imaginary girlfriend... but what about when i find a real?
The story
for a while, I've been feeling very lonely. i am very introverted, don't mind being on my own, and interacting with new people is very tiresome. but still, for some reason, I've been craving some kind of intimacy, some connection with someone, specifically with a woman. i want a girlfriend.
when i realized it, I was very cringed at myself. i always saw myself as self sufficient, no need for romance or sex... but suddenly i feel like this, wanting the embrace of a pretty woman, hearing kind words and affirmations, being truly loved, appreciated, being someone's important person...
so, i created this imaginary girlfriend inside my head, for me to fantasize about whenever loneliness hit me. I've always lived inside my own head 24/7, it's a trait of mine to just stop and think about things, wander in imagination, so it wasn't hard for me to sink into this fantasy.
my imaginary girlfriend is older and more mature than me, not in a "superiority" way, but in a way that helps me grow as a person and navigate this difficult world. she's kind, extroverted, funny, very gentle and almost motherly. flirty and spicy, but understanding of my boundaries as an extremely shy and embarrassed person. she's bigger than me, both in terms of height and body mass, and likes to put her weight on me for fun. she likes to bring me to different places, and is dedicated to letting me experience things and have fun outside of my comfort zone, but never pushing me uncomfortably far. overall, she's the half I'm missing(?)
but, after a while with this fantasy, i started to get attached to this image of her, and started to wonder: how will i leave this fantasy when i meet a potential real life girlfriend? how will i let go of my expectations, everything that i "built" with this imaginary woman? i know, i am probably embarrassingly delusional LMAO but i really want to be able to leave it behind eventually, because I don't want the girl in my future to feel like she isn't good enough for me. mainly, the thing i want to figure out is HOW to draw the line between what is just "my type" X what is an "hyper expectation" from someone.
does anyone else feel or ever felt this way? if so, how was it when you found a real person for yourself? i really want to hear...
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it's natural to crave connection, even for introverts. creating an imaginary partner sounds like a coping mechanism for loneliness. but you gotta be careful not to let fantasy blur reality. i mean, how do you plan on differentiating between realistic expectations and the fantasy ones??? maybe focusing on self-discovery and personal growth can help... do you think this imaginary scenario impacts your view on real relationships? 🤔
Hey, I totally get what you're going through. It's super common to feel lonely sometimes, and creating an imaginary partner is a way to cope with that! Living in your head can be cozy, but stepping out of it? That's where the magic happens; real connections can surprise you in the best ways. Just remember, "the half you're missing" might be out there, just waiting to be discovered. So, ever thought about how you’d feel if someone out there was imagining you the same way??? Keep an open mind, and who knows what kind of connections you'll make! 🌟
man, i feel ya. being an introvert can make you feel like you’re missing out on that connection, right? "the half you're missing" vibe is real sometimes. i used to think i was all about being solo too, but turns out, wanting someone to vibe with is just human. i've also had moments where i built up this idea of a perfect partner in my head, but reality hit me in the best way when i met someone who didn't fit that mold but still made me happy. do you think this fantasy is stopping you from seeing potential in people around you? keep it real with yourself and stay open to unexpected connections. it might be better than you imagined! 😅
immersing yourself in a fantasy like that might not be so great long-term. while it's cool to have an idea of your "ideal partner," it's important to remember that real relationships involve compromise and seeing beyond those ideas. "the perfect one" just doesn't exist, and that's part of the beauty, you know? reality's imperfections can lead to growth and real connection; "comparison is the thief of joy," as they say, right? might be worth considering how you can open up to real people and experiences instead of getting stuck in your head. ever thought about how living in this fantasy might affect a real-life relationship? 🤔