how to stop loving someone?
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it's so fking hard to stop loving someone, I mean, how the hell do people even manage that, huh? I keep trying to put her out of my mind, erase her from my memories like she’s some software bug I can just uninstall; but it’s not that simple. every damn thing reminds me of her—the smell of cheap perfume on a bus seat, the laugh of some random chick on TikTok, the way a stupid barista smiles at me when she hands me my coffee—it’s all her, always her. I delete photos, block her everywhere, I even tossed her hoodie in the trash; but every time I close my eyes, I see her face like it’s burned into my brain. my therapist says to “accept the loss” and “move on,” but that’s a load of crap. moving on is a f*ing myth. love isn’t a switch you can flip, it’s like a damn virus infecting your whole system, and no amount of blocking or ignoring will make it stop hurting. I keep thinking maybe if I hook up with someone else, it’ll push her out of my head, but all it does is make me feel more empty. and do you ever wonder if you’re broken for feeling this way, like if you’re defective or stuck in some malfunctioning loop of code? it’s pathetic.
I’ve tried rationalizing the situation, using every mental trick I know to reprogram my thoughts, but none of it works. I sit there at night, mind racing like some overclocked processor, looping over every conversation, every fight, every “I love you” she ever whispered, and it’s like I’m trapped in a feedback loop of self-loathing and desperation. I know I should cut ties, reboot my life, and patch up the damn leaks in my emotional firewall, but it feels impossible. how do you purge someone from your mind when every piece of your soul is still clinging to the idea of them? and yeah, maybe I’m overthinking it, maybe I’m making it more complicated than it needs to be, but how do you simplify something so fing complex? the worst part is, even though I know she’s poison, even though I know she’s bad for me, I still crave her like some addict craving a fix. what kind of twisted logic is that? it’s like my own damn heart is working against me, sabotaging every attempt to break free. and you tell me, how do you stop loving someone who was your entire f***ing world?
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dude, i feel ya!!! love is a total glitch in the system, man. ever tried CTRL+ALT+DEL on emotions? doesn't work, right??? i went through the same crap; it’s like your brain is in a never-ending boot loop of heartbreak. so friggin' hard to debug!!! tried blocking, deleting, even ghosting... but nah, she’s still there like malware. 😩😩 sometimes you just wanna hit delete on your heart but nope, it’s still full of error messages. just reminds me when i was stuck simping over someone toxic too, it's like being your own worst enemy!!! right now, you gotta run an emotional antivirus bro but no guarantees, i’m still searching for mine!!! keep ranting, it helps to clear cache sometimes!!! honestly, love is messed up code...
honestly, it sounds like you're entwined in a loop of self-inflicted agony, and while it's understandable to feel overwhelmed by lingering emotions, you might be perpetuating this pattern by dwelling excessively on the past; maybe try focusing on recalibrating your perspective instead. breakups, while challenging, serve as an opportunity for personal growth and emotional evolution. what's important here is not to see love as some insurmountable bug in your system but as an experience that adds layers to who you are. yes, detaching can be arduous, but distancing yourself from the belief that she was your entire world might help recalibrate your psyche. it's plausible that the hurt is exaggerated by cognitive distortions; perhaps redirecting your emotional responses could assist in repairing those fragmented pieces gradually. keep in mind that emotional resilience takes time and practice, so don't rush the debugging process of your heart.
man, i totally get it, heartbreak is a tough circuit to cut. love does feel like that "virus" you mentioned, spreading through all your thoughts. when i was stuck in that cycle, everything seemed like a reminder too. it's like your mind's stuck in a bad loop. "moving on" is really hard, no lie. sometimes it helps to just acknowledge the feelings and let them run their course. at the end of the day, it's about finding a way to reboot and pull yourself out of those patterns. hang in there, things do get better eventually. 👍
absolutely get what you're saying, love definitely feels like a "damn virus" that you can't control. it’s wild how it lingers everywhere, affecting all your thoughts and feelings. been there myself, and it's a real struggle deleting someone from your heart's hard drive; "moving on is a myth"—i feel that. every little thing can be a painful reminder, and it takes time to heal from that. just know that you're not alone, and many of us are debugging the same emotional system. hang in there, it does eventually get better. 😊
i hear what you're saying, but i kind of disagree with the idea that "moving on is a f*ing myth." while it definitely feels overwhelming, and yes, love can seem like this unremovable virus, people do find ways to heal and move forward; it's just not an overnight process!!! when i was going through something similar, i realized that trying to delete every memory wasn't really productive. instead, i focused on making new memories and finding things i enjoyed. sometimes the heart just needs time to catch up with what the brain already knows, you know? sure, it's a tough process, but growth comes from these experiences. just don't underestimate the power of time and self-reflection.
honestly, i get that love feels like this overwhelming virus in your system, but saying "moving on is a f*ing myth" doesn't cut it for me. sure, it sucks big time, and it feels endless, but making it sound impossible is giving yourself an excuse to stay stuck. i’ve been through it, dude, and while it ain’t easy, it’s definitely doable. the more you dwell on the past, the more power you give those memories. it’s like keeping an old app open that just drains your battery. instead of trying to wipe everything out, maybe try focusing on the present and what's next. sounds cliche, but it's better than running an emotional hamster wheel.
man, i feel you on this one, love's the ultimate glitch in the heart system. been there, felt like my head was just stuck in a loop and couldn’t hack my way out. deleting pics and tossing stuff helps a bit, but honestly??? it’s still like a ghost haunting every corner of your mind. your therapist saying "accept the loss" is easier said than done, right? feels like total BS sometimes. tried the hookup thing too, just left me feeling emptier like a hollow shell; you’re not broken for feeling this way, it’s a f’d up ride we all go through. hang in there. 💔
i completely understand where you're coming from, and your feelings are totally valid!!! love can really mess with your system, and it’s tough when every little thing triggers memories of someone you want to forget. those reminders feel relentless, but remember, it's okay to take your time in healing. while love feels like a virus sometimes, time allows your heart to find its way back to you; believe in the process, and you'll get through this! keep your head up and be kind to yourself! you're stronger than you think. 😊💪
i hear you, love really can feel like an impossible bug that just won't go away. your description of trying to erase her like deleting a program is spot on; ever wonder if the mind is more like a stubborn hard drive that refuses to clear space? "every damn thing reminds me of her," and that just hits home. when it happened to me, it was like every song on the radio turned into a reminder. ever thought about using those triggers to create new memories instead of fighting them? it's tough, though, and takes time. hang in there, healing is a process. 💔
man, love really is a messed up virus in your system. definitely get the struggle of trying to uninstall those memories; they cling like malware. why does everything gotta remind you of her? your brain seriously won't let up, right? when my relationship crashed, felt like my heart was its own worst hacker, sabotaging every move to reboot. have you considered if maybe those memories are morphing into something new eventually? hang in there, it'll get better. 😒
i get it, love feels like a virus that’s hard to shake, but i think saying moving on is a complete myth is a bit harsh. sure, it's a battle, and probably stupid hard, but eventually you kinda start getting over it. when i went through my breakup, everything reminded me of them too; it was like my brain was playing tricks on me. but with time, those reminders started fading, and new stuff took their place. don't get me wrong, it took ages, and some stuff still lingers, but bit by bit, it gets less overwhelming. maybe rather than trying to delete all those memories, try making new ones that don't involve her. could be worth a shot. 😅