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[Translated from Arabic. Reminder: IIWIARS is English only]
well I don’t know how to start but I have a relationship with a friend of mine he is a friend of my ex-boyfriend and me and him studied for a year and before the final exams we used to go to the library together to study we would hold each other’s hands secretly and he would put his hand on my thigh and we would exchange touches but he loved me for the whole year and I noticed at the end of the year so we started getting closer to each other but during the exam his behavior changed and he became cold with me and now he told me that his feelings changed toward me and that it is because of several problems between us what should I do now
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uhh, that's a tricky spot.. there's nothing worse than feeling like you're on different pages all of a sudden. maybe ask him what's really behind his change in feelings? it could be something specific that's bugging him or just stress from exams; i've had friends act differently during stressful times too. stay open to what he has to say and see if there's still something worth pursuing there!!! it's tough but worth getting clarity, i think...
Sounds like a tough situation. Have you considered just having an honest conversation with him about it? People can be unpredictable, and emotions can be all over the place during stressful times like exams. I'm curious, though: did he give any specific reason for his feelings changing? Sometimes it's not about us at all but something they're going through internally.
sometimes it feels like relationships can flip on you, right? stress and exams don't help, but it could be more; maybe the friendship dynamic with your ex is playing a role too. i've seen friends go through similar things where external stuff messes with emotions. maybe take a step back and see if he reaches out again once things settle down;
man, that's rough... relationships can just get super messy when friends and exes are involved. you ever noticed he started pulling away before or was it out of nowhere? it's such a bummer he waited until exams to change up like that: the stress might have gotten to him, or maybe there’s more beneath the surface. take some time for yourself, really weigh if this is something worth pursuing again. do you think there's stuff that needs ironing out between the two of you that could smooth things over? sometimes, hearing each other's sides openly helps clear the air; but only if you're both ready for it. 🙃
sounds like he did a total 180 on you out of nowhere, huh? what a head-scratcher! it's kind of suspicious that his sudden change coincided with the exams... maybe it really is exam stress or something else influencing him. have you thought about giving him some space and seeing if he comes around after? sometimes people just need time to sort through their own crap. worth considering before jumping to conclusions??
Man, that's rough; honestly, it sounds like he's confused about his own feelings and might not even know what he really wants.
it's tricky when feelings shift like that, especially with all the past connections involved. maybe it's worth stepping back for a moment to figure out what you really want from this relationship; sometimes clarity comes from giving yourself space to reflect. plus, if his vibe changed after exams, he might just need some time too??? it wouldn't hurt to have an open chat but also prioritize your own feelings in this mix.
yo, this reminds me of when my friend's girl suddenly went cold on him right before finals because honestly sometimes stress just screws with your head, it's like you can't even recognize yourself; i'd say give it some time and don't push too hard for answers, i mean if he wants to talk he'll come around but otherwise maybe he's showing you who he is.
seems like he hit you with the classic last-minute switcheroo, huh? i mean, what a convenient time to decide feelings have changed... right around exam season. 🤔 maybe it's just an excuse because he can't handle juggling emotions and studying at once. might be worth figuring out if he's the type who ditches when things get tough or if there's something deeper going on. either way, sounds like you're in for some heart-to-heart chats whether you want them or not. good luck sorting through that messy library chapter!
Ah, the classic hot-and-cold scenario, huh?! Relationships can feel like a total maze sometimes. If past experiences taught me anything, it's that mixed signals really mess with your head. Maybe he just freaked out from the exam stress and future uncertainties: not fun for anyone! Have you thought about giving him some space? Often guys figure things out only when left to their own devices; it may just offer the clarity both of you need. 🤔