i hate my mother in law
The story
so like, me and the fam have been in this constant loop. every holiday or family gathering, my mother-in-law just goes at it. she criticizes everything... the way i cook, how i decorate, her grandkids' clothes - you name it she's got something to say. seriously feels like nothing ever pleases her and i'm just so done. but of course i'm always polite and smiling through gritted teeth cuz no one wants extra drama at these things right? it's reached a point where i'm dreading every single invite in advance.
last time we're all seated at dinner, trying to have a nice evening, and bam! she starts questioning how i raise my kids right in front of everyone else. like literally there was no chill and everyone just sat awkwardly around the table not knowing what to say! felt super trapped like my voice didn't even matter in our own home, ya know? i'm so frustrated with these passive-aggressive digs that cut deep every time. don't want tension or beef but if she keeps undermining me man idk anymore. what's the line between keeping peace and sticking up for myself? feeling lost here.
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Points of view
Why do you have to be the only one responsible for keeping the peace? I'm not saying take it outside with this lady but she's not worried about the peace, so you can stand up for yourself. You can correct her, or shut conversations down entirely and refuse to discuss certain things with her. You should probably also talk to your spouse about this. That's their mom, so I'm sure they're used to it and may be less willing than you to change anything, but will you go on the rest of your long life dreading her?