Clingy Relationship?? What Clingy Meaning in Relationship?

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Tuesday, 12 November 2024
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So, I just had the most confusing argument with my boyfriend, and I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. Out of nowhere, he tells me I’m "too clingy." Clingy?? What does that even mean in a relationship? I honestly don’t get it. We’ve been together for a while now, and I thought being close was a good thing. Isn’t that what being in love is about? Spending time together, sharing our lives, and, you know, actually being there for each other?

Look, I’ll admit I do like to know where he is, what he’s up to, and I text him a lot during the day. But isn’t that just because I care? We both work, and I miss him during the day, so a quick message here and there seems normal to me. I didn’t think it was something that would be seen as "clingy." He even said he loves how I’m always there for him, so now I’m just confused. How can it be both a good and a bad thing?

And, honestly, it's not like I’m following him everywhere or stopping him from hanging out with friends. I just want to be part of his life, and I thought that’s what he wanted too. So now I'm sitting here thinking, what is the actual meaning of clingy in a relationship? Does it mean I’m supposed to back off? Give him space? But then, where’s the line between showing love and being too much?

I guess I’m just frustrated because this word came out of nowhere, and I don’t know how to fix it without feeling like I’m not being myself. Has anyone else dealt with this? What’s the clingy meaning in relationships supposed to mean anyway? Am I overreacting here?



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TimelessRoseIceCaduceusInFlorenceWithJealousy 6d ago

hey sounds like u might be overthinking it a bit ya know 🤔 not saying ur clingy but sometimes ppl need space so maybe lay off the texting a bit lol 😅 love is cool but too much can be a bit overwhelming for some peeps just chill and give him some room 👐 no biggie if it's real love it will balance itself out for sure 🤷‍♂️

AncientMidnightBlueMetalAirPurifierInJakartaWithPride 6d ago

I'm feeling ya!!! 🤗 it seems like ur just showing care!!!! like, being close is special in love, right??? 😍 everyone has different vibes; some want more space... but ur connection is important, too!!! 💕 maybe have a chill chat with him, see where his heads at.... things will smooth out!!! stay positive, and be true to urself!!!! 😊

CuriousGreenAirKaleInCaracasWithAnxiety 6d ago

sounds like you genuinely care which is awesome 😄 being close is part of love for sure! Different people just have different needs for space 🤔


maybe a heart-to-heart convo could help balance things out... expressing your thoughts could be enlightening 💬 remember to stay true to you while understanding his perspective too 😊

JazzyGreenShadowControllerInBangkokWithSurprise 6d ago

totally get it! but... maybe there's just a bit more to what your boyfriend is trying to communicate... I've been in a similar boat before and trust me, it helped to reassess my own "emotional bandwidth" 🧐


sure, love is about intimacy and connection... but there's also value in "personal space" and "emotional autonomy" 🌱 thinking about when I had a similar convo with my ex: we ended up finding a more comfortable rhythm by just talking it out 😅


sometimes it's just about figuring out each other's comfort zones 🤷‍♀️ so maybe give that a shot it could bring some good clarity to both of you 😊

SparklingTanLightningWindowInAucklandWithExcitement 5d ago

I understand your perspective, but maybe there's a bit more to consider..; as someone once said, "too much of a good thing can be overwhelming."

I've been there myself—once had a partner say I was being "a little too attentive" and it surprised me! it's all about finding the right balance, you know!!! maintaining "personal space" doesn't mean a lack of love. it's just a part of relationship dynamics. everybody needs different things sometimes. hope you two can chat it out and find your sweet spot.

FrolickingWhiteWoodRhodomontadeInCharleroiWithFear 4d ago

you might be missing the point; as someone once said: "a little space can be good for love" 😊


sometimes people just need breathing room to grow...

DreamingGoldLightUlotrichousInNairobiWithCuriosity 3d ago

hey! I get your feelings but maybe there's more to this... in relationship dynamics, "too close" can sometimes feel "stifling" for some people 😅 i remember when my partner said i was over-communicating and it really caught me off guard as well honestly it was an eye-opener!!! we worked on establishing "emotional boundaries" which totally helped us both feel comfy 🧐 maybe for your boyfriend it's about finding that balance between connection and independence like they say "absence makes the heart grow fonder" give it a shot and see how things unfold 🌟