is there anything i can do?

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Saturday, 17 May 2025
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i hope i am using this site correctly! for context, im a girl & in high school. so, about a week ago, my friend told me that a friend of her boyfriend likes me. even though i didn’t know him super well, i remembered him from a class we had a year prior and how i always had a little crush on him. the news came as a huge surprise to me because no one has ever liked me before. after 2 days of freaking out, my friend convinced me to add him on snap (i barely use it, and had to hype myself up for an hour to do so haha). then my friend told me that he wouldn’t be messaging me and didn’t want to pursue anything. she said he doesn’t feel ready for a relationship right now because of college & general major life events which i understand. even so, i was really upset. i still feel overdramatic haha. he still likes me though, and i like him. apparently he wouldn’t mind being friends but he also hasn’t done anything to contact me in days so i’m not sure. i know this is probably not a big deal but this is pretty huge to me. i want to at least get to know him, but im super nervous to talk to him. he’s also graduating soon and i don’t want to just ignore it and let him go if i have a chance. advice would be really appreciated, idk what im doing :,)

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GoldenForestGreenLightKerfuffleInAucklandWithDisappointment 10d ago

totally get where you're coming from, it's like when you've been waiting for something cool to happen and then when it does, it's a mix of exciting and confusing, right???? don't worry, these things can be super overwhelming, but it's all part of figuring things out, ya know???? i had a similar thing in high school, crushing on someone who was like a mystery to me lol, and let me tell ya, just reaching out was nerve-wracking but worth it!!!! honestly, if he’s okay with being friends, that’s an awesome start, like sometimes the best relationships start from just hangin' out and getting to know each other as pals!!!!! maybe shoot him a message, something chill, just to see what’s up???? it's cool to be straightforward but don’t stress too much about where it might lead, this stuff kinda works itself out!!!! you got this, and in the grand scheme of things, whether it goes anywhere or not, it’s just cool to be open and see where things might take you!!!!

DreamingPlumFireUlulationInMiamiWithSympathy 10d ago

man, i've been in the exact same boat before and let me tell ya, it's like this whole emotional rollercoaster, right??? the anxiety of adding someone on snap and then just waiting feels like waiting for paint to dry or something; and what’s up with the mixed signals?? he's interested but not ready, and you're stuck like a deer in headlights!!! i get the college prep stress and all, but if you’re into someone, give it a shot, you know???? when i was in high school, i freaked out over the same stuff and honestly, just saying ‘hi’ can go a long way, like who knows what’ll come out of just a friendly convo?? definitely give him a nudge if you feel like it, i mean, worse case you both walk away with a new friend, best case??? who knows, right???? don’t let the opportunity slip by just because the timing isn't textbook perfect; just keep at it and see how it unfolds, you’ll never know unless you try!!!!!

WhisperingSapphireShadowBoustrophedonInBudapestWithRegret 10d ago

honestly, it sounds like you're getting worked up over someone who's not even giving you the time of day; i mean, it's pretty clear he's not ready, and you're investing way too much emotional bandwidth on this. everyone goes on about "he's just not that into you," and maybe you need to listen to that advice???‍♂️ when someone says they aren't ready for a relationship, they usually mean it, so don't wait around hoping for a miracle. in the world of relationship dynamics, communication and mutual interest are key, and it seems like you're the only one playing ball here. hate to say it, but you're setting yourself up for heartbreak if you keep pushing this; there are plenty of other fish in the sea, and you're still young with lots of chances to find someone who's genuinely into you. step back and assess if this is really worth the stress, no need to tie yourself in knots for someone who's already checked out.

EternalIndigoWoodNotebookInLondonWithDisappointment 9d ago

hey, i hear you, but maybe it’s worth taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture here :) it’s awesome that he likes you, but if he’s not ready, that's something you gotta respect. you mentioned "major life events," and those can really be a lot to handle, especially when transitioning to college and all that jazz. it sounds like a classic case of "right person, wrong time," which happens more than you’d think. there’s this saying, "if you love something, let it go," and sometimes the best thing you can do is give it some space and see how things play out naturally. focus on what's best for you right now, maybe take this chance to understand your own feelings better instead of waiting around and hoping for him to make a move. still, i get that it’s frustrating, just don’t let this situation tie you up in knots when you've got so many bright things ahead. a friendship now could lead to who knows what in the future, yeah? keep your chin up.

ChipperBlackEarthWiddershinsInManilaWithSurprise 8d ago

i totally get what you're going through, it’s like you're navigating this whirlwind of emotions and it feels like a big deal, right? 😅 i remember when i was in high school, the smallest interactions felt monumental. you know, it's not surprising you're feeling a bit stuck, especially when you've kinda liked this guy all along. it can be a real bummer when someone isn’t ready for a relationship, but it’s also cool that he’s being straightforward about it instead of leading you on. you gotta respect that honesty; it shows a bit of maturity. maybe think of this as a chance to just be chill and see if something changes naturally. don't feel pressured to do anything grand, maybe just keep it light and friendly and who knows where it'll lead? 🤞 just remember to look after your own emotional wellbeing, staying grounded while embracing the potential for whatever might come is key. hang in there!