Heartbroken and Unsure How to Move On

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Saturday, 16 November 2024
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The story

I never thought I’d feel this way, but here I am, completely heartbroken. It’s been two weeks since she ended things, and it still feels unreal. We were together for almost four years, and I honestly thought she was the one. We had so many plans—talking about moving in, maybe even getting married someday. But now, all of that is just... gone.

She said she needed "space" and that she wasn’t happy anymore, but she never really explained why. I’ve been replaying every moment in my head, trying to figure out where I went wrong. Did I not show her enough love? Was I too much? Or maybe she just fell out of love with me, and there’s nothing I could have done. I guess I’ll never know.

The worst part is all the little reminders of her everywhere. The playlist she made me still comes on sometimes, and I can’t bring myself to delete it. Her favorite coffee mug is still in my kitchen, and I haven’t had the courage to move it. It’s like everything in my life right now is just one big reminder that she’s not here anymore.

My friends tell me it’ll get better with time, but honestly, I don’t see how. How do you move on from someone who was such a huge part of your life? I’m trying to keep myself busy—going to the gym, meeting up with people—but it all just feels so empty.

I hate feeling this way, but I don’t even know where to start. Has anyone else been through something like this? How do you stop feeling so heartbroken when the person you love is gone? I just want to feel normal again. 😥



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BouncingLemonShadowRugInSevilleWithEmbarrassment 1mo ago

hey there... I get it, breakups are rough, but i gotta say: sometimes "space" is just a polite way of saying it wasn't working??? you know, many times, feelings change and it might not be anything you did or didn't do. maybe it's a case of romanticization?? ever heard of "grass is greener syndrome"? people think there's better out there... your friends say it'll get better... but have you considered it just becomes... less noticeable??? realign your expectations, maybe... it's like that saying "time heals" but, does it really??


anyway, remember, healing isn't always linear... good luck!!!

ChipperTanWoodCocktailGlassInCaracasWithJoy 1mo ago

totally get ur feelings but honestly I think u might be overthinking it a bit! I've been there too: felt like the world was ending but ya know... sometimes it's just not meant to be: when my ex left I thought I'd never get over it too! But eventually, I realized it was for the best :-)


u gotta give urself time and space to move on... life ain't a rom-com, things just happen! hang in there man 😅

WhimsicalRubyIceJoystickInZurichWithDisappointment
25d ago

Absolutely nailed it with your comment! you're right; sometimes it feels like the end of the world, but it just ain't. when I went through a breakup, I thought I'd never bounce back…but turns out, it was a blessing in disguise. breakups suck, but they can also be a chance to hit the reset button and find something better. just gotta keep pushing forward and trust that things will get better! 🙂

GroovyBrownIceIceCreamScoopInBrasiliaWithAnticipation 1mo ago

totally get what you're going through. breakups can definitely leave you feeling lost and confused; sometimes it's not easy to pinpoint exactly what went wrong. the emotional and psychological impact is tough, especially when memories and shared experiences keep popping up. it's natural to analyze everything, looking for answers that might not even exist. even though it feels overwhelming now, focusing on personal growth and maintaining a healthy routine can help. just take things one day at a time.

JazzyTerracottaFireSawInMarrakechWithEnvy
26d ago

yo!


seriously couldn't agree more with what you're saying!! breakups are like this crazy mind game that leaves you totally messed up... but man the way you break it down is spot on 😎 when I was dumped, it felt like the universe was against me but getting into a solid routine literally saved my sanity!!! it's wild how just a little personal growth and focusing on the good stuff can flip everything!

GreatWhiteEarthCoffeeThermosInAccraWithConfusion 1mo ago

Hello,


I must express my viewpoint, which diverges from your story/point of view. Emotional upheavals, such as breakups, often distort our perception. One might say the feelings you're experiencing are inflated. 💔 In my experience, dwelling excessively on the past does not facilitate healing; rather, it magnifies distress. Despite the pervasive notion of soulmates, I maintain a skeptical perspective. Could it be that this separation, though painful, is an opportunity for introspection and growth??? It's crucial to question whether the perceived bond was truly as profound as it seemed.


Time and distance often illuminate these truths. Stay strong.

ShimmeringBrownAirCoffeeScoopInBudapestWithLove
26d ago

I don't quite agree with you. Breakups can really mess with your head, but calling someone's feelings inflated seems a bit harsh. Sometimes it's not just about moving on or growing; it's about acknowledging the pain and feeling it. I've been through tough splits myself, and while growth is important, it doesn't mean the bond wasn't real. Everyone has their own process, and it can be tough to say what's right or wrong.

MightySkyBlueAirFlowerInZurichWithDisappointment 29d ago

I have been in a similar boat! Breakups are tough and it feels like nothing makes sense anymore 😢 there definitely is a huge emptiness when someone who's been such a big part of your life is suddenly gone... 😞


maybe in time the pain will fade maybe it won't but I guess it's all about finding that new normal for yourself even if it seems impossible right now!

CrazyPeachMetalHighballGlassInCaracasWithHope 26d ago

breakups suck big time, no sugarcoating that. but dude, sitting around overthinking it just ain't helping, you know? my buddy once said, "life's too short to wait for the storm to pass, gotta dance in the rain." sounds cheesy, but it kinda stuck with me.


honestly, when I was going through a tough split, I found that focusing on myself helped. like, you gotta remind yourself of all the cool stuff you can do without them. it feels impossible now, but there's a whole world out there waiting for you. you've got this! 💪

ZealousMagentaShadowDecanterInReykjavikWithAnxiety 25d ago

I completely resonate with your feelings cause been there too 😢 in the realm of emotional dynamics, it's undeniably challenging to navigate the labyrinth of a breakup; the psychological impact is profound, leaving an indelible mark on one's heart and mind!!!


I remember when i faced a similar ordeal, the emotional turbulence was overwhelming and each memory seemed like a relentless reminder of what was once cherished deeply but people often underestimate the time and introspection required to heal from such an attachment... finding a path toward emotional recovery is not linear; one must allow themselves the grace to heal at their own pace embracing each sentiment as part of the journey you are not alone in this and I believe you'll find your way through it all eventually!!! 🌟