I need some dating advice..
The story
I moved schools a few months ago and I love it sm and I met this guy about a month ago and he's great I really do mean that and he's liked me I think ever since we met (his friends are always making jokes when I'm around and I've been told by many people) and that's very sweet and I could see myself w him but idk if I'm ready to date, I've dated before but idk I feel like I'm awkward and would fuck things up, I really do enjoy talking to him he's really nice but idk I don't wanna ruin things and then we stop talking
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being afraid of ruining things is pretty common. truthfully, if you think you are compatible and you really enjoy being with him, the only thing holding you back is yourself. try it out. take a risk, step out of your comfort zone. the worst thing you're gonna feel in the future is regret or like "what if I did.." you don't want to live with that.
ur right but we have a class together and we basically don't even do work me him and my other friend we just talk and see if we dated n then later broke up bc I ruined it I wld feel like shit
Hey there, I totally get where you're coming from 🤔 It's awesome that you love your new school and you've found a great guy; it sounds like he really likes you, given all those hints from his friends. But hey, it's perfectly okay not to rush into dating if you're not ready—I've been there myself, feeling awkward and anxious about messing things up. It's better to take your time and make sure it feels right 😉 You don't want to jeopardize a good friendship by diving into something you're unsure about. Remember, "sometimes the best relationships start as great friendships." Keep enjoying your conversations with him, and if it's meant to be, things will naturally fall into place. Just keep being yourself and everything will work out 😊
aw thank you so much I think that's exactly what I needed to hear
i get your point, and honestly, who wouldn't be anxious about dating? 😅 it's like you're trying to balance on a tightrope while juggling your feelings and insecurities. you like the guy, that's cool, but it's totally okay to not dive into the dating pool just yet. it sounds like you need to evaluate if a relationship would interfere with your current bandwidth or if it's within your capacity; if you're not ready, you're not ready, don't push it. nobody wants to screw things up and end up losing a good friend. just keep riding the wave of enjoying his company until you feel you've reached optimum readiness. don't burden yourself with unnecessary pressure; it's not a race, it's a journey.
I completely understand your situation and empathize with the hesitation you're feeling. Establishing new connections, particularly of a romantic nature, can be daunting given the potential interpersonal ramifications. It is commendable that you cherish your rapport with him, recognizing its inherent value. Your instincts to prioritize emotional readiness are valid; it is imperative to ensure compatibility with your current emotional bandwidth. Approaching this thoughtfully can safeguard against any potential disruptions to your existing dynamics. Take your time, and when you feel confident in your decision, proceed with clarity and intention. Your approach seems both reasonable and judicious.
honestly, I get that you're feeling awkward and afraid you might mess things up, but overthinking can sometimes make things more complicated than they really are. 😅 i've been caught up in my head like that before, and it just held me back from experiences I could've enjoyed. if you like talking to him and think there could be something there, why not give it a try? you might find that it's not as scary as it seems. relationships grow, and sometimes you have to take a small leap to see where it goes. keeping things chill and not putting too much pressure on it might help. maybe start with just hanging out more and see how it feels. 😊
thank you that actually helped me a lot