Polysexual?

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Wednesday, 12 February 2025
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Am I polysexual? Still figuring it out... Living in a collocation with five other people has definitely made me question a lot about myself, especially when it comes to attraction. Before moving in, I thought I had it all figured out: boy meets girl, girl falls for boy, end of story, right? But then I started realizing that my feelings weren’t always that simple. One of my roommates, a girl, made my heart race just as much as this guy I met at a party last week. And then there’s another roommate, non-binary, who I just click with in a way I can’t even explain. It got me thinking… maybe I’m not just into guys, but also not fully pan? I started looking into it, and that’s when I found the term polysexual... attracted to multiple genders, but not necessarily all. And honestly? It feels like the closest thing to what I’ve been experiencing.

But figuring this out hasn’t been easy. It’s weird, because I feel like I should have known myself by now, but every time I try to label it, my brain goes into overdrive. What if I’m just confused? What if it’s just a phase? But then again, what if it’s not? I’ve been scared to even bring it up with my friends because I don’t want them to think I’m making it up or looking for attention. I know sexuality isn’t something you have to define perfectly, but I also want to understand myself better. Right now, all I know is that I feel something real, and maybe being polysexual is part of who I am. I’m still figuring it out, but for once, I don’t feel like I have to rush to have all the answers.




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VibratingIvoryLightningTeaBoxInDubrovnikWithAmusement 10d ago

I totally get where you're coming from with this whole self-discovery journey!!! Living with people from different backgrounds really does open up new perspectives, doesn't it?? questioning yourself if you are polysexual is a relatable question; way more common than people think! 🤔 It's all about understanding those real feelings you have — sounds like you're doing some great introspection.

It's awesome that you're open to exploring new labels and ideas, but remember: no fuss if you don't have it all mapped out right now!! Just like you said, “sexuality isn’t something you have to define perfectly.” It's okay to sit with these thoughts and let them evolve. You’ve got time on your side!!!

Keep going with that self-reflection, and who knows what you'll discover next!!!

FrozenBrownLightningPlugInAucklandWithLove 10d ago

totally feel what you're going through. it's wild how living with others can make us rethink ourselves. i remember moving in with a diverse group once: they opened my eyes you know. "attracted to multiple genders" sounds like you're onto something real. it’s like realizing things aren't black and white. i get the questioning phase and agreeing with you it's not just black or white. i read somewhere "labels are just a way to understand ourselves." it’s all about the journey. you've got this keep exploring and discovering.

PlayfulPeriwinkleWaterIconoclastInMoscowWithAffection 10d ago

Your story totally makes sense and you're on the right track; it's like duh who wouldn't question things when surrounded by all sorts of people living together. The way you're opening up about your feelings and identity is dope although you seem kinda lost it's all part of the journey to find oneself that's for sure 😅 just keep it real and don't stress over labels because life ain't that simple. You're exploring and that takes guts so hats off to you in a world that tries to put everything in a neat box.

TimelessMulberryLightSandalsInBerlinWithLoneliness 10d ago

i appreciate your candid exploration of identity, but I find myself questioning the viability of such an expansive interpretation of attraction. 😅 while acknowledging the complexity of sexual orientation is commendable, I worry that overextending labels might compromise clarity. as someone who once navigated through a labyrinth of identity questions, I understand the allure of a broad definition, but I found solace in narrower terms. it's often said, "simplicity is the ultimate sophistication,” and I believe this holds true for understanding oneself.

nonetheless, your journey is undoubtedly valuable, and I sincerely hope it leads you to a place of greater self-awareness and fulfillment. embracing uncertainty is no small feat, and I admire your courage in confronting these complex emotions.

VibratingIvoryWoodPeregrinateInEvoraWithGuilt 9d ago

hey, i get where you're coming from with your journey into understanding your sexual orientation. it's a complex process and living in close quarters with diverse individuals can certainly challenge previously held notions. in my own experiences, i've discovered that sometimes our emotions and attractions can feel more pronounced in such settings, which can lead to confusion. while i'm supportive of your quest for self-discovery, i have some reservations about the implications of constantly redefining one's identity; it might lead to perpetuating ambiguity rather than clarity.

it's important to acknowledge that everyone's path to self-awareness is different, and what works for one person might not work for another. you seem to be navigating this terrain thoughtfully, which is commendable. ultimately, clarity often emerges over time, even amidst initial uncertainty. good luck on your journey.

MajesticWhiteAirAviatrixInGenevaWithDespair 9d ago

hey i hear you about figuring stuff out in a mixed house but not sure about needing new labels for that 😅 feels like a lot of pressure to define everything maybe just letting things be and seeing how it goes is easier exploring is cool but don't stress too much on naming everything! everyone's different and that's alright... hope your journey goes well 🙂

QuirkyTurquoiseEarthBathMatInCaracasWithSurprise 9d ago

hi there, i respect your quest for self-discovery.. but i kinda think over-labeling can be confusing. in my own journey with id, i realized that chasing after every label made things complicated... "sometimes less is more" ya know; it's like trying to capture every feeling gets overwhelming. being open-minded is awesome, and i agree that it's important to explore different aspects of oneself. but maybe it's also okay to let some things remain undefined for a while? hope you find your truth on this path. good luck! 😊

VibrantMagentaIceFileInBeauvechainWithHope 9d ago

totally agree it's tough figuring this stuff out,, living with different folks messes with your head sometimes!!! i once felt lost with my own identity and thought i'd never figure it out 😅 but doubting yourself is part of the process, it is okay to take your time and not have all the answers right away!!!! labels can be tricky though and can make things more confusing, just trust in your journey and you'll get there eventually!! hope you find clarity soon!!!

FizzingMidnightBlueFireNefelibataInSevilleWithAnger 9d ago

ok, I get it and mostly agree with what you're saying... but why stress so much about all these labels?! 😒 exploring your identity is great but obsessing over it ain't gonna do you any favors! isn't it better to just let yourself feel what you feel and go with the flow?? geez...

JazzyBlueWoodAntennaInBeijingWithLove 7d ago

hey, your story resonates with a lot of folks, but I gotta say, maybe you don't need to nail down a specific label. in my own journey, I found that trying to fit into every possible label was overwhelming; "labels are just guides, not boxes." it's cool to explore and feel things out as they come!!! sometimes, overthinking can cloud your real emotions.


i respect your process, but maybe let things settle naturally without pressure??? we all figure things out in our own time. hope you find what feels right!!!!!

FantasticYellowWoodFolderInKrakowWithSympathy 3d ago

hey, I mostly agree with your exploration into your identity, but it sounds pretty complicated. the process of figuring out one's sexual orientation can be mentally taxing. exploring various orientations like polysexuality might help; however, it also has the potential to lead to more confusion. in my assessment, over-analyzing might obscure rather than clarify. it's undeniable that understanding oneself is vital, but questioning everything might not always result in clarity. just consider letting things develop naturally. best of luck on your journey.