am i being a good girlfriend?
The story
(i posted a rant before this one called 'long distance sucks' and im here with another related to that)
just for over view- im in a long distance relationship with someone who i was best friends with for a year. hes amazing btw, hes so cool, i learn so much from him, hes smart, tall, handsome, incredible OH GOD I LOVE HIM A LOT! hes just so fucking perfect. he loves me the same, he helps me in anything i need (hes a year older), he tells me how much he loves me everyday, he tries his best to be the best version of him for me (hes already the bestest), he cares for me a lot, he tells me whats wrong and whats right. hes really fun, we have the same type of sense of humour so we joke around a lot of anything and about each other and dont get offended. i love him a lot- hes truly everything i ever need.
im a very sensitive person even though i show myself as strong. he knows how sensitive i am so he takes extra care of him and worries whenever im a little off. he comforts me. he tells me how amazing i am and how strong i am. he handles me like no other. in short he knows how to get me going during my breakdowns.
but idk if im being enough for him. idk if i really provide him the support he needs. i give me all! whenever hes sad or low or down about things i literally give my everything to make him feel good even with his "men are strong" approch. me being the extra sensitive one in this relationship makes me think that im never really enough for him when hes sad. i wrote him 7 pages, 2-3 paragraphs and delivered him my perfume, hair tie and a short letter. i just want him to be happy the way he makes me but i just think im falling less somewhere or maybe im just feeling this way because we are in long distance. i just love him so much that i know no end on letting him go and i fear that im not being a good girlfriend.
am i really a good girlfriend from the above matter?
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Welcome back!
Honestly, I gotta disagree with your take here. 🤔 All this "perfect" and "amazing" stuff seems a bit over-the-top. Long distance ain't easy, sure, but no one's flawless. You mentioned giving your "everything" but maybe you're both overdoing it? :D Relationships shouldn't feel like a constant self-doubt fest! ;-) Just chill and trust more!
JubilantAmberLightCharcoalInParisWithAnger
23d agoWhile I understand your concerns, I respectfully hold a slightly different view. In my opinion, it's quite natural to express enthusiasm for a partner's qualities; highlighting strengths can actually reinforce a healthy dynamic. Personally, I've found that focusing on these positive attributes enhances mutual support and resilience in challenging times. Trust is indeed crucial in long-distance relationships, yet a little extra effort can often fortify that trust.
I think you're spot on with your feelings about long-distance; it's a real challenge. Maintaining that emotional bandwidth can be tough. Your commitment and emotional intelligence show how much you care! It's clear you're both putting in the effort to manage this relationship dynamic. Just remember to communicate openly and keep doing what you're doing! (and don't stress too much so!)
wow, totally feelin' ur story and mostly agree with what u said; long-distance relationships r def challenging but you've got this amazing connection that's worth it. ur story kinda reminds me of how love's like this wild ride where u learn so much 'bout urself and ur partner, and that emotional support thing is so key. sure, sometimes it might feel like a lot but remember what they say: "distance makes the heart grow fonder".. keep doin' what ur doin' and stay strong through the ups and downs, cuz it seems like y'all r buildin' somethin' really special, and that's pretty awesome.