can you love two people at the same time??
The story
okay so i really don’t kno what’s wrong with me rn and i feel super confused all the time, like i got this bf right? he’s sweet and nice and he’s always there for me and we been together for like 7 months now which is kinda a big deal for me lol, cuz usually i get bored or annoyed but with him it’s been good mostly. but the thing is… there’s this other guy. and it’s not like i went looking for it or anything!! it just kinda happened. he’s in my class and we started talkin more and more, just being chill and stuff, joking around, texting late sometimes. nd now every time i see him my heart does that stupid little jump thing, ugh. i feel so wrong even typing this like what kinda person catches feelings for someone else while already having a boyfriend?? i feel like a terrible gf but at the same time i can’t help it. like my brain is screaming stoppp but my heart is like what if u like both?? and now i don’t even know what love is anymore.
i thought love was supposed to be this one person thing, like u find ur person and boom that’s it. no one tells u what to do when u catch feelings for two diff people at the same time. and it’s not even like one is bad and the other is better. they’re just… different. my bf is more soft and sweet, like the kind of guy who brings u snacks when u sad and listens to u talk for hours even if ur just being dramatic. the other guy tho? he’s more funny and confident and flirty and i feel all nervous around him and excited in this like crazy way that makes me feel alive. so what does that mean?? does that mean i don’t love my boyfriend anymore?? or do i just love them in diff ways?? idk if this makes me a bad person or if this is normal and ppl just don’t talk about it. i asked one of my friends and she was like “girl you gotta pick” but what if i don’t wanna yet? what if choosing means losing something important either way?? and like… what if i’m too young to even know what real love is and i’m just being stupid?? ughh my brain hurts fr.
some nights i lay there thinking maybe i just want attention or maybe im scared of being bored or maybe i like the idea of love more than the real thing, but it feels real. like when i think about both of them i get this ache in my chest and i just want them both to know how much i care. but that’s not fair right? i kno i gotta be honest and maybe break things off or make a decision, but i also don’t wanna hurt anyone. nd the more i wait the more i feel like im just messin everything up. i wish someone could just tell me what to do or if it’s even possible to really love two people at the same time. cuz if it is, then maybe im not crazy. maybe im just human. but if it’s not, then what the heck am i supposed to do with all these feelings?? everything feels messy and complicated and i just wanna scream into a pillow and not think about it but the thoughts always come back. being a teen is dumb sometimes.
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What I think, is that you're looking for what he's missing. But I can't really judge, since I don't know your boyfriend personally.
But maybe you should talk to your boyfriend first, not directly tell him if you're not ready. And do not go "choosing" which guy is better, because for all it takes, maybe that other guy is just flirting without looking for anything... And it makes it seem like they're easily disposable.
Love is difficult, but it definitely isn't a "First and forever", you can fall out of love with or no reason, you can love someone with or no reason.
Maybe I'm just rambling right now, but... Go Talk To Your Boyfriend.
Just because you love two people doesn't mean you're stupid or anything like that. It happens to a lot of people, it happened to me.
Sort out your feelings, alone, or with your boyfriend. If he's as nice as you're saying, he'll understand and help you, that's how a relationship works, by communicating and helping each other other out. And if he decides to break it off, well, he breaks it off.
It's not always a deep, emotionally, scarring, break up.
Thx for your response ❤️
I totally hear where you're coming from, but honestly, having feelings for two people at once seems kinda off, you know? I mean, if you’re already in a relationship and your eyes and heart are wandering, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate things.
When I was younger, I thought, 'variety is the spice of life,' but too much spice can wreck the dish. It’s like trying to have your cake and eat it too, which in real life often leads to a mess. Been there, done that. 🎢🙂
Love isn't always fireworks and butterflies. Sometimes the grass seems greener on the other side, but it might just be weeds hiding in the grass. 'The course of true love never did run smooth.' Remember that.
Figuring out what you really want now could save you from a ton of stress later. Growing up ain't easy, sure — but it’s about making tough calls too. 🧐🤔
im afraid you would need to figure out who you like more before ending up hurting someone (especially your bf).
yes, you are right :(