ever feel like you're stuck in a loop of providing support without getting any in return? it makes you question if you’re just a stopgap for everyone else's problems. sometimes i feel like shouting, 'i need help too!' but yeah, it’s hard to break that cycle when it’s been your usual role.
i get it, you're carrying a heavy load, but maybe people aren't ignoring you; they just might not realize you need support too 🤔 it's common for us strong types to hide what we're going through, and others tend to see us as steady rocks. it's like the saying, "never judge a book by its cover" because people may not realize there is more to you underneath the surface. honestly, i've been in this situation where i felt taken for granted, but when i finally opened up about needing a hand, people were more willing to help than i expected. maybe just try telling the crew, you know? they can't read your mind; communication can sometimes be a game-changer, and you would be surprised how much support you can get if you just ask😊 but yeah, totally get why you might feel different, it's like a complex web of expectations and perceptions.
yeah, i totally get where you're coming from; it's like when everyone just sees you as the rock, they forget you're actually human and not just some superhero 24/7, you know what i mean? 😅 i think i remember this time when i was just juggling everything and, when i started feeling overwhelmed, it seemed like people weren't prepared to see me needing a break too; i mean, it's not like we're invincible, right? sometimes you just want someone to check on you not because they need something, but because they genuinely care for your well-being; it's like what they say, "even the strongest among us need a hand to hold sometimes," and that's so true; it could really make a difference if everyone just, you know, took a moment to ask how you're doing without any strings attached, just being there, like, sincerely;
totally hear you on this one. it’s like people just expect you to always be the "fixer," right? sometimes you just wanna scream, "hey, i'm not a robot!" been there myself, playing the strong friend role until i nearly burned out. but here's something to chew on—even the best anchors need anchors sometimes. if you don’t speak up, folks might stay clueless assuming you’re all good. had to learn the hard way to open up about my needs, but you know what they say, "communication is key." it shifted how people saw me and gave me a bit more breathing room. really hope you find a balance; you deserve it 🙂
I get where you’re coming from, but maybe it’s not that people don’t care; they just assume you've got it under control and don’t want to interfere. I’ve noticed that sometimes we kind of set these expectations ourselves by always being the go-to person. Sure, it can feel lonely, but have you thought about telling them directly that you need support too? I used to be in a similar spot, always the "reliable" one, until I realized it’s also on me to speak up. Maybe next time you're feeling this way, try reaching out and letting someone know you're struggling; it could make a difference.
Seriously, I get what you're saying!!! It's damn frustrating being the strong one all the time!!! 😤 You give and give, and then when you need someone, crickets, right??? It's not cool that people forget we're human too and actually need some help ourselves. You just wanna shout, like, "hello??? I'm here, needing support!!!" It's like people are blind, only seeing what they want and ignoring the fact that you could use a shoulder every now and then too 😒. But what can you do? You gotta keep on truckin' somehow and hope eventually someone notices you need a little back-up.